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Miroslav

Shaz. The fact is, Ian needs to treat you better and start acting like a man.

You have to ask, long term, is this going to work? You have a better idea than any of us, and if you want it to be long term, but realistically it's not, then you have a big decision to make, because the way things are, you aren't happy.

I can't find a woman who wants a relationship and I don't think I ever will. I don't have much to offer, but I would never treat anyone the way Ian does and most importantly, I wouldn't let anyone treat me the way he treats you. I've been there and wish i'd stopped it sooner, even though I so wanted for it to improve.

Anyway, that's not advice, as every situation is different, but if you aren't happy...

I hope the situation improves, but Ian really needs to grow some balls and start behaving more mature than an 18 year old who wants the best of both worlds.

Miroslav

My tooth broke today. The one next to the front one. After 6+ years of dentists refusing to do anything (one went as far as giving me an injection to do a filling, but ran out of time, so drilled it to make it into 'a chip' :rolleyes: I've had bad dentists ever since I turned into an adult. The sort that do bodge jobs and i've been suffering ever since a teeenager.

So now i'm even more depressed. I've now got a kinda gap that i'm conscious about, i'm still missing my cat and flatmate and I have argued about it because she's getting on with life and i'm mourning my way and tomorrow (Monday 11th) would have been my daughters 19th Birthday, so i'm hardly gonna feel good.

Flatmate doesn't know. She knows my history, but not dates. I did tell her, but as with anything, she didn't take any of it in.

I'm struggling to do anything right now. I just see no future.

roxalana

Sorry you are feeling bad miro.

Hope things get better Shaz.

I'm going to be away for a week. Best wishes to everyone.

shazrobo

(((big hugs))) miro, there's me moaning feeling sorry for myself and you are having to face this. couldnt imagine life without my sons, my heart goes out to you.

i know i deserve better, i know its not going to work long term, told him as much, but like an idiot also added i still love him. wish i didnt would make life so much easier.
if he dosent change tho, thats it, after the way my last ex treat me, no man is going to keep on hurting me.

where you going roxalana, is it a holiday

shaz xxx

roxalana

Yeah - menorca

I've got 2 weeks off work but only going away for 1 week.

Hope the weather will be ok and that I'll feel ok. Had my last pill on Friday

shazrobo

roxalana wrote: »

Yeah - menorca

I've got 2 weeks off work but only going away for 1 week.

Hope the weather will be ok and that I'll feel ok. Had my last pill on Friday

hope you have a great time, and the weather is good for you.
hugs shaz xxx

Miroslav

Shaz - You have every right to moan! I hope you get it sorted adequately soon. Both you and the boys deserve some stability and happiness.

Have a nice holiday Roxalana.

beachbeth

Sorry you are feeling bad, Miro. The anniversaries can be hard to cope with but I hope you aren't feeling too low today. Hugs and best wishes.

Horasio

Shaz

I have to agree with the other posters.

He sounds to be very selfish and you have to assess whether he is good for you in the long run.

When we feel vulnerable, I reckon others pick up on it and treat us badly. We all have to not NEED others and develop our own self esteem. If you accept bad treatment from others, then we are saying we don't matter and that will make us feel worse. We have to set standards that suit us, not fit in with other people's emotional agendas.

I wish I could take my own advice. My family don't make me feel happy and I keep taking it.

I have to make a HUGE decision. Do I sign up here for a year?

Do I sign and stay as we are?

Do I leave and get a place of my own. I don't have a job and haven't worked for years. I wouldn't know where to start looking. I don't know how to set up the internet or any other set up type jobs in a new place. Could I get a job or a life alone? Could I cope with any horrible people? I have been too depressed to get any friends.

Our landlords kept bodging up our heating, then someone came at the weekend and they found another big fault. They are so pennypinching and they treated us like trash to start with. My OH went and had a chat to sort them out. I'm not so sure I could have stopped them treating us badly.

I can't go too cheap on the accommodation as it is very likely I will be amongst noisy and nasty people. My mother has noisy neighbours, so flats are out of the question and anywhere with noisy kids will drive me nuts.

shazrobo

hi all

big hugs for miro today, hope you get through the day ok, thinking off you

been to see my cpn this morning and had a good long chat, and she has helped me rethink the way i feel towards ian. he is a selfish pr!ck, and from now on i come first, well at least second after the kids

hugs all

shaz xxx