When to start dating again?

Blink_Eden

Ask him what type of beer he likes and get it in the fridge for him. (Just make sure he doesn't drink it until after he has finished with the heavy machinery)

Taye

Blink_Eden wrote: »

Ask him what type of beer he likes and get it in the fridge for him. (Just make sure he doesn't drink it until after he has finished with the heavy machinery)

Haha he does't drink not even diet coke!! tbh i have noticed he is abit funny with his food/drink not fussy per say just eats weird things.

aligerdie

Taye wrote: »

Haha he does't drink not even diet coke!! tbh i have noticed he is abit funny with his food/drink not fussy per say just eats weird things.

Weird things?! does he like trying new foods and such like, or sticks to the same food?

My hubby was a nightmare to cook for when we met. He's the only person I know with an onion allergy, so anything with onions in makes him go red and his throat swells!
Needless to say there were numerous occasions during meals out where I would hear this groan, before he ran to the toilets to get rid of what he'd just swallowed! (and I still married him )

galvanizersbaby

Horace wrote: »

Taye - you havent been going out with him long enough to even discuss kids, if you are still with him in 12 months then bring them up but no need to do so now. Enjoy the moment - life is for living so live it.

I hate being considered a charity case so I know where you are coming from, I have been seeing my chap now for 6 years and I was made redundant in 2007 and since then have been on the dole and now have my own business - currently earning zero:eek: My chap comes from a wealthy family and he often brags about how much he has in his own bank account but I don't care. He understands that its not his money that I like but him (even though he drives me around the bend and up the wall), he will buy shopping for me and even clothes (although the clothes are from Primarni), he even takes me out for dinner but when he comes around, he gets his washing done, a roast dinner occasiionally and I don't feel beholden to him. Mind you I would love him to be like Dave as mine won't even put up some shelves - he did once but since then has done nothing:rolleyes:

I have a friend who was in a similar situation to you - she started going out with her ex when they were still at school and got married at 16, she went on to have 4 kids, there were problems with her OH and in the end she managed to kick him out and they got divorced...she became a beautician as that fitted in with her kids and eventually she met someone else after going out with a few weasels in between times, she has now re-married and despite saying that she didnt want more kids, she has a son who is now 8 months old:D She now works for herself.

So stop stressing about what if...enjoy what you have whilst you can because you don't know what is around the corner - none of us do:D Oh and its great to feel attractive - I met up with an ex boyfriend a few months ago, we last went out when we were in our early 20s and split up because I was afraid of getting pregnant:rolleyes: - he slipped me his phone number and we have met up for coffee a few times and had a good old natter..will something come from it? I don't know but if he asked me out on a date date then I would definitely go, he makes me feel like a 20 year old all over again:j

I agree with Horace and the other posters Taye - I really don't think you should be worrying about this at this stage

Horace - Off at a tangent I am a nosy c*w and wondered wouldn't your rich chap mind if you went out on a romantic date with ex boyfriend? - if not he shoulds perfect!

Steel_2

Taye, you've got a traditional guy. He's persistent, problem-solving, trouble-shooting and making damn sure this weekend is going to go well so you will be a couple in the future.

He's pulling out the stops, just like my hubby did when we first met five years ago. My lawn got cut, my allotment beds got dug, my pea frames were put up, curtain rails straightened, shelves hung and kitchen cupboards adjusted. If it squeaked it was oiled, if it was wonky it got straightened, if it was broken it got fixed. It was his way of telling me he cared about me and wanted to do everything he could to make me comfortable and happy. I never felt I had to repay him for anything - my company, a cup of tea, a kiss and my appreciation were the only things he got in the early days and he was happy. I never at any time felt threatened, just that he was over-eager to please, really liked me and wanted to demonstrate what a good 'prospect' he was.

BUT I did have to slow him down and you may have to do the same thing with Dave. Enjoy the weekend, admire his muscles while he works, hand him nails and tools and cups of tea, and be appreciative, but don't feel you have to 'put out' to pay him back. You're more likely to offend him by the suggestion. Just be confident that you are worth treating well.

Steel_2

aligerdie wrote: »

Weird things?! does he like trying new foods and such like, or sticks to the same food?

My hubby was a nightmare to cook for when we met. He's the only person I know with an onion allergy, so anything with onions in makes him go red and his throat swells!
Needless to say there were numerous occasions during meals out where I would hear this groan, before he ran to the toilets to get rid of what he'd just swallowed! (and I still married him )

Hubby hates cheese and tomatoes. He used to say he was allergic until I pointed out that wasn't fresh air on his spicy hot pizza, it was cheese and tomato. After five years I finally got him to acknowledge he does like cheese and tomato in certain formats, but not when they are the overwhelming flavour in something.

Just don't tell him that really tasty, tangy flavour he likes so much in pesto is parmesan cheese. He genuinely thinks it's a herb or spice of some kind.

Horace

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

Horace - Off at a tangent I am a nosy c*w and wondered wouldn't your rich chap mind if you went out on a romantic date with ex boyfriend? - if not he shoulds perfect!

To be honest, I couldnt care less if he did get upset, its my life and I shall live it how I see fit - I spent a heck of a long time married to a chap that I actually didnt particularly like, he didnt treat me that well (emotional abuse and once pinned me against the wall by my throat:eek:) so now I see whom I like when I like. The chap may be rich but he is shallow and selfish. My life is my own and I will see who I want - I don't for one minute think that he's faithful because he goes on 3 week holidays without me and yet not one single photo have I seen because conveniently his phone is always pinched:rolleyes: So I have decided that I will do as I please and its nobody's business but my own:D

galvanizersbaby

Horace wrote: »

To be honest, I couldnt care less if he did get upset, its my life and I shall live it how I see fit - I spent a heck of a long time married to a chap that I actually didnt particularly like, he didnt treat me that well (emotional abuse and once pinned me against the wall by my throat:eek:) so now I see whom I like when I like. The chap may be rich but he is shallow and selfish. My life is my own and I will see who I want - I don't for one minute think that he's faithful because he goes on 3 week holidays without me and yet not one single photo have I seen because conveniently his phone is always pinched:rolleyes: So I have decided that I will do as I please and its nobody's business but my own:D

Good on you!

newlifeahead

I have managed to read all 28 pages of this thread. I am hooked.
Taye you are doing really well. When I first read you thread I thought it was similar to my life, been single for 5 years and have 2 young boys.
I would love to meet someone new and start dating but the whole thing scares me.

This would make a lovely film, I have laughed and got teary eyed. I have never heard of dating to be so painful. I am laughing to myself now while I am typing this and ds1 is asking what is so funny..... If only he knew:D

Please, please, please keep us updated I wish you all the best and have fun.. you deserve to have somone to spoil you now:T:T:T

nicki_2

Taye - reading this thread though has had me acting like a teenager again, giggling, getting excited at what would happen next, gasping and "oh no!!!"-ing :rotfl: Thank you.

As a single mum who's DD is my entire life I know where you're coming from when it comes to having a man in your life. I kind of had one but he's no longer in my life at all and its not bothered my DD at all! Just go with it, if it feels right carry on, if it feels wrong stop and backtrack a little. It will be fine He's a keeper from what I've read

I'm waiting for the next installment with baited breath!!! :D