The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

Lurkio

winebox wrote: »

I had a v dodgy email - you know the sort - in work today from "Lurker" - you found me Lurky? :rotfl:

no no no no no no honest

jo - hang in there hun..... dig your heels in! Them bells AINT GONNA WIN!!!!

barshamhillbilly

Having my prescribed beer tonight - weekend is here

Jo - don't give in !!!!!! :eek:

Legs aching tonight - biked to work...... 5 miles !!!

Luckily Mrs BHB swung past in the car just as I finished as we had to take dd2 to guitar lesson in Norwich, so I didn't have to ride back .... will have to go and get the bike tomorrow

Starving now ...whats for tea ?

BHB
xx

PRICE_IS_RIGHT_2

Hi all

Just nipping in to report my 17 AFDs, pls, 40SM.

Hope everybody is OK, and keeping AF or moderate. Hope you are OK, Jo - think sparkly eyes, clear skin, clear thought processes ...

Wotchit BHB

Day off for me tomorrow, then back on the wagon again on Sunday. I haven't had an un-AFD for 10 days - almost unheard of!!! :cool:

Bi for now

xxx

annberlin

nettttie wrote: »

Ann you did v well to only have 3 glasses. Also (dunno if this has been mentioned to you) you shouldn't give up all at once if you are drinking that much - it can cause seizures; apparently you're supposed to cut back, not that I ever do but it is safer. I know I wont sleep for a few nights so take some juice, a good book and have the remote controll by my hand. You're also liable to heavy sweats, I sleep on a towel and have one on top of it so I dont wake up wet. I also take an anti-histamine as they make you drousy - make sure you dont get the non-drousy ones.

This is what worries me atm, the fact that am loving a good night's sleep and I dont want to go through the sweats again - oh and night jerks!!! I feel like someones plugged my body in!

T

Anyway if it's the 19th June then now I'm 18 AF:T . I have a few times given up for Lent or only drank when I've gone out during Lent. I do it just to prove I can but I never feel its a lifestyle change. Trouble is I like all alcohol and how it makes me feel.... then I remember how greedy I am and how I end up going all hell bent for leather and disliking myself so probs an early night - I've had a good day so that's cool. Am pretty much TKmaxed out, gonna have a cuppa with my memory foam slippers on :rotfl::rotfl:

hanks Nettie,

You may think this is stupid but thought the sweats last night was the menapause stupid or what!! I did not have jerks just some twitching and again twitching all day(could not put on my lip liner).I t is now after ten and have succummed to a glass of wine but will try and stick to 3.Thanks to you all for the advice.On a happier note had a lovely time at my hairdressers, all his customers are expats and I get to speak English for 2 hours and gossip into the bargain.Joe 1972 I am thinking of you,good luck and enjoy the lux bath.good night all.;)

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

The bells are singing so loud, please help me, i wanna cry, im driving home now :-( ive finished the dreaded tablets that were keeping me sober and now the bells are ringing again :-(

This is what you posted at 7.23am today:

Morning all

Gotta be quick myself, really need to get out a bit earlier, or at least on time today.

Getting used to this AF lark, though still get fleeting drink thoughts on my journey home then as soon as I get in. The bells are not as loud normally, but if they do toll loud then I have more ammunition in the way of days under my belt to quash them!

If you don't pick up tonight, the desire to drink will leave you - tomorrow you will feel differently. I guarantee that.

You can either :-
1) Not drink and white knuckle it tonight, but feel fab tomorrow
2) Drink and hate yourself tonight, tomorrow, and then start again at the beginning

It's your choice - nothing can make you drink. You make the decision, you take the action.
You also make the decision NOT to drink.

Get on the phone, ring someone who is having some big problems, and get away from your own head for a while

eselt

Hi all- got on here late, just hope you are all OK-especially Jo, you are doing so well, please just sleep on it and make your decision tomorrow when you aren't tired or fed up- take it easy.

Hope everyone is doing as they'd hoped tonight- have a great weekend everybody.

mollypolly

Good evening everyone.

Hope you are all OK....especially Jo.....Hang in there girl...you CAN do this.

Have a good rest of evening and take care of you.

Love Mollypollyxxxx

annberlin

Hi am siting here seething after 3 glasses of wine thinking about all the things OH has decieved me about.The times when I went out shopping in my break and he was taking her to dinner.The times when I ironed his shirt ,so that he looked good for her. The times I dropped him off to work,when he had a business meal the night before, but it was her he was taking out..When does all of this go out of my mind?Maybe I really need to get rid of him?He tells me he loves me and all the things he does suggests he is really sorry.But am I really going to be able to put this behind me!! .When sober I think I can,but 3 glasses of wine into the affray, not sure!!Maybe it does not and that is my answer!! not sure!! i do know it will always be in the back of my my mind and may contribute to my drinking.Anyway looking forward to your thoughts.

mollypolly

annberlin wrote: »

i do know it will always be in the back of my my mind and may contribute to my drinking.Anyway looking forward to your thoughts.

Hi Annberlin.Sorry to hear you are so upset/angry, but you mustn't use this as an excuse to drink.....it will just make everyrhing seem worse.
Only you can know deep down if you can forgive your man for what he has done but you should think about it with a clear head.
As I said before my DH did the same thing about four years ago and even though I knew he was sorry I couldn't forget about it when I had a drink.
I really wanted my marriage to survive and in sober moments knew that if I forgave we would get through.
I didn't stop drinking for him....but selfishly it was for me and my security.
I still think about it quite often and am sure I always will but without alcohol I can forgive.
The past is gone ...look forward to your future.
I hope you can overcome your anger soon...and remember He says he loves you and it's you that he wants.So it's up to you....What do you want.
Good luck and take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

graemecarter

annberlin wrote: »

Hi am siting here seething after 3 glasses of wine thinking about all the things OH has decieved me about.The times when I went out shopping in my break and he was taking her to dinner.The times when I ironed his shirt ,so that he looked good for her. The times I dropped him off to work,when he had a business meal the night before, but it was her he was taking out..When does all of this go out of my mind?Maybe I really need to get rid of him?He tells me he loves me and all the things he does suggests he is really sorry.But am I really going to be able to put this behind me!! .When sober I think I can,but 3 glasses of wine into the affray, not sure!!Maybe it does not and that is my answer!! not sure!! i do know it will always be in the back of my my mind and may contribute to my drinking.Anyway looking forward to your thoughts.

If you're drinking, then you are not thinking straight. You need some time being AF for the fog to lift.
It's up to you if you want to put it behind you and move on - though you need to work on this resentment, as resentments hurt us the most. We drink on them.

You can say you drink because of this, but people go through much worse things and don't drink. I know people who have buried their children and not drank. However, I know many people who volunteer to be the victim. It doesn't have to be that way.
You choose to drink - nothing makes you. You are responsible for your own feelings and emotions.