The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

69chick

AvaNother wrote: »

ps. still on 2af last night had too much feeling it a bit today but not too bad....will bed drinking tonight but fingers crossed not tomorrow....

Had to read that ps quite a few times to work out what 'bed drinking' was!!!

Yeah 'bed drinking' um have done that too...tis where I often drink watching tv or on the puter but seems a bit weird really when you think about it lol....ok, so I will 'be drinking' tonight, tis my turn to get up with the kids tomorrow so will try to keep moderate

Jo, that is mad in your school then...hope that little boy will be ok xx good luck for staying moderate this weekend x

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all

Am on 2 for this month so far please Jo

I'm ashamed to say I did not resist the half bottle in the fridge the other day. Drank that then moved onto another bottle. Think I reached my lowest that night. I got very ugly and nasty towards OH. Ashamed to say I even made him pack a bag. Long story but OH hurt very badly by previous wife and I KNOW that the idea of being thrown out of his home is the worst thing that I could do to him.

Luckily I came to my senses (sobered up) in time to stop things. What possessed me to act that way I don't know. Well, I do. The drink.

So I know a decision has to be made. Alcohol or my family. And I know what I chose. The thought of losing my family is devastating. I know now its all or nothing. So from now on I HAVE to say I'm a non-drinker. Just can't afford the fallout that happens each time I go overboard.

Sorry to sound so serious on a Saturday morning (and a sunny one at that!!). I'm actually feeling quite happy now. I know what I need to do and I can get on with enjoying my life.

So today we are making up a massive picnic and are taking Piglet to a country park that has paddling pools, play areas etc. Looking forward to it....may even have a paddle myself!!!

Will catch up on earlier posts later today. Hope everyone is ok?

Miss P
xx

jo1972

I've always kept it a secret, nobody notices. I know OH would say something if I thought I'd been drinking. I remember when my DD2 was 10 months old, I walked into the room with a beer, he said that that was the second day in a row I'd had a drink and did I have a problem. I didn't tell him that I had drunk every day in the last 10 months since I was pregnant. They just don't notice as I don't drink to black out anymore so it's not as noticable I guess

jo1972

Good for you Miss P and good luck my dear xx

Lurkio

69chick wrote: »

Lurkio, why don't you just adjust your target slightly as we are right at the beginning...I know how last month when I was too ambitious I wished I had set a slightly lower level to motivate me more...

I don't think jo would let me

Enjoy the zoo.

jo1972 wrote: »

Morning all

So Lurky, how many AF days you on then? I know we're only at the 4th of the month but I'm confused already :rolleyes:

Just the one so far SHould start racking them up from Sunday (minus Tuesday, when I'm seeing a guy I was at school with :eek:)

(((hugs))) to Budgie if she's lurking

:wave: to everyone else. Another hot one.... can you believe some idiots go running in this weather

Wanna_Bee_Free

Hi everyone, still on 2/16. Drank a bottle of wine last night and my stomach is not happy today. Feel a bit bleary. Really enjoyed it at the time.

Today will be AF.

Hugs to Miss Piggy, welcome to XXXJo

jo1972

Lurkio wrote: »

I don't think jo would let me

If you really want to I will change it :rolleyes:

Lurkio wrote: »

can you believe some idiots go running in this weather

Lurks, the weather doesn't increase or decrease the stupidness of running , you're all nuts whatever the weather imho of course

AvaNother

Good luck being a 'non-drinker' Miss Piggy - if its something you feel you have to do, then I'm sure you'll be able to do it. Hope you have a lovely day out

RecoveringAlcoholic

I'm going to see Madonna tomorrow at the 02

Jealous. Would like to have gone but couln't afford the tickets.

I have never actually been to a concert sober so it would have been a new experience.

There is currently a MJ memorial stand at the entrance in case you want to take flowers, candles, cards, monkeys or llamas.

Remember that we deal with alcohol,

cunning, baffling, powerful!

graemecarter

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I'm ashamed to say I did not resist the half bottle in the fridge the other day. Drank that then moved onto another bottle. Think I reached my lowest that night. I got very ugly and nasty towards OH. Ashamed to say I even made him pack a bag. Long story but OH hurt very badly by previous wife and I KNOW that the idea of being thrown out of his home is the worst thing that I could do to him.

Don't forget this episode. Forgive yourself, though it is important not to forget the pain and suffering we cause others through drinking. This helps the resolve not to go there again. Also remember the sorrow, regret and remorse you feel today. Surely no-one wants to feel that way.

Luckily I came to my senses (sobered up) in time to stop things. What possessed me to act that way I don't know. Well, I do. The drink.

We behave differently with drink inside us. I did things when drunk that I would never contemplate doing sober. Things I feel were not 'me' if you know what I mean

So I know a decision has to be made. Alcohol or my family. And I know what I chose. The thought of losing my family is devastating. I know now its all or nothing. So from now on I HAVE to say I'm a non-drinker. Just can't afford the fallout that happens each time I go overboard.

So often, alcohol wins over family for many, and they don't realise until it is too late. You are very aware, which is great, and realise that you lose your family if you carry on drinking. In the cold light of day, that is a no-brainer.
You have to say you are a non-drinker, and actually try and believe you are too. The best way to do this is not pick up that first drink. The first drink gets you drunk. Non-drinkers do not drink. Ever. They just don't do it. No special allowances for weddings, bad days at work etc. Non-drinkers do not put alcohol in their bodies.

Saturday morning (and a sunny one at that!!). I'm actually feeling quite happy now. I know what I need to do and I can get on with enjoying my life.

Good for you Miss P - you feel better already for making the decision for abstention.
Alcohol compounds life's problems. When the alcohol is not present, you can concentrate on changing yourself, and thus make life easier.