Support for people with Depression

Tiff_2

Hi moo!
Hello there! Thanks for taking the brave step of introducing yourself, moo. A sincerely warm to the clan, hunnie!
Inspite of the fact that they're all ignoring me , I have to say that the guys on this thread really are full of great support and they are lovely souls.
Finally, someone with obviously impeccable taste, has taken pity and has stopped by to talk to the Tiffster! I must have logged off just at the very same moment you were posting, so I hope you weren't offended angel. It might have seemed very rude but honestly, I do have good manners - I was dragged up better than that. One of these days I'll remember to read first before I post and sign off! :rolleyes:

moo wrote:

aw, poor Tiff no friends around? just talking to yourself? I'll be your friend Im Moo, im a 25 year old single mummy. I've been a self harmer since 12 years old, currently in the process of getting the offical nod that I have Bipolar Disorder, (long process but just a formality in my case). I use recoveryourlife.com, which is a great help at times...

It can't be easy for you, moo. Hopefully once you've gotten the nod, it may open up some more doors for support for you, angel. I'll have a look at the site you mentioned when I have a minute. Another lovely poster, newly , also posted about a book she was reading that sounded very interesting. Keep us posted about your situation hunnie.

moo wrote:

Here, have a cookie....... **hands out a plate with choc chip cookies on**

Right, I'm orf for a catnap after all this excitement. Got to go guys - it's feeding time!Back in the a.m., I hope.;)
Be kind to yourself guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

MummyMoo

aw, thansk for the warm welcome everyone **group hug**. Im working my way through a book called 'Living with Bipolar' that was published this year. Its written by people who have lived with the disorder rather than doctors preaching about what they've read about in uni. The very best book I've read on depression in general (and I do buy a LOT of books, but apparently thats part of the disorder -implusive shopping sprees- so I can pretend for a while longer thats its excusable! lol!).

Recover my life site is really really good, but of course there are many teenagers on there too, so you have to wander around before posted, so that you can suss people out.

Tiff_2

Hi shaz!
Hey there hunnie, how are you?
I think I probably know the answer to that one already. I know you have a nerve-wracking day ahead of you, shaz but I just wanted to wish both you and Daniel good luck with court and to maybe add a few Tiffy thoughts too.
I wish I'd been up to posting to you sooner, hunnie so I'm sorry for that and apologies in advance if what I type doesn't actually translate from what's in my head.

Believe it or not, you aren't the first poster here who has a child in need of extended or intensive mental health care, on top of being ill themselves. I'm not saying this glibly but mean it as a way to say that you're not alone and though things might feel desperate hunnie, there are people who have been through similar experiences - and even those who haven't - who will understand.
I can quite understand why you would have been devastated at reading the psychiatrist's report on Daniel. No-one ever wants their children to have any kind of mental ill health but very sadly, it happens.

You are a very bright person shaz, and tell me if I'm wrong, but I feel that you've probably already anticipated this situation long before now, given all that's happened. I know it must be awful to have your most dreaded thoughts confirmed angel, because we only want the best of life for our children and this must feel like a self-fulfilling prophecy to you.

Yet sweetheart, I hope you'll also try and keep alive the hope that, with this diagnosis, more help will become available to and in place for supporting Daniel - and yourself and Josh. This could be the kindest thing for Daniel if it means he gets more intensive care rather than get ignored and pushed more towards those ''fringes of prison''.
He has an illness and it may help to think of it in those terms - that even if it comes to Daniel attending a secure unit, this is help for him to stay safe. I'm sure you dread what each new day could bring for him sometimes when he's out, that you worry about his safety too. Just as with any one of us, there are going to be good times and harder times in his life, but Daniel will still laugh, learn, play, achieve, be happy and love as well, inspite of anything else. He's still your Daniel and he loves you very much.

So today is about getting through today - and only that! Tonight will come and so will tomorrow, but you need to look after yourself today. You're bound to feel a roller-coaster of emotions angel, so be aware of that and ride it out as best you can. It may be a good idea to take a couple of headache tablets before you go, if you're prone to stress headaches. Make sure the tea cups are ready for when you get back and something a bit tempting or a treat too. If money allows, order yourselves a takeaway for dinner tonight because I'm sure you'll feel too exhausted to cook. Take a box of tissues and cry as much as you want to and don't forget to take some wtaer.

Hark at me bleating on! Told you I wouldn't make much sense.
My heart really goes out to you with what you're going through, shaz. And to equal it, so does my admiration of what a really great mother and great survivor you are! You probably don't see it like that hun, but it's true. You're doing a wonderful job with your boys.
And remember, you now have your ian to help you through this - maybe he was sent to be with you during this struggle, something positive to have in your life, iykwim? And I hope you know we're all here right behind you, sweetheart.

I've got to go angel but I'm keeping you in my thoughts, today especially. Good luck hunnie and keep us posted.
Be kind to yourself angel.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

shazrobo

thankyou for your lovely kind words of support tiff hun, they mean so much, sat here with tears in my eyes, i'm really touched by your reply.
yeah i often thought, what will happen in the future, try not to tho, cos it is upsetting, and trying to focus on getting through each day as best as we can,
thanks for the tip re the headache pills and water, i hadn't thought of those. taking the boys to a local pub tonight for a carvery meal to save cooking, not very mse , but if it makes life easier then sometimes its worth it.
tiff you really are this thread's guardian angel :A, you look after us all so well, and i really appreciate it.
big hugs
shaz xxx

beachbeth

Ive done the crying in the loo thing too, Shaz and Newlywed. Its horrible having to pretend everything is fine and try to hold it all together. I can remember watching the clock for home time because I knew I could go to my car and have a good cry and get myself home. The amount of times I badly wanted to turn the car around on the way in to work too because I couldn't stop crying. I usually managed to pull myself together before I got there but its not nice.

Look after yourselves. Tiff's advice is spot on as usual, Shaz.

LadyMorticia

Welcome Moo and Shiny. :wave:

I'm Anni, or Mouse as some people call me...or LM as I'm known here. Tehe.

Moo, I've used RYL before. It's a really good forum. I'm 22 and have noticed that a lot of people are in their teens.
I don't really go on it that much anymore. Not sure why though.

Hope you find a welcoming home here.

LadyMorticia

Haii guys. :wave:

So, basically, I feel really ill. I have a hot head, sore throat and a bit of a cough and me being the over-reactive person I am, am convinced I have swine flu and am going to die. :rotfl:

Now, I spent years wanting to die, but you know, I don't actually want to anymore. So, yesh, if I don't feel better tomorrow I shall be like "Sas, could you please phone ze doctor for meeeeee. Pretty please?" :rotfl:

x

shazrobo

just an update, been a long day, got to court at 10am, waited around til 11.30, got sent home, came back at 2, got called in at 2.30, hate waiting around as does daniel, he gets so anxious, and starts with more nervous tics, (think he may have tourettes too, waiting to see specialist)
anyway, short story is, the case has been adjourned yet again, til the 5th august, and if its adjourned again, we've been told by solicitor, it could end up as a trial :eek:

thanks for your support guys

love shaz xxx

newlywed

Thanks guys, good to know I'm not alone with the crying in the loo, crying at lunchtime thing - thought I was going crazy

Meant to go back to work on Friday. Feel like I should, feel more like me again today... just really scared I'll go back to where I was before


shaz, hope you get things sorted soon. The waiting around must be making things worse.

Shiny.Side.Up

Shez - You did well just to get to work. A few weeks ago I totally broke down on the way to work and ended up sobbing at the side of the road for 45 minutes. Safe to say I never returned to that (temporary) job.

Update for me. Went to see boyfriend who is not boyfriend this weekend and had a lovely time pottering around London, but was tired at work in Tuesday (I had to get up at 5 on tuesday morning to walk with BWINB to work so ended up waiting for 5 hours in Victoria for my train!) that I messed up someone's bill and ended up having to pay the difference back out of my tips.

To cut a long story short I left that night already fallen into bad habits; Convinced myself that the landlady didn't want me anymore, that she was going to fire me, that I was useless etc etc. Got home and gently talked myself down - She knows everyone makes mistakes, I made the money up, she admitted even she's done it, and gently persuaded myself my job was probably closer to "safe" than "lost". Went back in today and all was fine. :P