The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

Bismarck

ultimately, it's your own journey.....I feel kind of odd at the moment in that when I meet and talk to new people I talk at their level about socialising and can relate to their stories of what they got up to at weekend etc.....they assume that I still have the odd drink now and again and I've not bothered to correct them.

There will probably be a time when I'm with these people socially and they'll wonder that they never see me with a drink....probably just because they've assumed it's what I do......then there will be the question..."why don't you drink?"

Thought about it this morning and the best that I could come up with is "bad things happen that may be funny when you're a certain age with no responsibilities but that past is gone"...add to that the thousand yard stare of a war veteran and you get the picture!

seriously though, it's all about doing what's best for you......I'd like to especially mention those folk who are her to cut down...in some ways that's harder and certainly no less worthy than cutting it out altogether.

bad news folks...I still see special references to cask ales in pubs and "new brews" that seem enticing....like lots of worthwhile things, this takes practice!

constant vigilance!

nettttie

40SM - can you put me down for 16AF for today, tomorrow it will be 17AF!!

just been to MR T's and heart brokenly avoided the isle!! :mad: it's not easy but am doing it.

have been very exhausted this week so not much input am afraid but am thinking of you all and reading when I can. take care X

Bismarck

fayjmck wrote: »

Ta chaps

Am more concerned about the alcohol in folks houses - ? I can hear it calling already.

How do any of you cope when its in the house or where you are visiting?

Might be a question for MP, Bis, GC or Eslet? Or any of you who can hear it calling to you in the cupboards.......(or do all of you hear this song of the alcohol ???) Jo I can't remember what you said - I think you cant have it in the house either?

Bit like the mice in Bagpuss

But instead of

'We will fix it we will fix it'

The song goes more like

'You will drink it you will drink it'

??

Just me ??

There was some alcohol in our house for 6 months - in the depths of the garage- it was stuff I really had no time for but couldn't throw away, if you know what I mean....mse of course......but then again I'm not under lock and key and could "shop" whenever I wanted to near enough but that wasn't the point...the point was in not wanting to, the point where the penny dropped finally that drinking was not a good idea and often the experience took on a life of its own....where common sense and reason are in short supply.....been there, done that, just about survived...

eselt

Hi all- some great posts the last couple of days.

Fay- I often found that the people who said, 'oh, go on, one won't hurt...' etc were freinds (or just drinking buddies?) who had pretty big drink problems themselves and felt better if everyone was drinking huge amounts with them as it convinces them that they only drink the same amount as other people so they don't have a problem after all. Maybe its just time to fess up and say you think you were heading towards a drink problem and wanted to nip it in the bud before your health really suffered.

If people really care about you they would already be worried about your drinking and be pleased that you are taking positive steps- perhaps for those people who don't support you or try to belittle your decision, ask yourself are these people really freinds or is alcohol the only thing you have in common?

Good luck BHB with your decision- brave, I just know I will never be a social/moderate drinker- good luck to you, and great if you manage to crack this.

Bis, glad you are feeling better.

Jo good luck with the job- a change is as good as a rest.

Wise words from GC and Molly as usual.

FUAS- hope all went well for you tonight and you had a nice evening.

Hi to everyone else, hope the wine bells are asleep.

PS. I can't keep drink in the house at all- it sings to me, wakes me up, plays on my mind, invades my concentration, gets me brooding about shall I/shan't I decisions- I don't want to be haunted by my alcoholism and if its in the house thats what it feels like.

maman

Bismarck wrote: »

seriously though, it's all about doing what's best for you......I'd like to especially mention those folk who are her to cut down...in some ways that's harder and certainly no less worthy than cutting it out altogether.

constant vigilance!

Thanks Bis, that's really made me feel better. I have loads of booze in the house but have trained myself to ignore it if I've decided on an AF day.

Not a bad evening, as usual it's the disappointed feeling before 6 p.m. that gets to me most. It's like there's a party going on and I'm not invited.

5AF please 40SM

mollypolly

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Day ones have become easier

15/17 for me

Still busy busy

BHB
xx

:T:T:T

Does this mean that tomorrow is day 2 :D:D

Bismarck

eselt wrote: »

ask yourself are these people really freinds or is alcohol the only thing you have in common?

when I started reconsidering things, this became apparent - I'd even known it for ages and there have been loads of people over the years who would be up for nipping out for a few but if I said come and have a coffee at ours, would look at me as if I was stupid.

friends or accomplices? makes you wonder.....

RIGHT, I am signing off for over a week now to away to a place where there are no computers - I guess I'll have to cope. :rolleyes:

Take care in the meantime - constant vigilance!

Lurkio

Morning all :wave:

12 for me please 40sm

ETA : Have a nice time, Bis

jo1972

Morning Lurks, morining all :hello:

Woke up feeling like utter carp today and was convinced I had a hangover, still feeling rough, dunno if it's the tail end of the infection that I've had or what, but you know when the alarm goes off and it feels like you've only just got into bed, wouldn't mind I went to bed at 11pm and woke at 6.45am, to think I used to feel like this everyday. Though must say I went straight to the bathroom and looked in the mirror and I actually looked quite good :cool: no baggy red bloodshot eyes, puffy skin or carp looking-ness which then made me realise I'm just not feeling 100% not hungover :beer:

I hope you all have a great day, shall log back on when I get to 'work'

xx

fedupandskint

Bismarck wrote: »

friends or accomplices? makes you wonder.....RIGHT, I am signing off for over a week now to away to a place where there are no computers - I guess I'll have to cope. :rolleyes:

Take care in the meantime - constant vigilance!

Too right Bis, friends or thinly veiled drinking accomplices? Who knows, friends would support and accept.

Have a nice time when you are away!

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Fedup - thinking about you and wondering how your evening's going. Hope you're ok.

Thanks! I had a great time, we got on well, and had a lovely night, tiny baby steps to repair things and I am hopeful at this stage.

Thanks for all your thoughts and words that helped me and still do :A

Didn't drink either meaning on 17 days now, Fay hope you are ok and your decision sounds strong. Live your life for yourself and what you want to do not what others want.

Jo you sound bright and your posts are v.supportive and help :T same to you too Eselt!

Congrats dotstar! Well done and good luck! :T