Support for people with Depression

newlywed

Hugs beachbeth. Best thing I ever found for period pain is a homeopathic remedy mag phos - worked better than painkillers for me - takes all the ache away like magic.

Must be a pain to have water dripping inside - thankfully living in a flat the only likelyhood of that is upstairs having a burst pipe.


I feel fed up too. Spent most of the night crying, trying not to sob as OH was sleeping. Felt really sad. It was like it had suddenly dawned on me that I won't see my dad again, and he'll never be there again Like it had only just hit me. Hopefully that means I'm finally working through things rather than trying to shut my emotions inside. I just want to feel like me again

Managed to fall asleep eventually but have sore puffy eyes and a headache and am at work pretending that I remember what I'm mean to be doing

Have just £15 for food to last till payday (friday - but can't shop till monday) and so meals are going to be very creative this week. :rolleyes:

We've got a long list of things to be done: we took the radiator out of the bathroom and never had the money to replace it yet, the shower needs an electrician to wire it up to the fuse board, the kitchen has never been tiled as we can't find any we like and can afford, the cheap leather sofa's have split and the stuffing's coming out, the shed is falling apart..... OH would do all the DIY it's just we don't have the money

beachbeth

newlywed wrote: »

We've got a long list of things to be done: we took the radiator out of the bathroom and never had the money to replace it yet, the shower needs an electrician to wire it up to the fuse board, the kitchen has never been tiled as we can't find any we like and can afford, the cheap leather sofa's have split and the stuffing's coming out, the shed is falling apart..... OH would do all the DIY it's just we don't have the money

I keep hoping we'll win some money on the lottery so we can get all our DIY done. We have had a leak in our kitchen flat roof too and its made a mess of our kitchen ceilling. I'd like to have a new pitch roof put on this and a new ceiling but it would cost thousands so we can't afford it. Plus, if we have a spare couple of thousand we prefer to go on holiday!:rolleyes:

I also hate our bathroom ceiling which is made of polystyrene tiles that are starting to look dirty. Theres so many niggles and I want to get the ones that we can afford done.

Hugs for you too, newlywed. Horrible to be at work with puffy eyes pretending you are ok.

Shiny.Side.Up

*hugs to everyone*

I'm not badly at the moment. Have had a bit of a struggle today getting back into the leafletting work I do - But then, wouldn't everyone feel a little down at delivering charity bags in the rain? LOL!

misspointy

Hi all

Just gatecrashing your thread for some advice....or as we can't give advice some tips maybe? Ive had depression on and off and often I wake up after a bout and am bouncing back to normality...this is come and gone on like this for many months now. Feeling really bad this week....couldnt go to work today as I knew colleagues would be able to tell there is something wrong and then i wouldnt be able to compose myself and would cry...which i hate doing. Off to see the doctor tomorrow...do u think its worth writing down how i feel as im not great at doing it once im in there...I either go in and say im a "bit low" or fall to pieces and feel a complete fool. Dont want to take anyone with me...partner offered but i know he will get upset as well. Do doctors dislike people going in loaded down with symptoms? Sorry if im babbling slightly ...my head is very foggy today. x x

janninew

Hi

I've been reading throught this thread and wasn't sure whether to post or not, but you all give such good advice so i thought i would give it ago.

Im a women in my 20's who has recently gotten divorced. I feel so isolated and lonely all the time. I don't have many friends and they all have partners/kids so are very busy. I do have a good job with nice people but i feel like i just put an act on most days, they don't know how unhappy i am. I hardly ever go out anywhere, this is due partly to money being tight (i have just bought my ex out of the house) and i also have dogs to look after. My dogs are my world and i don't believe i would be here if it wasn't for them. When i was with my husband, his family helped out alot, but now i have nobody to help me. So i have to leave them when i go to work, so feel really guilty leaving them when i don't actually have to go out.

I usually spend all weekend on my own in my house, i often go whole weekends without seeing or speaking to another human being, i feel so sad and isolated. This has been going on for nearly a year now and i don't know how much more i can take. Really don't know how i can get round this. Giving up my dogs is defiantly not an option, i love them to much. Just want to feel happy again.

hayley11

Hi everybody :hello:

I've been feeling a lot more "normal" (whatever that means) the last couple of days. I found out my mum has had swine flu since Thursday (probably why she was horrible to me) so we've made up now which is good.

I say i'm feeling more normal but I went out for tea with OH yesterday and started having a panic attack part way through, felt fine as soon as we were home though. I don't know what came over me.

Got to go to my brothers tomorrow, bit worried because it's like an hour away and if I got panicky being with my OH just 10 minutes down the road, how am I going to manage all that way by myself? Just have to try very hard. I have to go because it's his birthday and i'm probably the only person he will see.

Backs feeling slightly better, that always helps my mood. Gets me down so much when I can't do anything at all because my back and leg are too sore.

misspointy - I think writing things down is a good idea, i've done it myself before now. When I get upset my head gets so muddled, I can't remember what I wanted to say or anything. It will make it easier for the doctor as well

janninew - so sorry you're having such a hard time. Breaking up with somebody is awful and I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I know what it's like to feel lonely though, I can go for days without leaving the house and I often feel very isolated.

I'm so rubbish at giving advice but are there any classes you could join? Yoga, pilates, anything like that? Do you have any hobbies? Just trying to think of ways to get you out and about.

Have you spoke to your doctor about how bad you're feeling? Sometimes talking to somebody can really help, it's hard at first but i've always felt better afterwards

Big hugs to everyone xx

janninew

hayley11 wrote: »

Hi everybody :hello:


I say i'm feeling more normal but I went out for tea with OH yesterday and started having a panic attack part way through, felt fine as soon as we were home though. I don't know what came over me.


janninew - so sorry you're having such a hard time. Breaking up with somebody is awful and I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I know what it's like to feel lonely though, I can go for days without leaving the house and I often feel very isolated.

I'm so rubbish at giving advice but are there any classes you could join? Yoga, pilates, anything like that? Do you have any hobbies? Just trying to think of ways to get you out and about.

Have you spoke to your doctor about how bad you're feeling? Sometimes talking to somebody can really help, it's hard at first but i've always felt better afterwards

Big hugs to everyone xx

Thanks for the quick response! The only hobbies i really have are my dogs, they take up so much time and money! I use to love going to exercise classes (spinning and boxercise) but the only problem is my ex works at our leisure club (teaching classes) with the women he left me for, so as you can imagine, there is no way i can go there again.

I have been to the Docs when my ex first left and he gave me some tablets for sleeping and depression, these seemed to work but he took me off them after a few weeks as there were habit forming. I know i need to go to the Docs again but i get so upset and ended up sobbing my heart out.

Also i feel like a big part of my problem is being lonely and isolated. And to make matters worst because i work in a school ive just broken up for 6 weeks, would be heaven for most, but im dreading 6 weeks alone. Some days the only reason i get out of bed is to sort the dogs out, i don't even bother getting dressed as i never go anywhere. Not sure what to do with myself.

newlywed

jannine - is there any charity or volunteer work you could do in the six weeks? Any local animal charity that may want some help?

Are there any other gyms you can go to, or other places that do exercise classes?

janninew

newlywed wrote: »

jannine - is there any charity or volunteer work you could do in the six weeks? Any local animal charity that may want some help?

Are there any other gyms you can go to, or other places that do exercise classes?

Hi Newlywed,

Thanks for the response! Its funny you should ask about another gym, because i've just joined one!! Its a little further away than my local centre, but i have managed to get a good deal. $20.00 a month (off peak and corporate) plus there is no contract to sign so i can cancel when i go back to school. Im really going to try and go everyday, even if i dont meet new people, will be good to get out of the house and give me a reason to get dressed.

newlywed

I saw some stuff about green gyms too which I thought was interesting - basically outdoor gardening and conservation work with no experience or equipment needed. Seems like a good way to meet others.