The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 3

Pippilongstocking

Morning all

SEA - please do go and keep the appointment and like E says slowly but surely life will mend, although its not the eaisest path you have lots of virtual support on here. I've been looked after a few times when I have found myself somehow drunk too early in the day - thankfullly for me its always been when I have taken some 'time out' with friends who have picked up the peices, quite a few of them now seem to be so chuffed that I am having a few sober days these days - but are always there if I need them. Get some help - don't beat yourself up you cant change whats done - just what you do in the next few days, be kind to yourself - you are getting yourself some help xx

BB - darling lady - you need to give yourself a hug and be kind to yourself, you have put so much into looking after us all, I feel for your strength being drained and you must look after yourself. Jo - keep the tablets up and get better, AND piglet pants you'd better behave for your lovely mummy

Hugs to the rest of you and kind words to you all - thinking of you all - got ot dash this am - kids (5 of them here) OH and sunday mornig things to try and get on with.

I have done my first (EVER!) sober weekend with my OH - in six or so years thats quite a confession eh?

Thank you all for keeping me on the straight and narrow - hugs and kisses to you all. NO bright eyed bushytailed girl staring back from the mirror at the moment for me. Skins terrible etc

Maybe soon though eh?

Waves to the lot of you from this top of the world. xx

YM - HI!!

glasgowgirl

Sea - thinking of you. Thursday must seem like an awful long way away right now - like Bis said, it might be worth seeing if there's a meeting near you that's a bit sooner?

I once got into real trouble at work because of drink and almost lost my job. The whole episode was just horrible and I felt so much shame and regret.

You will get through this though and come out the other side stronger.

Thinking of you and wanting the very best for you and your kids.

xx

fedupandskint

Hey ho, time to fess up - need to alter my total back to 16 AFD. After posting on Thurs I decided to have a couple of glasses of white wine, then had a couple more on Friday night and then finished the bottle last night with another 2 glasses and then a couple of glasses of ginger wine. Today have a hangover mild headache and yesterday I felt worse for wear after the first glass of wine.

That'll teach me then, can't do 3 days on the trot even a small amounts when I am not used to it. Definately AF for rest of the BH weekend and hopefuly should get to within 3 days of my target.

PS my corkscrew has broken too - did the planets and angels conspire to send me a message?

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Dear Sea, I'm so sorry to hear about your rock bottom, but agree with others that say this is your opportunity to get back up again - to understand where you're at and how you can make things better.

I don't know where you live, but I'll be happy - as a recovering alcoholic myself - to take you to an AA meeting. Alternatively, find your area helpline number and get someone to take you into a meeting. I don't know where you live, but the Alcoholics Anonymous National Helpline is 0845 769 7555 - so hope they can help. This is a scary time, but not as fearful as the potential loss of contact with your children and loss of job. You do have to feel the fear, but do that with people that really DO understand and can physically be there for you. I agree with Bismarck - is there a meeting before Thursday? Some groups have creche/childcare separate from the meeting itself, so check this out too (sorry, I don't know the ages of your children).

AA meetings can be quite different, so please don't be put off if you don't feel comfortable in one... try another in your area. The most important thing is that you listen to the similarities when people share their experience. Do not focus on the differences between you and them... it doesn't matter if they're street drinkers, high flying financiers or medics - all have acknowledged a problem with drink and look to AA for the support to live with this disease/allergy/problem (however you want to look at it).

Please do keep posting here. Today is a new day, a day to say sorry to yourself (in a non self-pitying way) for yesterday and to move on one moment at a time.

I truly remember what it was like to be there. It is horrendous and frightening, so please take it easy and PLEASE telephone the AA helpline if you need help to get through. Of course, post here too. I don't get online often, but I'm holding you in my thoughts and prayers. This is your journey, but there are a lot of people who are thinking of you right now and in the moments ahead who are wishing you the best. This is a very positive and powerful force (even if it's difficult to understand) so please know that you are not on your own... there are many, many people wishing you well. Now it's over to you. Remember, you have more strength than you realise.

For you and for anyone who's reading this who wants more help, the AA National Helpline is 0845 769 7555 or visit http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/

One day I might write a short one-line message on this thread

Love to all, Hiphouse x

ETA: After posting, I realise this is too long a post to expect Sea to read in her current state of mind, but just don't know how to edit it down without losing the message. Hope it helps someone though.

Lurkio

jo1972 wrote: »

Lurks, yes horrible innit! It's summat to do with particles in the inner ear which have broken away and brushes against the fine nerve hairs which make you think you're spinning round even though you could be sitting dead still, really spooky feeling.

That's the one! Dilithium crystals, we referred to the particles as :rotfl: :rotfl:

I was told that there was not a lot they could do and it would just go away.... and it did

Budgie - I think I'm actually on 10.... not sure, though.... I may check back and confirm

((((sea))))

Hope we're all ok today


ETA: Yes, I'm on 10 :j :j (my fault for not reporting it )

jo1972

Morning all :wave:

Sea, I hope you're feeling a little bit better this morning, as previously said I would definately see if you can get in to a meeting before Thursday, keep posting on here and you'll get all the support you need outside of the meetings

Budgie, hope you're feeling more chipper today, so glad to hear you are enjoying your time with your darling son, how long is he with you for?

PIR, congrats on the AFD, enjoy being on the bench tonight!

Miss P, nice to see you

YM, good luck with the cutting down, don't be a stranger

Stroppy, sorry to hear you're still feeling so carp. I feel in a similar way, kinda got loads of illness going on, I blame it on the kids at the school where I work, they all stand so close to me when they want to ask me something, I'm starting to get paranoid now and have one of those antibacterial hand sprays which goes on after I've been near anyone, and flash wipes for the desk when a child has left the room :rotfl: my colleague has now taken to wiping the door handle with the wipes too....I think we are both in fear of getting an OCD :rotfl: I so hope you feel better hunny, hope the hottest day of the year out in the garden makes you feel better

115K, enjoy the party, be good

Fay, enjoy your Sunday morning things up there, congrats on the AF weekend with OH, it does get easier, I remember when I managed to clock up 4 months in 2006, I actually got to the point where I didn't think about drinking much, so lets keep riding the waves till then

FUAS, don't you be going out buying a new corkscrew now, or a screw top bottle!! Everyone has a mulligan to two, chalk it up to experience, you can't drink 3 days in a row and that's it....climb back on the wagon tonight and look forward to being un-hung-over-ed tomorrow

Bismarck

thank you hiphouse...you wrote a lot of what I should have written first time around.....

today is a new day, a new start and a new path....

take care everyone...

maman

fayjmck wrote: »

Get some help - don't beat yourself up you cant change whats done - just what you do in the next few days, be kind to yourself - you are getting yourself some help xx

Well done Fay. Hope today is a better day Sea.

Hope the sun is cheering us all.

jo1972

Just typed the message above and pressed the wrong button and submit it without finishing!!

Hiphouse, that is fantastic information and I hope it's of use to someone, particularly Sea. Thanks for posting it

Lurky, did you have tablets for your dodgy ears?

Well I'm un-hung-over-ed today, which is great although I feel like crap. Dizzy, headache, sore throat and sore chest, oh and absolutely exhausted which is one of the side-affects of the pills. I'm not looking for sympathy though, this is great news actually as this means I have no desire to drink as I just want to sit in a chair and stare into space or go to bed :rotfl: This is day 4 for me today (consecutive days, have no idea how many on the May challenge, sorry budgie!).

It seemed that the whole evening yesterday, tv was mentioning drink, why is that? I watched Booze Britian and could not believe what I was seeing, they were following a group of lads out on a night out to Newquay, they had t-shirts on with their names on like a stag night thing but this was a normal weekly occurance, a stag without a wedding. They went in the first bar and had a 'starter' drink, one ordered a bottle of wine just for him and drank it from the bottle, another had a pint of vodka and red bull etc etc, they then went to various bars and drank shots, cocktails, shorts the lot (even each others urine with fag butts in it _pale_), they boasted they could drink anything and did. One of them joked that he'd probably need a new liver in a few years and would get it off ebay or summat. At the end of the night they drank on average 40 units of alcohol each and this was a normal night. It's very sad.

Hope you all enjoy the hottest day of the year so far, what's everyone planning?

I'm going to the launderette to wash the duvets :rotfl: my life is in the fast lane :rotfl:

xx

budget_babe

Hi everyone :hello:

Just wanted to pop in quickly and see how you all are?

Thanks for the messages and re: me being down, I have been very happy this weekend as my Darling Son is home. It was only reading Sea and Jo's posts that made me feel very emotional.

I do tend to get emotional, I just can't help it but I do. Reading how Dear Sea is so in fear of losing her children really did get to me, it has been said before that you need to hit rock bottom. I thankfully have never been nor would I want to be at such an awful stage in my life. The only positive that we can take, is that we have the success stories of our other dear posters who have been there and who have managed to come back and thankfully be ok. Though as they forever advocate: Constant Vigilence is always needed.

Sorry if I seem to be rambling again it is just that I was feeling so happy and then the stark reality of how others are feeling really is like a slap in the face to make you wake up and realise and appreciate what you have and not to put at risk anything that is so dear and true to your heart.

I am very lucky, I have a wonderful son who is my world I cannot imagine what it is like to be in fear of having your children taken from you. Bringing my son up and making sure he has all he needs and feels so loved was and is always my life. That was what made me so sad because we are unable to change the past and as we all know drinking does not only affect your own life but of those that are dearest to us.

I hope for everyone that is struggling that you find a way forward for a happier and better life. We all try to give comfort on here to others that we care about, I was just so sad to think that much more is needed.

Sorry Budgie has been reflective but alcoholism is an illness and we must try to help all our dear friends that are struggling, in whatever small way we can.

I shall pop off now to do the list as I have a lovely day planned, I know I am lucky and I shall remind myself of this when I moan about some insignificant trivial thing that really is nothing to moan about.

Hugs to everyone, Eselt, Sea, Fay,Jo, Gc, Ra and Bis especially. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Miss P and Ym lovely to see you both about. Hugs xxxxxxxxxx

To our other members I will catch up with you on the Better me list

Budgie says its sunny and bright so have a lovely day.
Hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx