When to start dating again?

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NAR wrote: »

Sure it's just like riding a . . :eek: (I'll get me coat!)

Mills and Boon to Kama Sutra in one hop !

sarymclary

Taye - I've just read this thread from start to finish (so far) and have to say you've been so brave, and well done girl!

If it's any consolation, I met my BF by practically running him over in a supermarket carpark, making a complete fool of myself when BF's son asked if my son could go out with him for his birthday - I refused to believe it was the son's birthday, hence BF came over to the supermarket carpark to convince me, and I ended up almost knocking him over in my car as I was about to exit the carpark! I didn't have a clue that he fancied me, but accepted an invite to take the kids to the local woods for an afternoon when I went to collect my son from his house after a playdate with BF's son a week or 2 later. While on that walk, my 2nd youngest son (of 4!) piped up saying 'you could be my new daddy!' I was seriously considering burrowing down under the woods at this point.

I'd had very little experience prior to marrying, and he'd been my only serious boyfriend. I didn't know about looking for signals that someone like me, etc., and was terrified that as a mum of 4 kids, and being told by my ex I was 'sloppy seconds' so noone else would want me, my self-esteem wasn't great.

Fortunately my BF was patient, and seemed to like me from the start, so he persevered with my dippyness, and apparent lack of mutual attraction. I didn't realise he fancied me. It took him literally pulling me through his back door to kiss me to make me realise he did like me more than just as a mate.

He's stuck by me, and all my ups and downs, and all the ups and downs of my boys since then. It's been far from easy, but when someone loves you just for you, they do that. We've been together 6 years now, and I've just moved in with him (yes, I've taken that long to pluck up the courage), and this year we're taking our first family holiday together. I couldn't be happier, and know I've found my true soulmate, and can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him.

Good men are hard to find, but sometimes, just sometimes, they're there, right under your nose and you don't realise it. Where you live, how much cash you have isn't important, but who you are is.

Oh, and my BF doesn't drink either, but you'll find the more people you tell, the more will also say that they don't drink much either. I'd far rather have that, than someone like some of my relatives & friends who's husbands need carrying home after a night out. It doesn't mean they're any less fun, it just means they have the confidence to be who they are, even in social situations - that's a positive in my book.

I hope you have a lovely time on Sunday, and just let him give you a peck, or just peck him first. It will be a bit awkward to begin with, but believe me, it's really nice to have that closeness to someone again, even if your past has been a bit ropey. Give him a chance to prove to you that he isn't your ex, and is a lovely guy.

Heath84

BrokeBrunette wrote: »

yes but I'm old, so I need the older brother!!!

Age gaps dont bother me...

marksandsparksgal

Just checking in, I love the way this is developing! Sary, thanks for sharing your story. Makes me feel a lot better. I'm only 24 and have just come out of quite a long relationship and even when you're young like me you worry you won't meet anyone etc. (I never go out either!) so I'm really chuffed with this thread, it's given me hope there is someone lovely out there for all of us.

It actually put me in a super good mood yesterday reading this and something else on another forum. Isn't it lovely how a complete stranger having something go right can be such a positive example.

I love this forum!

x

angie_baby

marksandsparksgal wrote: »

Just checking in, I love the way this is developing! Sary, thanks for sharing your story. Makes me feel a lot better. I'm only 24 and have just come out of quite a long relationship and even when you're young like me you worry you won't meet anyone etc. (I never go out either!) so I'm really chuffed with this thread, it's given me hope there is someone lovely out there for all of us.

It actually put me in a super good mood yesterday reading this and something else on another forum. Isn't it lovely how a complete stranger having something go right can be such a positive example.

I love this forum!

x

:rotfl::rotfl:

I could have written this post! After reading this thread i went out last night and had the courage too make a move on a gorgeous guy i been thinking about for ages.

Im 24 and have been single for over 3 years now Hopefuly not for much longer though!

kate1976

I love this thread so much, you've come so far Taye and I'm really pleased it's going good for you, he sounds fab! Enjoy your picnic tomorrow and I hope the sun shines for you!

marksandsparksgal

angie_baby wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:

I could have written this post! After reading this thread i went out last night and had the courage too make a move on a gorgeous guy i been thinking about for ages.

Im 24 and have been single for over 3 years now Hopefuly not for much longer though!

Hoooray! Best of luck, then you can start your own thread too.

Heath84

Enjoy your picnic at the park today hun! It'll be lovely!:j


(and find out if there's a single brother!):D Hehe!

NAR

rach29 I need some help here with this chapter. Taye and Dave are having a lovely picnic and everything is going wonderfully well. How many kisses do you think we should let them have?

Horace

NAR - I guess it depends on whether the kisses are little pecks on the cheek or a full on snog:rotfl: I'd go for the full on snog before the boddice ripping:eek::rotfl:

Seriously, I hope the date goes well today...I can't wait to hear the next thrilling instalment:D