Support for people with Depression

shazrobo

morning all, hope everyone is ok this morning, got an appointment at the job centre later this morning, and feeling anxious about it. i have to attend as otherwise i lose my benefits. while i would love to work, there is no child care in my area for teenages with the problems my 2 have.

miro, (((big hugs))) after the last ex made me so ill with the way he treated me, i decided i would rather be on my own. i met a guy last march, who i had been chatting to online, we had a drink, and spent a further 6 moths chatting on line and texting. we met up for a meal in september, and he asked me if he could see me again, and i thought why not, we are still together and very happy, tho its not always been easy, but we've talked and compromised and things are going really well again. he's not a muscle man, or rich, in fact he is tall 6 foot, but 18 stone (nice and cuddly) poor(bus driver, paying child support for a child he's not even allowed contact with cos his ex a not nice person, who once tried to kill him), so he has mental health issues too. but he is so kind, sweet, loving, caring, very funny, and thats why i love him. there is someone out there for everyone, and we are most likely to find them when not looking, friendships often develop into more.

tiff, how are you hun?, thanks for the reply and the letter, I have already told solicitor all his health problems, and she has written to the pychiatrist, to get copies of his medical reports as evidence. case is in court next wednesday, it'll be a relief when its all over. after i have taken daniel back to school on weds me and ian off to blackpool for 2 nights, it'll be first time i been away with out kids, daniel will be rresident at school, and josh will be away on a two night school trip :j:j:j, something to look forward to after the bad stuff

hugs all

shaz xxx

Miroslav

shazrobo wrote: »

morning all, hope everyone is ok this morning, got an appointment at the job centre later this morning, and feeling anxious about it. i have to attend as otherwise i lose my benefits. while i would love to work, there is no child care in my area for teenages with the problems my 2 have.

miro, (((big hugs))) after the last ex made me so ill with the way he treated me, i decided i would rather be on my own. i met a guy last march, who i had been chatting to online, we had a drink, and spent a further 6 moths chatting on line and texting. we met up for a meal in september, and he asked me if he could see me again, and i thought why not, we are still together and very happy, tho its not always been easy, but we've talked and compromised and things are going really well again. he's not a muscle man, or rich, in fact he is tall 6 foot, but 18 stone (nice and cuddly) poor(bus driver, paying child support for a child he's not even allowed contact with cos his ex a not nice person, who once tried to kill him), so he has mental health issues too. but he is so kind, sweet, loving, caring, very funny, and thats why i love him. there is someone out there for everyone, and we are most likely to find them when not looking, friendships often develop into more.

tiff, how are you hun?, thanks for the reply and the letter, I have already told solicitor all his health problems, and she has written to the pychiatrist, to get copies of his medical reports as evidence. case is in court next wednesday, it'll be a relief when its all over. after i have taken daniel back to school on weds me and ian off to blackpool for 2 nights, it'll be first time i been away with out kids, daniel will be rresident at school, and josh will be away on a two night school trip :j:j:j, something to look forward to after the bad stuff

hugs all

shaz xxx

I hope your appointment has gone well Shaz.

I like being on my own alot of the time, because I can do what I like, but i'd love someone to share it with, but only the right person. I'm not sure how many people were here late 2006 when I was seeing 'S', but she was the wrong person and it did me more damage than good.

I'm glad you have found someone. It's good to have a bond with someone and be able to share things with them. I honestly don't think I will ever find that. People have been telling me for years that I will, and all I attract is the shallow, the easy and the damaged I know everyone has issues of some sort, but having been with damaged people, two badly damaged people = disaster. I'd be amazed if anyone ever liked me for me, truly shocked.

Good luck in court next week and enjoy the time alone!

shazrobo

well i have been brave this morning, i went into town on the bus alone(first time in years) to save parking fee's, it wasnt as bad as i feared.
the back to work interview went ok, gotta go back every 3 months like i usually do. because i claim carer's allowance, they cant force me to get a job, as i need to be available for sons.
just had a lovely suprise, my mum has bought me a lovely bunch of flowers to say thanks for all the running around i have done for her recently, and will comtinue to do whenever she needs me. she will be more independant again now, as we bought her a second hand mobility scooter last night.

hugs

shaz xxx

Miroslav

:T Shaz

Glad today has gone well so far :j

Miroslav

Another big argument with flatmate :rolleyes:

I could have a fight with my own shadow on a cloudy day right now :rolleyes:

shazrobo

Miroslav wrote: »

Another big argument with flatmate :rolleyes:

I could have a fight with my own shadow on a cloudy day right now :rolleyes:

sorry things are difficult between you and flatmate right now, hope it can be resolved

hugs

shaz xxx

Miroslav

We'll get over it, we always do.

It started off with Britney after I stated an opinion that she didn't agree with.

Just because I like someone, it doesn't mean I agree with all that they do and flatmate thought I was being harsh

It then escalated!

Sazbo

hello It's the weekend! :j :j Here tiffy, tiffy... I got a nice saucer of milk for you...

I'm watching gardeners world. not right really, is it?:o

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxxx

newlywed

Hi all,
I've got a doc appt on monday for something and still debating whether to talk to her about some sort of tablets

Thing is, it isn't every day for me. Monday I wanted to lock the bedroom door and not come out for a month (but forced myself to go to work). Felt a bit better as day went on. Tuesday I was fine. Weds I just didn't really want to carry on living, not that I was going to do anything, just that if someone pulled the plug on my life then that would be ok, I'd just give in. Thurs I felt a bit better untill the evening. And then friday felt down until I got up and got moving really.

Now I'm sat here crying coz OH wants me to make cups of tea for him and the kids all day and do stuff for him (while the kids sit on the backsides in front of the tv - one in their bedroom the other on the sofa and both watching althletics so I'm sat in the bedroom on my own - it's that or the kitchen and I'm fed up of feeling like the hired cook and waitress) and yet he can't go and get one thing from the shed for me and won't let me go and get it either. Tempted to just go get it and risk a row but not sure I can cope with an argument.

I can't even remember the last time anyone made me a cup of tea. The only time they make it is when I pop out to the shop for 10 minutes and then they don't offer me one when I get back. All hell would break lose if I did that to them.

I just feel like I'm so up and down that I don't really know where I am.

I've got no money to fix the car at all, even when I get paid I've got nothing spare at all. Got no idea where or how I'm meant to get the money so I said I'd reduce my DMP payment for the month to cover it and he's telling me not to do that but doesn't offer any money or any help in fixing it or paying for it. Maybe I'll just put it in the garage and then not pick it up till I've got money. I don't mind walking everywhere, it's them that moan continually about not having a car and not being able to do without it. Then that'll wind up his ex nicely as well, since it's too much trouble for her to get off her backside and drop the kids 5 minutes drive to us, yet she expects me to do it 6 times a week to her twice a week. She even moans if she has to get up in the morning to open the front door to let them in - her own kids!!

Sorry rant over for the minute.

beachbeth

Sorry you are feeling low, newlywed. I think I would mention it to the doctor if I were you. It sounds as though you are low enough to warrant some sort of medical help. It may also give you the strength to stand up for yourself. You can't have everyone taking you for granted like this - its not fair.

Put your foot down and set aside some "me" time. They will moan when their maid service has gone on strike but it could also give them a wakeup call. As long as there is someone willing to make cups of tea and run around after them they will let it carry on. Perhaps you should tell your OH exactly how you feel and that you need some pampering sometimes too?