Support for people with Depression

shazrobo

CCStar wrote: »

Blimey, is his hand OK?:eek:

You really need a break and sending strengthening vibes to cope with the other 'child' oops sorry Ian:D

his hand is fine, he's a tough cookie, not like me lol
had a really good talk with ian tonight, got a lot of things out in open, he really opened up, as usually he dosent show how he is feeling, after he has been hurt in past. told me how much he loves me, but also explained that he works 50% of all weekends, and likes to go to rugby like he always has done. told him how much i enjoyed being with him on holiday, and wish we could do same at weekends. dont think he actually realised how much i missed him, and he said he loves spending time with me too, and we do spend days together wen he has a day off midweek, but he has agreed to a compromise on a sunday, and spend one sunday a month with me and the boys :j. kissed and made up, then sent him home lol.
got enough on in morn with josh, need to have a really good talk with him, and see if i can get to the bottom of whats troubling him

shaz xxx

beachbeth

Im so glad you could have this talk with Ian and clear the air. It makes such a difference if you can do this instead of bottling things up and getting frustrated. I hope things go well for you now with Ian.:T

Thanks for the info re DLA. I must admit I was reluctant to claim it because it means more medicals (I believe a doctor will come to see me?) and, after my tribunal, Ive had enough at the minute!

shazrobo

morning beachbeth, i never had to have a medical when i first claimed dla, neither did i have to have to have one this time when i did the renewal. i do believe tho, that different people have had one. if i were you, i would put as much detail in as possible, how it affects you day to day, this itself is depressing as it a long form to fill in. also add details of medical help you receive from gp, to cpn if you have one, in fact anybody who u receive treatment from

shaz xxx

Miroslav

Well, i've had my letter calling me for a medical. I know I won't passs it, no matter how I come across.

I'll lose some money, so my debts won't be being paid off and things can only get worse.

1 cat down, 4 to go and then i'm out of here. I hate life and don't see the point of it. No support from anywhere. Even flatmate and I have had enough of each other. She's made it clear she doesn't want my dead cat being spoken about, so I don't even have that anymore.

Will have to get a job, which is fine, as long as no-one pesters me into a negative reaction, then everyone will have wished they'd just left me alone :rolleyes:

shazrobo

hi miro, sorry to hear your feeling so down.
when is your medical?, is it so you can go back to work, or is it for benefits?
you can always talk about your cats here, always someone to listen
hugs

shaz xxx

beachbeth

shazrobo wrote: »

you can always talk about your cats here, always someone to listen
hugs

shaz xxx

I agree. Talk about any of your cats - I love animals. I wouldn't mind seeing pictures too if you want to post them. I know how bad it feels when you lose one because I have recently lost a lovely dog. I miss her and want her back badly but I can now watch my home movies of her without getting upset. Im going to plant some nice flowers soon over where she is buried.

Please come here anytime and offload, there are a lot of lovely and sympathetic people here.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well.*hugs* Miro you can chat about your cat here I love animals I havent done much today but I did go for a nice walk earlier and been on here for ages entering more competitions.

Have a lovely evening everyone!

love and light,

Katie xxx

Miroslav

It just feels like me against the world.

I'm fed up of being told to get on with my life, you can get another cat, or as someone said 'Don't get another one, it's about time you started reducing'. But in the main, it's the 'get on with it' attitude from people. People who when they have lost someone, expect you to drop everything and give them attention. I don't want attention, just time and to be left alone.

It's always been the case. Anything happens to me, i've got to get on with it, anything happens to everyone else, they need support and attention.

I'm fed up with being the friendly one who never gets anything in return, so maybe it's time to stop being friendly and start throwing my weight around :rolleyes:

My medical is next week. If i fail, I lose £25 a week (I already get under £100) and I have to then actively seek work. If I pass, i'll be fine. But they are tougher these days. They'd sooner me go around smashing things up, as long as i'm in a workplace, than let me work my way through things.

Jo_R_2

Gosh I can't believe how quiet it is on this thread recently!

Miroslav - I used to be a bit like that, feeling like I was forever giving and no one would offer anything but wanted me there when they were having a hard time. I found that the best (and only!) way to deal with this is to state, right out, bluntly (not in a mean way but loud and clearly) what you need. Sometimes it is hard to say, yes I need help, can't you see that? But if you don't, people don't always see or understand, sad as it is to say. And if they don't want to help... well at least you know that then.

I'm having middle of the week blues I think. Nothing major, but it's one of those days with nothing planned, I'm tired from broken sleep because of baby, the house needs so much doing to make it look half decent and no matter how much I do in a day, it hardly looks like I've scratched the surface - how does that work? Kids I suspect:rolleyes:

I'm so tempted to ring my parents and ask them for a hand, but they've already agreed to have DDs this weekend so we can paint downstairs so I feel like I'm asking a lot. Maybe I should take my own advice as per above - the least they can say is no I suppose. If they were round the corner I probably wouldn't feel so bad but it's a half an hour drive for them.

I'll see how I feel in a bit and take it from there I think.

Hello to everyone anyways :wave:

Miroslav

It is very quiet at the moment. Most people must be happy! Which is a good thing. I just hope it's true!

I tend to be quite blunt when I need to be and no-one is listening. It then puts people in a position to say i'm being aggressive or unfair, when i'm not. They just tend to try and use that against me, after all, who will people believe, me or the other person, usually a woman, smaller than myself. People honestly don't think a guy, who looks like me, needs any help. It's just the way i've got used too, no-one takes me seriously.

Hope you got around to doing something. I know how it feels to just not know where to start. It's been 2 weeks since my cat died and I have barely done a thing. I just can't find the energy to do anything.