When to start dating again?

marksandsparksgal

I agree! Taye, you've just said what has happened to you, so probably he us finally getting the hint and taking it slow. In a way it's nice he is leaving up to you to see how things progress, but also super scary! But it can only be a positive thing he is so respectful. Good for you, you seem to have found such a lovely guy.

marksandsparksgal

Taye wrote: »

ugh.. drunk and in charge of a phone i should be banned for life.

I guess im gonna have to go back out there, only so long i can hide in the bathroom right?

On the plus side i did see him naked today.. totally by accident, but it was worth seeing.

wish me luck.

WOO go you!

:rotfl:

gghh

well i have just spent the last few hours reading through this whole thread and i have laughed, cried, shouted at the screen, it's been great. you have so much support here
i just wanted to say, Taye, that I think you are amazing and so strong. reading some of your earlier posts about your ex and your youngest child, well i could've been reading pages out of my own life. my experiences are still pretty fresh as i finally got out of the relationship last year, i also have two boys from my sexually abusive ex (my first "proper" relationship) so i really understand what you have come through to have been able to go on a date with dave, and then have him in your home and going to his and now going to visit him in a hotel without the "protection" of your children iykwim. i'm so glad you found the strength to do this, even if it doesn't work out with dave, you have taken some major steps these past few weeks and you should be so proud of yourself.
i just hope that in time i will be as brave as you and be able to meet someone and move on from my experiences.
i'm hooked on this now, can't wait for the next update xx

kate1976

Taye wrote: »

ugh.. drunk and in charge of a phone i should be banned for life.

I guess im gonna have to go back out there, only so long i can hide in the bathroom right?

On the plus side i did see him naked today.. totally by accident, but it was worth seeing.

wish me luck.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ok I'm a tiny bit tipsy but that made me really laugh!!! Taye just go with what you're comfortable with, he's probably holding back because he doesn't want to push you but just take the lead if you feel like it!

Relax and enjoy the rest of your weekend! Am loving you've seen him naked, I am going to bed very tipsy and smiling ever so much!!!

mumofjusttwo

GoodMorning.

Taye I am thinking /hoping you are still tucked up in bed and probably nursing a headache. Hope it isn't too bad.

As others have said I just think he is scared of hurting you and so is taking it slow like you said. Trouble is now he has gone the other way. You dDO need to tell him when you want to cuddle etc. In time I would imagine he will be able to tell what/when you need/want something

Glad things are going well. Go girl for seeing him naked and gl;ad it was worth seeing

NOVASTAR

Wow - just logged in for my FIX update and things have certainly moved on.
Bless him - now Dave knows the reason you are acting like you are he is really just trying not to crowd you and hopes to work at your pace so you feel comfortable around him - he's not gone off you at all!
As for the mental picture we all have of Dave - we now have the added bonus (maybe just us girls anyway) of throwing NAKED into the mix :rotfl:

Money_maker

Taye wrote: »

ugh.. drunk and in charge of a phone i should be banned for life.

I guess im gonna have to go back out there, only so long i can hide in the bathroom right?

On the plus side i did see him naked today.. totally by accident, but it was worth seeing.

wish me luck.

Got a camera on your phone?:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Taye

Ugh, morning..

I don't know whats wrong, you guys are probabally right he's just trying to take it slow now he understands my reasoning, he still being an angel in every other way which logically leads me to belive that he's not lost interest per-say. (he totally spoiled me yesterday, ill tell you more tonight when it doens't take 10 minutes to type anything)

I just feel like we've gone backwards? i was happy and getting comfortable with the way things where, handholding, cuddles occasional peck's i'd even venture to say i was ready to move forward, into something abit more physical, now he's stopped all contact unless i initate it.

jinky67

Taye wrote: »

Ugh, morning..

I don't know whats wrong, you guys are probabally right he's just trying to take it slow now he understands my reasoning, he still being an angel in every other way which logically leads me to belive that he's not lost interest per-say. (he totally spoiled me yesterday, ill tell you more tonight when it doens't take 10 minutes to type anything)

I just feel like we've gone backwards? i was happy and getting comfortable with the way things where, handholding, cuddles occasional peck's i'd even venture to say i was ready to move forward, into something abit more physical, now he's stopped all contact unless i initate it.

Ah us fickle women:o

He is probably scared of scaring you off, so doesnt know how far he can *go* before you pull away, so instead he is doing it. He is in a strange way actually doing the right thing:T maybe you feel awkward initiating things but he is leaving it to you so that you can go at your own pace and dont freak out.

Bite the bullet and just go for it, whatever it may be:D

carefullycautious

Poor Guy poor you. I do hope you can work this out. If your relationship survives all this I think you will be together forever. Taye is there anyway you could have counselling to help you understand what happened and help you to move forward. You sound to me like someone who would benefit from a relationship for a while where there is no pressure to live together etc. Keeping you own homes and seeing each other for dates etc would probably suit you better than having to commit yourself. I had a friend who did this and it took the pressure off and allowed them to get to know each other better and they decided that this was how they were going to remain having their own space etc. just a thought