OMG hes married!

inkie

You may be good together, but how can you trust this man - your relationship has been built on a lie - if he decieve his wife, he can (and has been) deceiving you.

Thank goodness you found out now! Kick him in to touch gal!

Spendless

Also don't forget what you've fallen for is not a 'true image' of him, cos his true image is someone who lies and cheats on his wife.

skintchick

angel4 wrote:

good point sc...i only found out today, so am reeling a touch, i know what your saying, then i find myself thinkin maybe its ME n NOT HER he wants.

GAWWWWWDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

No, he doesn't. He wants some no-strings sex, If he was with you it wouldn't be no-strings, so he'd look elsewhere.

For your own sanity, end it now.

Oh, and when everybody finds out, it will be you who is the wrong and labelled a homewrecker, much more than him, it just isn;t worth it.

themadbird

Kick him to the kerb. Blokes who can't stay faithful are dirty dogs. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Don't fall for any of his nonsense - you're worth more than that.

Just imagine what his wife would feel like if she found out Don't do it. Leave well alone.

Bossyboots

angel4 wrote:

good point sc...i only found out today, so am reeling a touch, i know what your saying, then i find myself thinkin maybe its ME n NOT HER he wants.

GAWWWWWDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD

Thats a natural reaction but I agree with what others have said and my advice is the same as their's. Get out now! My friend's husband is a serial adulterer and you know how he gets away with it? Because he's nice. He is calm in a crisis, can make you feel no-one else is important (unless you are his wife of course) and he would do anything for you. What he really is is a lying cheating poor excuse for a human being who has taken the family to the edge of bankruptcy and the depths of despair. (added to which he's as ugly as sin but each to their own I suppose). My friend always believes he will change but of course he never does.

Do you really want to be "the other woman".

You have found out and it is a shock but the honourable thing to do now would be to back off and leave them to it. That's after you have followed elona's advice of course.

angel4_2

thanks everyone, notice its all women who are replyin ;-) i know your all right, i have text him and said we need to talk, dont want to do it over phone or text, so will "wait" till he can see me.

but thinking about it, our meetings do generally end up in bed... so maybe i was convienient... damn, n theres me thinkin i was special...

MMMMMMWwwwwwwwhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

PS.. ive just been speaking to my friend who doesnt realise what she has told me, she says she thought i knew both of them as his wife had asked for directions to MY house as she needed to visit me!!!!!!!!!! OMG SHE KNOWS DOESNT SHE?????

Amba_Gambla

I'm not a woman!

Bossyboots

angel4 wrote:

thanks everyone, notice its all women who are replyin ;-) i know your all right, i have text him and said we need to talk, dont want to do it over phone or text, so will "wait" till he can see me.

but thinking about it, our meetings do generally end up in bed... so maybe i was convienient... damn, n theres me thinkin i was special...

MMMMMMWwwwwwwwhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Just because you have fallen for this rat, doesn't mean you aren't special, you have simply made an error this time round.

angel4_2

special needs i think bossy...

Spendless

Bossyboots wrote:

Thats a natural reaction but I agree with what others have said and my advice is the same as their's. Get out now! My friend's husband is a serial adulterer and you know how he gets away with it? Because he's nice. He is calm in a crisis, can make you feel no-one else is important (unless you are his wife of course) and he would do anything for you. What he really is is a lying cheating poor excuse for a human being who has taken the family to the edge of bankruptcy and the depths of despair. (added to which he's as ugly as sin but each to their own I suppose). My friend always believes he will change but of course he never does.

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I think we have the same friend Bossyboots. My friends hubby has cheated on her whilst she was pregnant, with her best friend,and his sisters mate, and there the ones we know of. Friend always has him back and he always goes cos no one else would put up with it.
OP- don't think I don't feel for you I do. I was fortunate that the relationship had been over for some time when I discovered the truth. I thought I'd met the man I'd marry. He ended the relationship with no real reason why to me (he'd probably been caught). If I'd found out whilst still with him I'd have gone thru the emotions you're having.

Also be prepared for him to say that your friend who told you is mistaken/lying/jealous/doesn't have the full facts etc.