Support for people with Depression

Miroslav

newlywed wrote: »

I went food shopping two days after my dad died suddenly, and had absolutely no idea what I was doing just walking in a daze going might need that, might need that - £100 later and really not much stuff for proper meals :rolleyes:

Wouldn't mind if it was just me on my own, I'd live on rubbish food for a week (the chippy is only up the road) but with OH and two step kids I feel kind of responsible for helping them eat healthily I pay food, gas, electric and car costs and OH pays rent, council tax, sky tv etc. Only works out even if I keep a check on the budget and my car doesn't go wrong

This is why when I did a budget plan, I was told that I could have a small amount aside for entertainment. I tend to try and spend less on food than I have budgeted, so it gives me extra to put aside for emergencies and/or when I need to buy something to cheer myself up.

Their are always unforseen costs.

Tiff_2

Hi shaz!
How are you hunnie?
Okay, so I might have done something really stupid here, , so if you do intend to come after me, would you please be so kind as to give me 7 days written notice 'cos I'm not a very fast runner these days? Actually, I'm not a runner at all!

Seriously angel, I hope I haven't over-stepped the mark or offended you, but I know how very worried you are about Daniel's situation and my two brain cells came up with this...

Dear guvna,()
I'm writing to you in connection with the charges pending against my son, Daniel *****.
I wanted to give you further information about Daniel's situationwhich I feel is relevant, if I may.

I am a single parent of twins aged 14, Daniel and Joshua. Daniel has been diagnosed with ***, ***, *** and ***. His twin brother has been diagnosed with ***, ***, *** and ***.
This means that Daniel can't ******.
He has trouble with *****.
Daniel is registered as disabled and he also attends a specialised education school.

I hope this illustrates that with Daniel, this isn't purely a case of him being a rebellious, aggressive teenager. He is genuinely extremely sorry for the event that occurred and has apologised to me. As far as that evening's event is concerned, Daniel did not actually or intentionally attack ******* but unfortunately, ******* became physically involved due to her efforts at trying to restrain Daniel, which she did to try and help. I am not aware of her children being involved.
*If this is wrong angel, put it however you wish to explain it.*

I consider Daniel to be a vulnerable teenager who needs care and support to help him learn how to deal with and manage his illnesses and problems. I have always tried to bring my children up to respect others, to follow rules, to care about people and to have manners. If there are problems, I work with the professionals concerned to resolve them as best as I can and I am a responsible parent.

I myself am in poor health. I have ******* and I'm receiving medical help for this. Sadly, I am unable to work bcause of my health and I am in receipt of state benefits and so I have no savings with which to pay fines.
I do have some input from Social Services with the boys although I could use much more, especially during the holidays and at weekends, when I have no help. I can get exhausted because I don't get a break then and I'm expected to manage alone. This naturally affects my health too.
We are a loving family and there are many times when we share laughter and love, inspite of our health and money problems. I love them dearly and I will always put my sons first.

I understand that the law is there to protect people and I would never condone violence. This is one reason I have written to you because I feel that Daniel needs this protection too, for the reasons I've listed above.
I would be very grateful if the Court would consider and take into account, as mitigating circumstances, all the points I have made in this letter.
Thank you for your time.

Yours sincerely,
*****

It's only a guide letter I wrote and I just thought you might want to write one yourself and show it to your solicitor and see what they think. Show your letter to your professional to get appropriate advice because as you know, I'm just the thread cat and not a professional.
Erm, please don't tell the solicitor about me and the thread cat bit though!!!

At least you'll have had chance to put your views exactly how you feel on record. Feel free to use any, none or all of it, shaz. It may also be wise telling your solicitor if your friend may seem be a little keen to sue people sometimes. I don't know her situations and don't need to, but it may be worth telling your solicitor of the references she has made about other situations.
Again, sorry if I've done wrong with this letter, angel.
Be kind to yourself hunnie.
Much love,
Tiff xxx

Miroslav

Tiff wrote: »

though I still haven't done the 37 replies I owe miro yet.

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:

newlywed

Miroslav wrote: »

I don't think I deserve anyone

Of course you deserve someone - unless your past history is a mass murderer or something terrible :eek:

Miroslav wrote: »

and to be honest, I don't like anyone right now anyway and don't think I ever will.

What happened to Britney then???

Miroslav wrote: »

I don't have anything anyone would want.

I like myself, who I am etc etc, but nobody else does. I just don't like what I look like. I have debts, no job, rent a grubby little flat and have a history that no-one would want to touch. I'm shy and that puts people off as well.

Anyone who doesn't like you simply based on your looks is shallow and not worth your time and effort. Looks fade in any case. That tanned muscly bloke at some point will be pale, with skin cancer, arthritis and bald . No offense to anyone suffering any of those things of course - but looks fade. Personality is what matters most.

If you have debts, no job etc, have you thought of going bankrupt and just starting that one again? Know that takes some money to start with though

As for past history, well my OH had a cantankerous ex he was married to for 11 years, and two kids - boys at that :eek: I always said no never get involved with anyone that already has kids.... and look where I am - a wicked step mother :rotfl:

Miroslav wrote: »

I'm just getting angrier by the day and it's only a matter of time until someone is going to push me too far.

I can relate to that too. I used to listen to angry rock music all the time - my fave song was Muse - Cave

http://www.lyrdb.com/lyrics/178059.htm

Foo fighters - not enough space

and the linkin park one where they shout shut up (lots)

In fact just looked up a few other old faves and might dig them out - haven't listed to them in a while.

Miroslav

newlywed wrote: »

Of course you deserve someone - unless your past history is a mass murderer or something terrible :eek:

What happened to Britney then???


Anyone who doesn't like you simply based on your looks is shallow and not worth your time and effort. Looks fade in any case. That tanned muscly bloke at some point will be pale, with skin cancer, arthritis and bald . No offense to anyone suffering any of those things of course - but looks fade. Personality is what matters most.

If you have debts, no job etc, have you thought of going bankrupt and just starting that one again? Know that takes some money to start with though

As for past history, well my OH had a cantankerous ex he was married to for 11 years, and two kids - boys at that :eek: I always said no never get involved with anyone that already has kids.... and look where I am - a wicked step mother :rotfl:



I can relate to that too. I used to listen to angry rock music all the time - my fave song was Muse - Cave

http://www.lyrdb.com/lyrics/178059.htm

Foo fighters - not enough space

and the linkin park one where they shout shut up (lots)

In fact just looked up a few other old faves and might dig them out - haven't listed to them in a while.

I have no idea how you multi quote

No, i'm not a mass murderer Just suffered alot of various abuse, had a child when very young, people die on me all the time, history of depression and anxiety. There is more, I just can't write it all out. Will take too long. I am Mr Jinx!

Britney? Oh her. Ms Love her but gets me down alot. - Not a realistic target. She's nearly as messed up as I am. She saddens me greatly, but i'm addicted to her....she must be Toxic :rolleyes: I'm attracted to those with issues, and anyway, her persona is a promiscuous, shallow woman who has no respect for her fans. Of course, i'd like to think she is a lovely woman, but she's a walking disaster in her private life and Britney and I together would be an explosion waiting to happen :rolleyes: Not that i'd mind the opportunity as I wouldn't use her like everyone else. But like I say, unrealistic, especially when no-one else likes me, so why should the woman I consider to be a goddess

Well, I have big muscles, albeit averagely tanned. Sadly, not alot else. Looks do fade, but I never get to know anyone, or maybe they never get to know me, long enough to appreciate my personality, or lack of. I must have something about me that people don't like on sight.

I'm not in debt enough to go bankrupt, but enough debt to cause me distress whilst unemployed and for a few years beyond.

I think it's different for men and women. Women hold the cards in relationships. I know i've been told off before for saying so, but the women I meet are only interested in looks, money and status. I have met alot of women who are like that and I know not all women are like that, but it's me who meets them. Flatmate isn't like that, but we are not ever going to be anything more than friends, which is how we like it.

Flatmate says she's seen far less attractive blokes than me with partners, but then she said my last 2 girldfriends were gorgeous, when they weren't :rolleyes: so I can't really trust her looks judgement :rolleyes:

Are you planning on having your own children? Do you get on well with step kids?

Linkin Park - you mean - Shut up when i'm talking to you, shut up, shut upppppppppppppppppppppppp! ?

newlywed

Miroslav wrote: »

I think it's different for men and women. Women hold the cards in relationships. I know i've been told off before for saying so, but the women I meet are only interested in looks, money and status. I have met alot of women who are like that and I know not all women are like that, but it's me who meets them. Flatmate isn't like that, but we are not ever going to be anything more than friends, which is how we like it.

Flatmate says she's seen far less attractive blokes than me with partners, but then she said my last 2 girldfriends were gorgeous, when they weren't :rolleyes: so I can't really trust her looks judgement :rolleyes:

Well you have a very sound realistic attitude towards britney - to be honest.

Girlies looking for looks money and status are like most footballers wives - high maintenance and fake (fake tan, fake eyelashes, boob jobs, expensive clothes to cover up their more modest origins etc).

I know its an old chiche but I really did only find the bloke for me when I decided I was happy being me, being 30 summat and single and had absolutely no need for anyone else I think when you stop looking, stop analyzing, stop trying to be something/someone you are not, that's when you suddenly find someone.

Miroslav wrote: »

Are you planning on having your own children? Do you get on well with step kids?

NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Get fat, have something moving and wriggling around inside you, go to hospital, go through pain and then have something crying and wanting attention every hour?? And nappies!!! Nope!!! Not for me I have lots of nephews and nieces so seen all that and whilst I like kids.... I don't want them for me - others are welcome to have as many as they can cope with though I'd rather have a kitten - but not allowed one in our flat.

The step kids are fine (edit: nappies were long gone before I arrived ) - just if they were mine they would help more round the house instead of them sitting in front of the tv moaning they are bored and being waited on. OH thinks it unfair for them to have too many jobs as they have 2 homes.

Miroslav wrote: »

Linkin Park - you mean - Shut up when i'm talking to you, shut up, shut upppppppppppppppppppppppp! ?

Yeah that's the one
And foo's not enough space is just as loud and really good to listen to on a packed out bus to work

Miroslav

newlywed wrote: »

Well you have a very sound realistic attitude towards britney - to be honest.

Girlies looking for looks money and status are like most footballers wives - high maintenance and fake (fake tan, fake eyelashes, boob jobs, expensive clothes to cover up their more modest origins etc).

I know its an old chiche but I really did only find the bloke for me when I decided I was happy being me, being 30 summat and single and had absolutely no need for anyone else I think when you stop looking, stop analyzing, stop trying to be something/someone you are not, that's when you suddenly find someone.




NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Get fat, have something moving and wriggling around inside you, go to hospital, go through pain and then have something crying and wanting attention every hour?? And nappies!!! Nope!!! Not for me I have lots of nephews and nieces so seen all that and whilst I like kids.... I don't want them for me - others are welcome to have as many as they can cope with though I'd rather have a kitten - but not allowed one in our flat.

The step kids are fine - just if they were mine they would help more round the house instead of them sitting in front of the tv moaning they are bored and being waited on. OH thinks it unfair for them to have too many jobs as they have 2 homes.



Yeah that's the one
And foo's not enough space is just as loud and really good to listen to on a packed out bus to work

Well, I love Britney to bits. Flatmate says it's gone past healthy and that I am overly obsessed. I probably am as Britney takes up 90% of my time and thoughts, even spare money. I'd sooner eat cheaper food so I can afford the extra eBay item. I'll not go and see her in concert, 1 because I don't like being around people and 2 it's far to close to her. I couldn't promise i'd not try and get on stage with her :rolleyes: and when I had to leave the venue, i'd be gutted...so close, yet so far :rolleyes: Yeah, i'm sad

I don't want the sort of women we both describe, but i've yet to meet any genuine nice women who are single and interested.

It's not like I look. I don't go out looking for anyone as I don't get out much, I just know my past experiences. The fear is if I do meet someone, she'll be as messed up as the last two :rolleyes: With the little love I have ever had in my life, I probably just want someone to care about me. Whether it be partner. mother figure or close friend, which would have to be female as I won't ever be good friends with a male.

I admit preganncy doesn't sound fun, or the growing up after it. Not sure I want children in the future. I find it hard enough to look after myself.

Kids have to be given chores. They'll never learn otherwise. That said, flatmate does nothing and uses the 'at school (boarding) cleaning was a punishment, so I don't want to be reminded of being punished'

I don't like Foo Fighters. I do Linkin Park though

LadyMorticia

Hai.

Going to book an appointment with the doctor here soon with regards to my Glandular Fever and BPD. My mood swings are atrocious at the moment as is my anxiety/bad feelings/etc.

Herbalize_Your_Life

Hi everyone,

I have suffered with depression and anixety for 7 years, but its gettting much easier now after losing weight (I've always had no confidence due to being overweight)

So if anyone wants to chat, im here

Take care
Haley

Miroslav

Welcome along Haley.

Always nice to welcome someone new, although I suppose it would be better if no-one was depressed.

Enjoy your stay.