CSA Payments and Proof of a Cheating Girlfriend...

looby75

lesley1960 wrote: »

No ,you are the one who has to prove that the baby is not yours .

You have so much hatred ,its worrying and the only person who will suffer is yourself.
Your ex might have had a lucky escape

that's a bit harsh.

The OP did nothing wrong, his ex cheated on him with a "friend" of his, I think it's to be expected that he is angry, bitter and hurt.

It took me a lot longer than 8 months to get over my ex cheating on me, and I didn't have the added stress of wondering if I was about to have another child. Give him a bit of a break, if you read between the lines of his posts I think it's clear he's a decent enough bloke but just very very angry and hurt.

MartinL_4

thanks looby75 - i think we both know that i'm the one who's had the lucky escape...

articfoxy78

we were in similer situation (im the NRPP) he split from PWC when he found her sleeping with someone else and then wasnt sure of parentage
in oct 2003 CSA contacted him and he replied will do DNA he,d taken a DNA test by jan 04 but she didnt take hers (we now know there were mitigating sircumstances which we agree with) CSA implyed that the case was closed due to non coplience of PWC we thought she hadnt taken DNA as she wasnt sure who father was so we paid no money and had no contact from CSA or PWC
in sep 07 CSA contacted us again asking for another DNA which hubby did and in jan 08 found out he is the father
so we have made contact with PWC and have contact with child but the sting in our tale is that we now have £4,500 back pay as the case was never closed and has been backdated to oct 03
which has resulted in depression time off sick and now there are two families reliant on state

i feel for you OP i can realy understand all you are saying and i agree with most of it i hope you can sort it out the way you need to
(get PWC to do DNA with other bloke 1st)

catenorfolk

I do think that you are so missing the point!! i can understand your bitterness against your ex, but you will get over it, we all do. The best way to get back at her is to prove or disprove the child is yours. If you dont all you will be doing is causing yourself a big pile of hassle. you may be dragged to court and build up a big pile of debt. The courts wont have any sympathy for you as you will have made life difficult for yourself.Your ex will only have to fill out a few forms and that is it. You are the one that will have all the hassle, trust me. It is sooo sad when there are sooo many NR parents who want to see their kids, and make sure the children are brought up in a happy environment, then people like yourself try and screw up the system. poor little kiddie. Separate the emotion from the rest otherwise you wont be able to move on in your life and your child you have now will grow up to see you a bitter and twisted parent - Not a good idea!!