Question about children sharing a room

Krystaltips

The family across the road have 2 parents, 8 children and a grandchild all living in a 3bed house... I don't know what their sleeping arrangements are but I'm guessing some must share rooms... At least when the older 2 brothers aren't in prison anyway...

I have a 2 bedroom house, 1 daughter, 1 child of unknown gender on the way... I don't feel in any rush to move house at the moment (apart from to escape certain neighbours) And in all honesty, I have a friend round the corner who has a 3 bed house and I probably have more square footage than she does... Her bedroom is half the size of mine and her 2 children have box rooms... My house has less walls... More space... And its mine!

TheEffect

GracieP wrote: »

I don't think you understand the difference between wants and needs. If you don't get the things you NEED, you die. Nobody will die from sharing a room with a sibling or two, or even with their parents.

You NEED food, shelter, weather proof clothing, blankets and sometimes medical care. That's it.

Then there are things we benefit greatly from, electricity, education, central heating, furniture, nice foods and play. It could certainly be argued that by now everyone on earth should have these things, but quite a lot of the population don't even have access to their actual needs.

Having your own bedroom as an older child and teenager is a LUXURY. A wonderful luxury that I am glad I had growing up. But it is a LUXURY, it is so, so far from what constitutes a need it's laughable.

We don't live in a third world country. It's parents responsibility to make sure there kids have a happy and suitable childhood. Sharing a room with a sibling and mother, living in a tiny house is not a suitable childhood. Parents should make sure they are financially stable before having children.

Yes things change, but the poster said they where living in this house for a long time, which I guess they where living in when they had children, therefore knowing how cramped it was going to be.

Yes, I maybe young, naive and misinformed, however I believe parents should provide a suitable living accommodation for their children, no matter what the cost, and 3 people, in a 1 bedroom flat/building, is not a suitable living environment for the 20th century family living in Britain.

I expect to be flamed, but I'm expressing my opinion on the matter, as others have there opinion. Making me young doesn't mean I can't have my thoughts on parents providing for their children.

MrsTinks

Good for you I hope life carries on being as easy for you going forward and your decisions will be as easy and clearcut as you seem to think

Taye

Wow you really are neive...

Just wait till life comes and bite's you hard on the a$$, things are never black and white, don't judge people you have NO clue about.

I hope you like it in your little bubble where life is simple and everyone has big smiles.

seven-day-weekend

But they don't have to share, do they, as the parents can have a sofabed in the living room, or if she is a single mum, she could share with the girl and the boy have his own room.

I do agree that the boy and girl of that age ideally should not share for much longer, but it is not illegal.

I appreciate non of these scenarios are ideal, but then life is not ideal and there are so few Council houses left so there may not be a three-bedroom house to give her. They will probably all have ben given to people with more than two children.

TheEffect

Taye wrote: »

Wow you really are neive...

Just wait till life comes and bite's you hard on the a$$, things are never black and white, don't judge people you have NO clue about.

I hope you like it in your little bubble where life is simple and everyone has big smiles.

I don't live in a bubble thankyou. I've been through hard times growing up and I know things aren't always black and white. I'm not judging you, my opinions where addressed to the situation you are in, and you asked for opinions, advice and help, which is why you created this thread.

When things go wrong in life, there's always people to say what you should and shouldn't have done, and I'm just being one of those people. Obviously, you disagree and don't want to listen to my opinions, which is understandable, but I don't think you should start criticizing me when all I'm doing is responding and giving my opinion on your circumstances. My opinions may be wrong, but I'm airing them anyway.

I'm aware that life's not a box of chocolates, and when I face these problems as I grow older, maybe my opinions and way of thinking will change towards these matters, but I can only give advice and opinions on what I know so far in life, so there's no need for you to try and attack me with your comments about my life, when all I was doing was giving my advice/opinion on your circumstances and other people who might be in a similar position.

I'll keep my nose out for future reference.

tiamai_d

Jamz wrote: »

Wow, I really can't believe that people would have so many kids when they have such small houses, it's so irresponsible I've got a 2 bedroom house and a small baby and until I can afford the extension I wont be having another baby at all.

So if any little accidents happen you will be down the abortion clinic then?

I really doubt it, you will do what normal folk do, make do with what they have until they can afford better.

In this day and age it is far more irresponsible to get a mortgage up to your eyeballs so the kiddies have a room each. Share a room or watch mum and dad drown in debt and end up in a council temporary accommodation bedsit?

mumoffour77

Okay......I have (well nearly have) 6 bedrooms......getting 2 put on now.....I have 4 kids 3 boys and 1 girl..........my 2 younger boys aged 11 and 9 share!!! my oldest is 14 and has a room of his own....as does my DD who is 7

My DD will sneak into her brothers room in the middle of the night.......every night no matter how many times they tell her to get out ot I tell her to get out.......I lift her put her back into her bed and 10 mins later she is away back in again!!

She blames me of course saying that its not fair that she doesnt have a sister!!!!!

I cant win!!

xmaslolly76

Ok if i have this right the op is in a council house and wants a bigger one. I am presuming the council are paying the rent ?

Our local council will allow you to rent privately and still claim houseing benefit as long as the house in question is not bigger than your needs or stupidly over priced. for instance if you go and privately rent a 4 bed house for two people you will be expected to pay the excess rent on the extra 2 rooms that you dont actually need. Also if the house is over priced (they have guidlines on what they are willing to pay) they will ask for you to make up the difference. if you find a reasonable three bedroom house and you can get the deposit together you can move when ever you want and the kids wont have to share. Obviously this will mean saving or there are some places out there i personally dont know who that will stump up the deposit for you ( not sure on the application rules for that one). If you pay your rent yourself then you need to rebudget so that you can afford a larger house three bedroom houses are not all that differently priced to 2 beds if you shop wisely.

I am in the west midlands so im not sure if other councils have different rules.

looby75

karenw wrote: »

I know it would be perfectly fine if they were the same sex sharing but is it morally wrong for different sexes to share esp as they reach/are teenage years

it is not morally wrong for different sexes to share. What a strange comment to make.

My 16 yr old dd and 8yr old ds have to share a room, they are brother and sister, they have their own beds, but as they are bunkbeds they can't even see each other when they are in bed! how is that in any way immoral?

I did offer dd to share my room with me and try to put some kind of partition up in the room but she said she was fine sharing with her brother, that yes in an ideal world she would love a room of her own but it's not exactly the end of the world for her.