When to start dating again?

muckypup

Wow, 3 hours later and i have finally finished readin this thread lol, my 6 year old got so fed up of waiting for his dinner he helped himself (ooops) but it's like a good book, i just couldnt stop reading!

I can't believe how happy i am for you Taye, to say i don;t even know you lol It is a bit gutting that he may now be working away for a month....but it is only that and it will soon fly by! Prehaps you can use that month to try and expand your social circle too, it will give you something to concentrate on and hopefully you can meet some new friends too What town are you in? There may be lots of people on here who can suggest good places to meet people or activities to do

Good on you for not rushing into things too, he does sound like a 'gem' and remember people do have faults....we all do!.....but the fun part is finding them with each other....try not to make them up or blow the ones you do find out of proportion, it will all turn out good in the end He is probably just as nervous as you are at the end of the day ..

Look forward to keeping up with the story :) x

ceebeeby

Taye, could you do us a MASSIVE favour and do a daily summary on page 1 - it takes me forever to catch-up!

Although, I have to say, it's becoming my bedtime reading story!

Wow - in the latest adventure, there's been a seduction (well, a nun-night kiss), a sweeping and overawesome gesture (the garden) and then the enforced absence (the job).

I can't wait till we get to the bedroom!!!!!

Cheering you on all the way xxxxxxxx

k2tog

Ah, a spanner in the works! It seems to have made it clearer to you how you feel about him though! Is there someone who could have the kids for an overnight? Then you could visit him "down south" - you don't need a passport or anything :rotfl: as well as have the weekends.
Enjoy the gardening tomorrow and I'm sure you'll work out how you will keep in touch.

Taye

Hmm yeah i guess... there is my parents and my sister they live abit far away for quick evening baby sitting jobs as it takes about an hour to drive there but they are usually available for the odd weekend and tbh my mum has been pestering me to let her have the kids for a while now so i suppose i could wangle it so i could go down and visit him one weekend if i could get the money together for a hotel.

He's already said that he will drive home at least a couple of weekends to see me. I guess it might not be so bad it's only 4 weeks, the first weekend he'd leave the sunday and he'd come back the last friday meaning he'd only actually be gone for 3 weekends and if i drove to see him in the middle one, he drove home on one it might not be so bad.

We talked about it on the phone abit last night he told me he didn't want to go because he'd miss m which was sweet, but i told him that he'd be daft not to take the contract because in the current climate he didn't know when he'd get another one.

He kinda agreed that "work" was abit slow at the moment though he insist's he has enough money tucked away to pay the bills for about 12months (eek and i have barely enough for 1 month haha) but still i managed to convince him that i'd still be here when he got back and that a month really wasn't that long so he agreed to take the work.

Well i hope it stay's dry today .. eek, he's bringing a friend to help with the garden so i'll be having to keep 2 men fed and watered, i should manage i have food in, though i still haven't figured out what i am going to cook. I'll have to make sure the boy's are kicked out onto the front to play with thier friends so they arn't hassling us trying to get the garden done.

Im kinda nervous meeting one of his friends, i suppose im worried he won't like me and will convince Dave im no good i guess meeting the "friends" is always stressful hu? Oh well better get it over with.

jinky67

hun, having a long distance relationship for 4 weeks is nothing,try 7 months, the fun you can have on the phone:whistle::whistle::whistle:

As regards the food, good old builders food, bacon and sausage butties and loads of tea to swill it down. I doubt it will take them all day. As for the boys let them join in, even if its just carrying buckets about

And dont worry about his friend......I doubt Dave is not worried about introducing you to them so chill woman chill:cool:

Have fun:j:j:j:j:j

barnaby-bear

Taye wrote: »

Im kinda nervous meeting one of his friends, i suppose im worried he won't like me and will convince Dave im no good i guess meeting the "friends" is always stressful hu? Oh well better get it over with.

Silly mare!
You introduce the women you want to see long term to your mates. You don't phone your dad to ask about a one-night stand's garden. You keep the really grotty/casual things as secret as possible..... not meeting his friends would be a worse sign... it might also have indicated he hadn't got any..... can't wait to see how you'll spin meeting his parents!

barnaby-bear

Taye wrote: »

He's already said that he will drive home at least a couple of weekends to see me. I guess it might not be so bad it's only 4 weeks,

REmind him to put his Gym membership on hold if he has the option while away... you can pay your way by saving him money....

Lunar_Eclipse

Taye wrote: »

I've already texted him telling him he should go still gutted though but i know it wouldn't be fair of me to make him stay.

I think it would be good to say that you think he should take it but that you will really miss him and perhaps you could see e/other at the weekends.

He's asking you to see if you're bothered about him not being around, because I imagine he isn't too thrilled about being away from you. And since you are, I would tell him. It will make you both feel better. Plus it's honest, which is always a good thing IMO.

Don't make him think you don't care (when you do.)

I am also a master of the long distance relationship! Not that they're great, but we managed. DH & I went to university in different countries; on the opposite sides of the world! He came back to the UK every holiday; I visited him twice whilst doing my degree. He also flew back to the UK for a 4 day long weekend, with glandular fever to see me. At 26 hours flying time each way, I felt truly loved. I knew he was the one on our first date when we were only 18 and 19. We've now been together 19 years. A month apart when you have no delay on the phoneline, can actually afford to phone each other and can see each other at weekends is nothing!

NAR

Taye wrote: »

Well i hope it stay's dry today .. eek, he's bringing a friend to help with the garden
Im kinda nervous meeting one of his friends, i suppose im worried he won't like me and will convince Dave im no good i guess meeting the "friends" is always stressful hu? Oh well better get it over with.

The reason for this is obvious to me - he wants to "show you off" to his mate; look what a gorgeous girlfriend I've managed to find! (It's what us men do!) I'm sure you won't let Dave or yourself down - enjoy the attention.

One month away - all of a sudden all the weekends are being planned. :j So now the time apart is not really an obstacle after all. Enjoy today.

rosepink1984

Taye, I just found this thread yesterday and have read with much interest. I'm so pleased that you have found such a nice man and I hope that you are having a good time today getting the garden sorted.

I know the month's contract sounds really long, but as Barnaby Bear commented it will give you a chance to talk on the phone which is a great way to get to know each other without the pressure of physical contact.
My hubby and I have been married 18 months now, and we were going out for about 2 years before that. Before we married we lived about an hours drive from each other, and during the week we talked on the phone every day, so we got to know each other really well. Our phone conversations were better than the ones we had when we met up at weekends!

About the sex thing, we didn't sleep together til we got married. I know that's unusual these days, and I'm not saying that you should do that, just that it is possible to survive without it, so don't do anything until you are ready. He will cope! And it will be a whole lot better when it happens because you will both be happy for it to happen.

I wish you every happiness, and hope things go well. I'm going to keep reading to see what happens next!