The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

jo1972

Annberlin, welcome to the thread, I think we all know where you're coming from with the way we change when we've drunk alcohol, it desroys relationships. Good luck, keep us updated

GC, I'm starting to have fleeting thoughts like you have, I think (don't wanna speak to soon....) that I'm getting the non-drinker thoughts filtering through..

orchid-96

Morning all and welcome annberlin :hello: like the name, hope this thread can help you as much as it is helping me x

I am afraid I am with the can't have alchohol in the house crowd (actually I only mean wine as beer/spirits don't do anything for me) it shouts far too loud, I have managed on some occasions to ignore it, but its best for me to not have it at the moment....my worst thing as well is deciding that I have to finish a bottle as if there is any left especially just a glass that is lethal for the next day, as I will think 'oh might as well just drink that glass when I make dinner' and then as soon as that is half drunk I am hinting to dh to go down the shop for another one as I too struggle to stop at 1 or 2...

I have to say though that last weekend I did much much better with that and did manage to stop sooner, I think it is a combination of thinking 'do I really want another' and that I am drinking less, so less alcohol is making me feel the effect quicker....

Jo glad your carpness is just general and not booze related, you are doing so so well hun well done :T and good luck with that job...

jo1972

orchid-96 wrote: »

beer/spirits don't do anything for me

Isn't it funny, cos I have numerous bottles of wine at home but they can stay there cos I'm not interested in them. Usually people think of alcoholics that drink ANYTHING, there are those that do of course, but I think the majority of 'problem' drinkers are those that stick to one particular type of drink or even brand and so alcoholism is far more wide spread than most think...

Miss_Piggy_2

jo1972 wrote: »

Isn't it funny, cos I have numerous bottles of wine at home but they can stay there cos I'm not interested in them. Usually people think of alcoholics that drink ANYTHING, there are those that do of course, but I think the majority of 'problem' drinkers are those that stick to one particular type of drink or even brand and so alcoholism is far more wide spread than most think...

I think thats very true. I can have lager, cider, spirits in the house and it doesn't bother me. Wine, however, will never last more than a day or so. Hence why I don't have a wine rack....really no point!!

GC Your posts always make me stop and think. I know I'm fooling myself sometimes that my drinking is fine. In rare moments of honesty I'll admit it scares me to death that I find it impossible to just have one drink. Looking back I think I have always been this way. Drink wasn't used to "relax" or "unwind". It was used to get drunk. Pure and simple. Thing is, I'm the same with anything (definately an obsessive). Is it possible to change our whole personality??

Miss P
xx

jo1972

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

it scares me to death that I find it impossible to just have one drink. Looking back I think I have always been this way. Drink wasn't used to "relax" or "unwind". It was used to get drunk. Pure and simple.

I'm the same, if I was going to buy drink tonight I would buy 6 cans, not 1 or 2 cos I know as soon as I've passed my money over the counter I'll be panicking that I don't have enough. And if I buy 2 then I know as soon as I've opened the first can I'm nearly half way through my stash :eek: so do I start immediately then panic, then drink it and be miserable cos I've no more. Do I start later so they 'last' me, but be consumed with thinking about starting my first one for hours or do I make the 2 last me all night and the second one then is warm and flat

Nah, sorry, not worth it, rather not bother at all......

Wanna_Bee_Free

Hello :wave: and welcome Annberlin. Good luck in your plan to stop drinking.

Lots of thought provoking stuff here recently. Miss Piggy, I think you've just written how I feel only I'm still slightly in denial about the fact I drink to get drunk. I hope it doesn't take me too long to realise whether or not I can drink socially.

I've had alcohol in the house, including my fave white wine and not drunk it. I haven't been tempted by having spirits and stuff in the house but having the wine chilled in the fridge ready to drink seemed to be asking for trouble.

I drank when I was out with friends yesterday. I caved in even though I'd decided on an AF day. It was fun at the time but I am regretting it today because I feel weak-willed and bad that I was not strong enough. I am over-reacting a bit. I think it's because I didn't see the temptation ahead, thought we'd be drinking tea and coffee and when the pub was suggested was kind of secretly pleased but also a bit disappointed because I'd wanted another AFD yesterday. And I feel dopy and hungover today. I'll work out units and ww points later. Actually that's one of the reasons I'm annoyed at myself because it means I've gone well over my points and spent money I didn't have yesterday. And there's lot's of time to rack up more AFDs this month so that's almost the least bad part of it. Need to think about what happened more later on.

FUAS glad you had a great time last night.

Have a good afternoon everyone.

Pippilongstocking

Welcome anneberlin
Morning rest of motely crew.......:)

Anneberlin - Maybe you need to tackle things one day at a time and then dealing with the feelings you have will slowly begin to help you heal.

Waves to all. Thinking lots at the mo, I picked chums who drank alot for a reason - hard now though. Odd how not drinking unsettles people, I hope I was never this unsupportive.

On a brighter note:

My lovely pals who are up said ooooh we have fizz (my normal favourtie was cava) and I have to say I paniced a bit.

But out came a bottle of the lovely fizzy raspberry AF stuff we had on a picnic once.

Thoughtful or what?

barshamhillbilly

jo1972 wrote: »

nah, sorry, not worth it, rather not bother at all......

:t :t :t :d

barshamhillbilly

Wot's happened to my clapping ..... ??

barshamhillbilly

fayjmck wrote: »

fizzy raspberry AF stuff

That sounds luberly :cool: