When to start dating again?

littlemissmoney

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Taye

littlemissmoney wrote: »

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haha i never knew people would be THIS interested in my love life, or lack there of.

kate1976

Yay Taye!!!

Oh I am so pleased to read your update, I've been in a dark horrid mood all day but you have brightened it! I am really glad Dave apologised and of course sex will be on his mind (he's male, it's what they do, sorry boys!!!) but he's shown willing that he'll be patient and will go at your pace, he's a good bloke in my eyes!!

Just go with the flow, enjoy whatever happens and don't be pressurised into anything you're uncomfortable with! Let him help you sort child care etc and just relax and have fun! Of course kids are your priority but you have a life too which doesn't just mean being 'mum'

You deserve all the happiness you get! Enjoy Dave and keep us updated, I for one have become obsessed with this thread!! I love it!!

Take care Taye x

jinky67

Taye wrote: »

Not far off actually :T

Arrived at the gym and Dave was there milling about waiting for me, i have no clue why the dumbass didn't just text me to ask when i was going .

Anyway he had a small bunch of flower and a big smile, and like a total numpty i just burst into tears, he made me read the card didn't say much just "I'm sorry i didn't mean to hurt you, can i have my training partner back?"

I have to admit i sort of read it the wrong way i thought it ment that he wanted to be "just" training buddy's like we used to be, but i said yes anyway told him it was no big deal even though i was gutted.

It wasn't till he grabbed my hand and suggested we skipped the gym that i realised that maybe he was still interested. We went out and had lunch nothing fancy, but we had abit of a chat... long long chat really short.....

Basically he said he was sorry for scaring me off, he felt stupid as soon as i left he knew he'd pushed things abit far and abit fast especially because i'd been really clear that i wasn't ready for anything hot and heavy.

He joked about his "male-ness" getting the better of him and even though he found me very attractive it was no excuse for him to act like a jerk and try and push things. If i gave him another chance he promised to take 100 cold shower's a day till i was ready to take the next step.

erm what else ... oh he made it really clear that he's not after a fling, he's looking for a relationship and that he understood childcare was a problem but if i was willing to give him a go he'd help me sort it, so we could spend sometime together. All i had to do was promise not to hide behind the kids or freak out everytime he touched me because from now on he promised there would be no hidden motives and things wouldn't move any faster than i wanted them too.

Erm.. i think thats a pretty good summery?! ish ...

he cannot be a *normal* man....they never admit they are wrong:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I am so pleased for you, that he realised what he had done, and apologised for it.

but still you need to keep talking to him, and he to you as well.

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now remember we want every detail:p:p:p

Errata

Good to hear things are fine. Make sure you keep him to his promises, words are one thing - deeds another.
Set the pace you feel comfortable with, and you'll probably have to explain everything to him at every step of the way becuase he may be a good bloke but like all blokes he can't mind read. eg 'when you do that it makes me feel like this' whatever 'this' is.
Watch out for his sulking, once can be forgiven - twice is a pattern.
And don't forget, just like 16 year old lads don't die if they don't have sex when they want it - neither will he.
Best wishes

NAR

NOVASTAR wrote: »

:rolleyes:Nar - i'm a typical Libran!!!!

Me too! :beer: I always look for the middle road through problems.

k2tog

Taye - what brilliant news :j:j:j:j:j
So glad - and he made the move to apologise. This situation is probably not something he has encountered before either - if you can manage to keep talking to each other, neither of you has any gaps to fill in yourselves and misunderstand each other IYSWIM.

May I smugly point out, I was not a doubter of Dave

You clearly both like each other and on that basis it was far too soon to chuck it all in over something that could easily be sorted with some communication.

Lunar_Eclipse

Taye wrote: »

He did admit Sex HAD really been on his mind that night..... but he also said he was sorry, he just got caught up in things.

Yes I could see how he would have sexual feelings (because he's human and normal thank goodness), however I always thought it unlikely that he was trying to lure you in a pre-meditated way; aka an agenda.

Phew, this latest news is a massive relief ..... and that's just for us.:rotfl:

He really is a gentleman Taye; you're on to a winner. I think I might be in love with him myself. What a lovely story this is. Yes I'm joining the hat brigade!

Lunar_Eclipse

Taye wrote: »

he understood childcare was a problem but if i was willing to give him a go he'd help me sort it, so we could spend sometime together.

That is one of the many reasons I like him. And Taye, just do it.

Taye

Ok im home and running around the house like a maniac did i forget to mention i invited him over for some supper/late tea once the boys went to bed.. eek!!! everything is a mess and i have NO CLUE what to cook.

I figured since we where going to give this thing a go then i might as well give him a baptism of fire. Seriously if the state of my house scare's him off nothing will...

not quite sure what the hell he'll make of my sharing a bedroom with the boys, my stockpile or the general state of my house eeek... i have a massive hole in the celing of my living room where the boiler burst last winter and holes in all the doors loving reminders of my Ex.. joy of joy's!:o

im not sure this is such a good plan after all. But as someone said i guess he really needs to know exactly what he's letting himself in for and at least when he see's the state of my house he'll know that my explaination of my finances are not exagerated and it's not that i secretly live in a palace and can afford childcare when ever the mood takes me.

Phew ... ok please tell me this wasn't a totally awful plan?!