OMG hes married!

angel4_2

ive been seeing this really really really nice guy now for 5 months, all going well, except hes separated, and drives for a living so is often away over night.

However, it now turns out..... hes not separated, hes married! :eek: but ive fallen for him, wot do i do? tell him to get lost? tell him how i feel and see what he says? or run to the hills to lick my wounds?

GAWD .... i feel a rite narna

angel

elona

Run like hell but not before giving him cause to lick his wounds!

He is a liar and a cheat and do not waste time on him.

You deserve better - anyone does!

tru

Tell him to get lost. He's been lying to you (and his wife) for months, what makes you think he'll stop lying now And if he cheats on his wife, he'll happily cheat on you too.

You're not a narna , he's just a good liar.

Spendless

That happened to me. Only I didn't discover it until several years after we'd split up and I discovered about the 2nd child he'd had with wife whilst in a relationship with me cos someone I know read about his 2 kids on friends reunited.
He also wrote to me some years after we split up claiming he'd got engaged and his fiancee had died in a car crash. In fact she was his very much alive 2nd wife that he'd married less than 6 months earlier.

How've you found out? My advice is boot him in to touch now you are worth a lot more. Have a :grouphug:

angel4_2

:happylove mmm i have a feelin (DOH) that when he says hes busy driving and cant answer my call or text hes at home playin happy families. when his phone is off hes out of signal blah blah, ive started to question everything he says now.

But gawd i like him soooooo much and when we are together we are sooooo good .... but hes a liar, and i know this, but then maybe he wud choose me? for a while i guess!!

ang

Amba_Gambla

kick him in the nuts - make sure you do it hard, and leave....

angel4_2

a friend knows him & his wife, she happened to ask how i knew him as she works with his wife :eek:

and looking back, we always went out of town when out..

i keep tryin to think maybe he wud rather be with me than her an all that jazz. chances are hes just a lyin cheater and would do the same with me, or to and fro between us.

head wrecking stuff....

Katgoddess

Run like the wind, and put it down to experience. There are plenty of good men out there apparently. if you find one let me know if he has a brother.

skintchick

OF course he would do the same to you.

But aside from that, you are fogetting the first rule of sisterhood - don;t take another woman's man!!

You have to step away from it because he isn;t yours to have.

Would you want another women doing to you what you are doing to her (now that you know)? NO! Of course not!

So don;t do it to her.

He can only cheat if someone cheats with him.

angel4_2

good point sc...i only found out today, so am reeling a touch, i know what your saying, then i find myself thinkin maybe its ME n NOT HER he wants.

GAWWWWWDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD think ill go have a little cry and look for the rewind button

DAMN just when u think youve found someone you get on with....

Spendless

skintchick wrote:

OF course he would do the same to you.

But aside from that, you are fogetting the first rule of sisterhood - don;t take another woman's man!!

You have to step away from it because he isn;t yours to have.

Would you want another women doing to you what you are doing to her (now that you know)? NO! Of course not!

So don;t do it to her.

He can only cheat if someone cheats with him.

I have to agree. Read my post about the letter my ex wrote me and he actually left his 1st wife for 2nd wife (unknown to him I had his sisters number and she told me the story).