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The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3
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barshamhillbilly wrote: »I used to be veggie once.
Its not quite the same shooting a lettuce at the end of the garden instead of a rabbit or a pheasant ....... not so much sport on a non-moving targetEmbrace your inner Hillbilly
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There seems a few people who are going through some tough times at the moment. I hope it gets better.
Speaking from my perspective only, I had a cycle of drink, then be AF for a few days to a week, then an almighty blowout. And repeat for years.......
It's not drink that is the main issue, it is me. Most people are fine with drink, however, when drink is inside me, I occasionally react differently. So it seems that I need to not drink, not have that first drink.
That is only the start however, as I need to stay stopped, and change my life so I would not pick up that drink again. This requires work, day in day out. Not much, but a little.
I had many bottoms where I truly and sincerely believed that I would do anything to stop, however a few days later I would be drinking again.
I needed a rock bottom to seek help and be willing to do anything to stop drinking. Until that point is reached, there is little that will be effective.
Many people I know had rock bottoms that involved losing marriages, children, jobs, houses, and health. And some people STILL continue to drink. This is the insanity of alcohol, and as RecoveringAlcoholic says, Alcohol is cunning, baffling and powerful.
Good luck Sea, if you truly want help and admit you are defeated, the you have a fighting chance. :T0 -
:hello:Evening Everyone, hoping you all having a good weekend
BB ~ 4 days AF for me, yay!
Pleased that i managed a hangover day yesterday without having a cheeky wee drink last nite and today is my first sunday hangover free day for so long, so im feeling rather pleased with myself. Being on this thread has really helped me, i woke up this morning figuring out my Af days and how many days left in May to make it to my target. Another incentive for me is very MSE, figuring out how much i was spending on alchol a week, at least £25 a week, so although im not stopping altogether, even reducing my intake will make my purse fuller for longer
I admire peoples honesty on this thread and how often the arm of friendship and support is extended, it restores my faith in the human race so thank you all.
Quiet day for me we had our first BBQ of '09, yay! Spent most of the day chillaxing with OH
Have a good eveing y'all and for all of you off work tomorrow enjoy
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Hello All - Fay, it's wonderful what you have written about your relationship with your OH. :A (hover the cursor over the icon and you'll know what it means).
I echo all that graemecarter has written :T
I went to an AA meeting this afternoon as my head was spinning with stuff I didn't know how to manage, and I knew I was at risk of doing something (not sure what) that I knew would not be appropriate - it would be a mad decision (not necessarily dangerous, just stupid). It was a great meeting for me, I felt like a weight lifted as people understand how crazy my brain is when it plays the "bad cop, good cop" game!
To reinforce GCs message, at the meeting there was a girl on her first visit to AA - she was arrested last night for drink driving, though thankfully she hurt no-one. I hope she comes back, but who knows if this is truly the rock bottom for her? There was also someone there who is a lovely, lovely man who went out on a bender after 2.5yrs of sobriety... he admits this is total insanity, but realises he lost sight of the fact that he needs to work to maintain his sobriety. It breaks my heart to see him in such pain and with such self-loathing.
And finally, one man who came to AA recently, decided he didn't like it so he quit. His funeral is on Thursday. The insanity of alcoholism is that he would rather die than attempt the AA programme.
All this just goes to show - as graeme writes - that we need to put in some work to get well and keep well. This disease IS cunning, baffling and powerful. Be vigilant.
Another long postOne day... one day... it will be short :rolleyes:
With love, Hiphouse x0 -
I wouldn't dream of such a thing!!! :eek: I did Sunday to Weds AF... I updated for Tuesday, then nothing.... check my posts... go on, check.
Nope - not a sausage. Though dunno what I'd have done if he HAD given me a sausage..... :eek:
He did a few tests, shook my head about a bit, syringed my ears then packed me off with a 'if it is still the same in a couple of weeks, come back'. Cleared up a few days later (and this was a Harley St specialist, not some local quack)
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What are we voting on again, Budgie?
My Dearest Lurky of course I do not need to check back, I trust you implicitly, and now onto the voting? You have one vote which will need to be cast for the member in May who you feel has achieved the most on my Better Me Challenge? Jo is secretly going to let me know her choice you can either post on here or let me know by emailHugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
WHO WINS WE DECIDE(Thanks for that Jo)
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Hiphouse I just wanted to thankyou again for posting and for caring, I have read your posts and taken on board what you have said. There are indeed some very sad stories and it does make you think and take store of your own life. Big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Mackeroo I am off to update your total after this post so very well done :T enjoy the rest of the Bank Holiday weekend. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Fay I am so pleased that you have started to let your oh know how you are feeling, it is hard sometimes to get out what we want to say to those we love. It is so much easier at times to speak to our virtual friends, who know and understand just what we mean. But it is a very good start and something to build on. I tried to say to Mr BB that I thought I was drinking too much, but he didn't seem to get it, as I only really drank at weekends. But deep down I knew that when I started, the crazy button got pressed and I could never stop at just a couple of drinks. The test will come when I do have some wine at some point or other? Hugs my dear and lots of love. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
I am still worried about Sea, I always worry about our Dear Jo and where is Winebox? Also Dotty, Ld, Sleepy Jo and Adj1nl where are you? I am thinking of you. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Now onto our Lovely Molly Polly she should have been back yesterday so I hope she is ok? I do worry too much on here and life in general. xxxxxxxxxxxx
Bhb glad to see you posting and sounds like you have had a fab day, you don't need a beer. Remember you much prefer fizzy water and limeHugs xxxxxxxxxxxxx
40sm you are not about much? I hope you are ok? hugs and take care. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Annie D how are you? Thinking of you and your brother. Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Gc and Eselt hugs to you two as well. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Ntc hugs matey and I hope you are ok? Btw you haven't mentioned your journal for awhile how is that going on? Lots of love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Yellow Monkey I wish you would post more as its always lovely to hear from you :cool: Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Ok guys must dash now as I have just left my Ds and Dh watching indie car, time to have another hug me thinksI should be so lucky
He seems to be chatting online and texting quite alot. Do you think it could be a girl :eek: Budgie must find out
I mean I really, really must ................
Take care all of you
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxCherish the ones you love and travel back on the road that brings you home
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us" Ralph Waldo Emerson :A0 -
Thanks for the post Hiphouse, brings it home xx
Odd being sober tonight, I keep getting fleeting feelings that I'm missing something but I don't know what it is, they aren't drink cravings, maybe I should have some choklit
Watching Britians Got Talent now:D:D
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budget_babe wrote: »I always worry about our Dear Jo
Well now you've got my email address I can't go far:eek:
budget_babe wrote: »Budgie must find outI mean I really, really must ................
Yes, cos I want to know too :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!0 -
Thanks for the post Hiphouse, brings it home xx
Odd being sober tonight, I keep getting fleeting feelings that I'm missing something but I don't know what it is, they aren't drink cravings, maybe I should have some choklit
Watching Britians Got Talent now:D:D
Watching Nick Hell through my fingers from behind the sofa!0 -
glasgowgirl wrote: »Watching Nick Hell through my fingers from behind the sofa!
That's why I'm back on here for 2 minutes :rotfl: _pale_DFW Nerd no. 496 - Proud to be dealing with my debts!!0 -
That's why I'm back on here for 2 minutes :rotfl: _pale_
I used that time to go and grab a pack of crisps, couldnt stomach watching it...come on the SuBo!! Fab performance from her,:T but shaky at the start tho
XIt’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts0
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