The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

fedupandskint

Ho ho ho for all the jokes! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Welcome to all the newcomers too! This is a great place to work things out and the changes kick in at some stage too either quickly or slowly.

Not AF yet, had a couple of glasses of red wine last night and a small bottle of Stella. Will finish the bottle off tonight with about 2 glasses left.

Then I will be AF for the rest of the month. Need a break after drinking for 9 days in a row, even tho not in large amounts.

Also will make an appt to see my GP as I am concerned about the level of redness I am getting after a glass of alcohol on my face and neck. I have more redness then ever in my face and I feel it is worsening this year more than ever. I have a funny feeling it is alcohol activating a reaction in me.

I am thinking about having a go with the Berroca stuff too to see if it makes me feel better - thanks to Eselt. Will take it with my Vit B tabs too if this is ok

Many thanks to HappyShopper for scores on the doors for last month at the shop :T

Many thanks in advance to Budgie for scoring this month :T and yes I had a GREAT holiday! Wish I was still there!

I have piled some weight on after cutting down my drinking. I am stopping the pop and squash after these bottles have gone as I think I am taking in more sugar than before. I have turned into a little butter ball and need to lose some pounds to feel better about me

Looks like I will have to make friends with the cold water tap again!

Will pop on tomorrow to catch up with you busy lot and to post my first AFD then. Last 2 glasses of wine tonight for the next 26-28 days. Deep breath, here we go again!

maman

:hello:Hi everyone and hello to Scotsman and Kellylea.

Well done on your new plan Kellylea. We've discussed all sorts of ploys on here like volunteering to drive, blaming medication, saving money etc etc I don't think you're naive at all. Perhaps, if making an excuse helps you get started then why not? Perhaps in time you'll tell your friends you really don't like the after effects.

Scotsman, why don't your night shifts count? Is that because you don't/can't drink when you're on nights? I'd count them if I were you then you'll feel you're off to a good start.

Fay, it was a bit of a let down feeling rough when you hadn't been drinking but I found it a really big help to get some AF days in as I really didn't feel like it. Glad you're feeling better stroppy.

Hope everyone is enjoying the weather. I'm not AF today but am keeping up with my 'daily walk' target so far. Thanks for the jokes but I still think 'wine flu' is one of the best.

budget_babe

THE MAY ALCOHOL FREE WELLBEING CHALLENGE TO BE A BETTER

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MEMBERS COMMITTED TO OUR MAY CHALLENGE ARE AS FOLLOWS :

1 - 115k Target af days for May is: 15, Actual 1
2 - 40something Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 2
3 - Annie D Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 2
4 - Budget babe Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 3
5 - Bhb Target of af days for May is: 31, Actual 2
6 - Dotstar Target af days for May is: 12, Actual
7 - Different Corner no target set. Achieved
8 - Eselt Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 2
9 - Fayjmck Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 3
8 - Fedupski Target af days for May is: 26, Actual
10 - Fluffyb Target af days for May is: 10, Actual
11 - Glasgowgirl Target af days for May is: 10, Actual
12 - Jo1972 Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 2
13 - Lurkio Target af days for May is: 15, Actual
14 - Lillibet D Target af days for May is: 10 Actual 1
15 - Maman Target af days for May is: 10, Actual 1
16 - Maz123 Target af days for May is: 20, Actual
17 - Miss piggy Target af days for May is: 31, Actual
18 - MollyPolly Target af days for May is: 31 Actual 2
19 - Nelski Target af days for May is: 10 Actual
20 - Ntc Target af days for May is: 16, Actual 1
21 - Noynoy Target af days for May is: 10, Actual
22 - Pariskate Target af days for May is: 21, Actual
23 - Priceisright Target af days for May is: 24, Actual 2
24 - Sleepyjo Target af days for May is: 31, Actual 1
25 - Stroppy Target af days for May is: 8 Actual
26 - Wbc Target af days for May is: 12, Actual
27 - Winebox Target af days for May is: 10, Actual:

Happy Sunday to everyone I hope you are all enjoying a rest and we have an extra day off work tomorrow so that is :cool:

I however have been cleaning, cleaning and cleaning :eek: After so much decorating and being ill I had so much to do, though part of my May challenge is to care alot less if there's dust anywhere, (Oh no I said the D word again :eek:).

Welcome to Scotsman4th and do you want to go for a target in May or are you going to see how things pan out? Good luck with whatever you decide, just let me know if you want to go onto the list for May. Hugs and take care. xxxxxx

Welcome also to Kellylea and as above do you want to aim for a target in May sweetheart? Please let me know though it does sound as though you need some support at the moment, which you will get on here. Hugs and keep posting. xxxxxxxxx

Ld hugs and thankyou I know everyone will try their best Dib dib dab to you too, I was never in the girl guides though I had a gg book given to me and I read in awe at how to make a billycan out of a tin and a piece of wire Seems I missed out there really. But good luck for May and take care. Hugs xxxxxxxx

40sm well done on another af day :T I'm really pleased that being a member on here is helping, keep up all your good work. Hugs and take care. xxxxxx

Jo good luck for tonight angel and I hope you have bought lots of choccy goodies? Your dinner sounds really yummy, wish I could pop around too. You are doing really well, stay positive and please take care. Hugs xxxxxx

MollyPolly enjoy the cake and take care, enjoy this Bh weekend. Hugs xxxxxxxx

Nelski hope all is well with you, I haven't added an af day but let me know if I am wrong please? Hugs and take care. xxxxxxx

Stroppy glad you are feeling better and that you are staying with our May challenge, good luck sweetheart and take care. xxxxxxx

Bhb well done on another af day :T you are doing absolutely fantastic and we are all so proud of you Btw would Mrs Bhb like to join in for our May challenge? She doesn't have to set a target but could just see how things go for her? Of course you have set such an high standard now, you are the one to beat Hugs to you both. xxxxxxxx

Fay hugs and I am sorry you are unwell, it is really draining isn't it? I feel better than I did but I feel so very tired and a little irritable, I don't make a very good patient I'm afraid. But good on you putting on your jim jams, you are doing really well and remember we are going for The Full Monty this month Hugs and do look after yourself. xxxxxxxxx

Sleepyjo hugs and today is another new day, good luck and I know what you mean about not doing anything on a Bh my resolve for the next one is poo to everything else but its time to do SOMETHING FUN Take care sweetheart. xxxxxxxx

Fedup glad you enjoyed your holiday and yes it always over too soon and then back to the daily grind, good luck for the rest of the month sweetheart. Hugs xxxxxxxx

Pk I hope you are getting to bed by 11pm now? Hugs and I will update you when you post sweetheart. Lots a love xxxxxxx

115k and Maman hugs and enjoy the rest of the weekend? Lots of love xxxxxxxxxx

Hugs to Dear Lurky and the Lovely Esther and family. xxxxxx

Ntc Hiya and I hope you are having a good weekend? Take care and stay lucky. Hugs xxxxxxxx

Eselt how are things? Grahame where are you? Ra nice to see you about matey. Hugs to everyone else. xxxxxxxxx

There are alot of you still to post updates, if I have missed anyone out then please give Budge a Nudge xxxxxx

Adj1nl I am still worried about you, I do hope you are ok? Take care and hugs xxxxxxxxx

Love and hugs
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxx

Needstochange

Thanks budgie and please put the duster down and enjoy the weekend:D Is DS coming up to see you over the bank holiday? I am having a "bench" weekend and hate to say I am enjoying a couple of moderation wines and too much food:o Back to the better me on Tuesday I think!

Depressing weather here now so I going to curl up with eastenders and some choclit I think:D

BTW that scoring board is hot hot hot!!! well done you:A:A

PRICE_IS_RIGHT_2

Had pleasant lunch eventually - after DD(1) had apologised to me for being foul again, and DH apologised because he had blamed me for her horrible attitude yet again. This month I am going to make sure I do not have to seek solace in wine when my family are so horrible - I have actually warned them that I will not stand for any more of their bad attitudes towards me, things must improve or I am afraid I will pack my bags - AS levels or not!!!

40somethingmum

fedupandskint wrote: »

Ho ho ho for all the jokes! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Will pop on tomorrow to catch up with you busy lot and to post my first AFD then. Last 2 glasses of wine tonight for the next 26-28 days. Deep breath, here we go again!

Make the most of those last 2 glasses of wine . Enjoy !!

40SM

glasgowgirl

Hi guys,

Between starting to watch Eastenders at 4pm and now, I have drunk a bottle of red wine. The only reason I have done this is out of boredom and being on my own. Also, I have no plans for tomorrow so at the end of the day, if I feel too c**p to get up in the morning then it doesn't really matter.

I know this isn't healthy but when you are single unless you make plans over holiday times it's all too easy to fall into the trap.

Feeling ok and won't/can't drink anymore.

xx

budget_babe

Hi guys,

I have been feeling very fedup after spending all weekend cleaning and tidying and dusting :eek:

On the positive I have cleared alot of clutter and I have been dusting my bookcase there is an array of books on there after a few fads or two I may have had in the past.

Anyways I have come across my Louise L Hay book titled: You Can Heal Your Life. (When I bought this it spurred me onto not eat meat and I haven't ever since reading it).

I have looked up adddictions and this is what it says:
PROBABLE CAUSE: Running from self, Fear, Not knowing how to love the self.
NEW THOUGHT PATTERN: I now discover how wonderful I am. I choose to love myself.

Also I have looked up alcoholism and for this it says:
PROBABLE CAUSE: Whats the use? Feeling of futility, guilt, inadequacy. Self rejection.
NEW THOUGHT PATTERN: I live in the now. Each moment is new. I choose to see my self worth. I love and approve of myself.

Now this is not my comments but those of Louise Hay, I have posted these as I just wondered how you think this relates to how you feel or not as the case maybe. We are tryng to be a better me in May and I think if we can perhaps address how we feel? Then that will be to the benefit of us all.

The new thought pattern is maybe something to think about and reaffirm for yourself?
I am taking my May job very seriously you know.

So I guess it is time to look at the positives and learn to love and appreciate ourselves. I will be honest and thought of maybe purchasing a bottle of wine tonight as I have felt very low, and as I wasn't an alcoholic then I think having a drink would be ok? But then a little voice says: But can you control what you drink?

It was MollyPolly I think that said it is sometimes very tiring and I must agree.

So any comments feedback is most welcome or if you have any positive or negative thought patterns that you want to share then this is the right place to do that.;)

Ntc my dear thankyou as always and sadly no my Ds is not coming home this weekend, he was going to but is unwell so he will be up on the next Bh and thats only 3 weeks away so I can last until then for my hugs, (but only just ) Hugs and take care. xxxxxx

Glasgow girl you sound like you need a very big hug sweetheart so theres one on its way to you now, should be with you soon. I know what you mean about boredom and we need to understand this and the reason we reach for the wine? Take care and well done for not drinking anymore today. Lots of love xxxxxxxxx

So our May Members we are on day three of our May challenge I am looking at the positive that we are on thread 3 on day 3 and it is going to be third time lucky for us

Hugs and take care.
Budgie xxxxxxxxxx

Ps Grahame you are missed xxxxxxxxxxx

40somethingmum

budget_babe wrote: »

Hi guys,

I have been feeling very fedup after spending all weekend cleaning and tidying and dusting :eek:

On the positive I have cleared alot of clutter and I have been dusting my bookcase there is an array of books on there after a few fads or two I may have had in the past.

Anyways I have come across my Louise L Hay book titled: You Can Heal Your Life. (When I bought this it spurred me onto not eat meat and I haven't ever since reading it).

I have looked up adddictions and this is what it says:
PROBABLE CAUSE: Running from self, Fear, Not knowing how to love the self.
NEW THOUGHT PATTERN: I now discover how wonderful I am. I choose to love myself.

Also I have looked up alcoholism and for this it says:
PROBABLE CAUSE: Whats the use? Feeling of futility, guilt, inadequacy. Self rejection.
NEW THOUGHT PATTERN: I live in the now. Each moment is new. I choose to see my self worth. I love and approve of myself.

Now this is not my comments but those of Louise Hay, I have posted these as I just wondered how you think this relates to how you feel or not as the case maybe. We are tryng to be a better me in May and I think if we can perhaps address how we feel? Then that will be to the benefit of us all.

The new thought pattern is maybe something to think about and reaffirm for yourself?
I am taking my May job very seriously you know.

So I guess it is time to look at the positives and learn to love and appreciate ourselves. I will be honest and thought of maybe purchasing a bottle of wine tonight as I have felt very low, and as I wasn't an alcoholic then I think having a drink would be ok? But then a little voice says: But can you control what you drink?

It was MollyPolly I think that said it is sometimes very tiring and I must agree.

So any comments feedback is most welcome or if you have any positive or negative thought patterns that you want to share then this is the right place to do that.;)

Ntc my dear thankyou as always and sadly no my Ds is not coming home this weekend, he was going to but is unwell so he will be up on the next Bh and thats only 3 weeks away so I can last until then for my hugs, (but only just ) Hugs and take care. xxxxxx

Glasgow girl you sound like you need a very big hug sweetheart so theres one on its way to you now, should be with you soon. I know what you mean about boredom and we need to understand this and the reason we reach for the wine? Take care and well done for not drinking anymore today. Lots of love xxxxxxxxx

So our May Members we are on day three of our May challenge I am looking at the positive that we are on thread 3 on day 3 and it is going to be third time lucky for us

Hugs and take care.
Budgie xxxxxxxxxx

Ps Grahame you are missed xxxxxxxxxxx

BB

So sorry to hear you are feeling low . You are so busy trying to cheer us all up on here that perhaps you are neglecting yourself . Put the kettle on , find a nice DVD and put your feet up and relax and enjoy yourself . You have been unwell and this can leave you feeling a bit down for a while so take it easy and forget the cleaning. Well done for not buying the wine.

Take care of yourself tonight and sleep well .

40SM:kisses3:

budget_babe

40somethingmum wrote: »

BB

So sorry to hear you are feeling low . You are so busy trying to cheer us all up on here that perhaps you are neglecting yourself . Put the kettle on , find a nice DVD and put your feet up and relax and enjoy yourself . You have been unwell and this can leave you feeling a bit down for a while so take it easy and forget the cleaning. Well done for not buying the wine.

Take care of yourself tonight and sleep well .

40SM:kisses3:

Thankyou 40sm, that was just what I needed I can so relate to Sleepyjo's post yesterday and Glasgow girls post today. However the next Bh I will have my Ds home and I intend to have some fun.

You are doing really well so keep up your good work and you have made a good start to your 100 day challenge and I know you are going to do it, hey a little birdie told me so

I shall watch heartbeat tonight and then The Secret Millionaire.

Thankyou again and hugs sweetheart, take care of yourself,
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxx