The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

PRICE_IS_RIGHT_2

Hi everybody

Great to meet you, GP - regarding the bike, I know this is the wrong thread, but I always find Trading Standards brilliant help when I have consumer problems. :cool:

Must get on, working tonight on my latest project. I couldn't get down to it today, I kept checking this thread (my latest addiction) and sorting various things out for my children (I'm definitely their PA).

Have a good evening everybody.

Pippilongstocking

Hi all

Just out of my PhD hell to say hi

I am all the days of the month less the one my evil brother turned up on

Hope you area ll good

HI GP- hope all OK - waves hello again

40somethingmum

Evening all:hello:

Day 1 is going as planned - no wine bells - so all good in the 40SM household :T


The latest results in are :

THE JUNE ALCOHOL FREE CHALLENGE

Let’s do something different instead

MEMBERS COMMITTED TO OUR JUNE CHALLENGE ARE AS FOLLOWS :

1 – Miss Piggy Target af days for June: 30, Actual 14 (Come back soon)
2 – 115K Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 5
3 - WBF Target af days for June is: 14, Actual 8
4 – Jo1972 Target af days for June: 0 Actual 22:j:T (Well Done)
5 - YM Target af days for June is: 0, Actual 6
6 - Bhb Target of af days for June is: 30, Actual 16
7 -netttie Target af days for June is: 26, Actual 18
8 - Different Corner af days for June is: 30, Actual 21
9 - Eselt Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 22:T
10 -Fayjmck Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 21
11 - Fedupski Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 18
12 - Fluffyb Target af days for June is: 10 Actual 13:T:T
13 - Maman Target af day is for June is: 10 Actual 7
14 - Orchid Target af days June is: 24, Actual 12
15 – PIR af days for June is: 26 Actual 19
16 – Sparky0107 af days June is: 10, Actual af days 4
17 - Lurkio Target af days for June is: 20, Actual 13
18 - Lillibet D Target af days for June is: 10 Actual: ?
19 - Winebox Target af for June is: 10 Actual 6
20 - Mackeroo Target af days for June is: 15 Actual ?
21 - 40SM Target af days for June is: 30, Actual 9
22 - Maz123 Target af days for June is: ?, Actual 17:T
23 – Ageing biker Target af days June is 22, Actual ?
24 - MollyPolly Target af days for June is: 30 Actual 22:T:j
25 - Glasgowgirl Target af days for June is: 16 Actual 6
26 - Nelski Target af days for June is:? Actual ?
27 - Ntc Target af days for June is:?, Actual ?
28 - Noynoy Target af days for June is: ?, Actual 0
29 - Badger Target af days for June is: 20 Actual ?
30 - Openscreen Target af days for June is: ? Actual 0
31 - Pariskate Target af days for June is: 20, Actual 2
32 – Annie_d Target af days for June is: 0 Actual 8
33 - BB Target af days for June is: 23, Actual 18 ( missing you already)
34 - Stroppy Target af days for June is: 8 Actual 1
35 - Sleepyjo Target af days for June is: ?, Actual 0
36 - Escapism Target af days for June is 8, Actual ?
37 – Time2growup Target af days for June 16, Actual 16:T:j
38 – Hopeful34 Target af days for June 20, Actual 13
39 – Biglass target af days For June 15, Actual 3
40- ForeverHopeful Target af for June 2. Actual 2


Have a lovely evening everyone.

40SM

orchid-96

Thanks 40sm for the update hun..no wine bells for me either after all..thought there might be as if I have had a few days drinking my first af day is usually hard, but not today...(still feeling a bit rough though)..

Only just got all the kids asleep so off now to get a brew and my double decker....

115K enjoy your 'celeb' mags, they always make me laugh how they put headlines on the front that don't match the story at all but just get you to buy them....I read one the other day that said on the front 'Britney wants to be a teacher' and in the story (quotes from a friend) it said at one point 'britney has said in the past how maybe she would be better off quitting showbusines and being a teacher or something) not exactly registering herself on a teacher training course then :rotfl:

Have a good evening all x

eselt

Hi all- welcome back GP, we've missed you.

Congrats Jo...now get off the thread and do your application NOW.

I've had a dreadful sweet tooth since I gave up drinking, the only way I have found of not eating nine double deckers a night is to drink that options chocolate drink, and even then it doesn't really hit the spot.

Good luck tonight everyone.

jo1972

Okay, feel bad now

Please take all the well dones back cos I fooked up.....had a couple of bottles of Becks that are still in my kitchen since before xmas (didn't check the date :undecided), just went on autopilot

Sat outside the shop for an eternity and talked myself out of it, decided to stay sober (even sung a song to myself on the way home about staying sober and how great it all is :rolleyes:), then came straight in and went straight to the stash without giving myself time to think :mad:

Never mind, onwards and upwards, onto the coffee now cos it's not as nice as I remembered, feel a bit cloudy now and want my bed, anyone'd think I'd had a skinful!!

Anyways, 40SM, take me back a day please, or leave it and I'll catch up tomorrow

Sorry guys....

40somethingmum

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jo1972 wrote: »

Okay, feel bad now

Please take all the well dones back cos I fooked up.....had a couple of bottles of Becks that are still in my kitchen since before xmas (didn't check the date :undecided), just went on autopilot

Sat outside the shop for an eternity and talked myself out of it, decided to stay sober (even sung a song to myself on the way home about staying sober and how great it all is :rolleyes:), then came straight in and went straight to the stash without giving myself time to think :mad:

Never mind, onwards and upwards, onto the coffee now cos it's not as nice as I remembered, feel a bit cloudy now and want my bed, anyone'd think I'd had a skinful!!

Anyways, 40SM, take me back a day please, or leave it and I'll catch up tomorrow

Sorry guys....

Jo . I will repeat it again and again WELL DONE :T:T

So you have had a bit of a blip but hey 21 days is fantastic - what is a day between friends ? . I will keep the 22 days up as I am sure you will get there tomorrow.

Sleep well

40SM

orchid-96

Hey Jo, just move on from it and like 40sm said WELL DONE don't feel that you have messed up its like with dieting they always say if you have a bad day don't think you have undone everything you live and learn hun.
and at least now those beers are not in the house anymore and no longer shouting at you from the kitchen...:whistle:

Please just don't beat yourself up about it and give yourself the credit you deserve for how well you have done xxx

Wanna_Bee_Free

That's 10/14 for me now please.

Weekend was a bit heavier drink wise than expected. Sober today though.

Hugs to those that need 'em and sleep well all.

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

Okay, feel bad now

Please don't feel bad - you cannot change what just happened. Your progress up until now has been great

jo1972 wrote: »

Please take all the well dones back cos I fooked up.....had a couple of bottles of Becks that are still in my kitchen since before xmas (didn't check the date :undecided), just went on autopilot

When I used to say 'I was on autopilot' and 'I don't know how I started but I ended up having a few beers' I was being dishonest with myself. I may not have given it much thought because I didn't want to, but the fact I poured drink down my throat was a decision I made. Albeit a bad decision, but I take responsiblity for it.

Sat outside the shop for an eternity and talked myself out of it, decided to stay sober (even sung a song to myself on the way home about staying sober and how great it all is :rolleyes:), then came straight in and went straight to the stash without giving myself time to think :mad:

So many people relapse on 'fook it' moments, and they think it all happens very quickly. However, when they look back, they see it has been building up to it for a while. Honesty, self-awareness and reflection are useful here.
A lot of time, we don't know WHY we did it, and need direction to help us see

Never mind, onwards and upwards, onto the coffee now cos it's not as nice as I remembered, feel a bit cloudy now and want my bed, anyone'd think I'd had a skinful!!

Onwards and upwards indeed. You have to look at the triggers you faced today, and honestly ask yourself why you really felt like a drink. A couple of days ago you were so positive. Try and figure out what happened. This is not to punish you, but to ensure you are more in tune with your emotions and motivations and stronger the next time you are sitting outside the shop.

Sorry guys....

There is no-one you need to apologise to, not even yourself. I am sure you are being too hard on yourself as it is
Re-read your posts over the last week - they were so joyous. You want that again I imagine. You can achieve it - you were saying you had quit drinking. You need that mindset again.
I have kept a seat warm for you on the wagon, and we miss your company. Back on please!!