Support for people with Depression

UnluckyT

hi all, hope all okay and hugs to all.
although it easiar said than done sock knitter, try not to worry, im sure you have done all you can to help. it easy to comfort eat/not sleep properly if your inclined that way - im also inclinded to eat too much when im stressed. once your gradually back on track/life carp eases off im sure things will get their and the weight will come off. try not to beat yourself up about it if you can? another thing i do? hope all goes well monday and everything gets sorted? big hugs.
thanks geminilady, could be the depression and the way im feeling. especially as i dont really have a social group or friends other than my drama group.
plus as i say im trying to lose some of my 16 stone weight, get some of my self confidence/belief back and long for things to be okay and to be able to do things like i used to such as horse riding/socialising with friends.
although its been like this for a long time, and picked up on things with the way people talk to me plus treat me as one colleage has an appalling attitude esp to those with a mental illness. one person ive worked with even told me ive not got athsma, doctors hand inhalours out like sweets in the last few years despite ex colleage not being medically trained and me bieng diagnosed at 6 years old some 24 years ago?
have tried talking to them but all that seems to be said by them is if i can get them to talk to me properly is that im imagining it, i think too much and im soo/too tight with my money nobody likes me/wants me about plus more often than not i dont go out when i do get an invite or organise things myself is why nobody will invite me out or likes me.
plus one girl has said nasty stuff about the others to me and because i told them what she said, its one of the reasons she doesnt like me. and said girl's had the cheek to say i miss heard and constriud a conversation. plus girl walks off in a huff away from me whenever im about and the said girls about, apparently because she wants to hit me as it annoyed her that much?
ive even spoken to management, more to make them aware of the situation plus try to make them clear im not coping to well with it etc.

GeeBee38

Raksha wrote: »

Goblin, how's the job going?

Hi, thanks for asking, it's terrible at the moment, it's with an agency, was great at first, now they are messing me about.
One minute i have shifts then the next minute i don't.
was asked to work for 8 days, staying in a hotel etc, which i was really happy about.
got a text this morning, they don't need me now :mad:
So that's yet another week without work, no money coming in, no money for food shopping, bills etc.
It's all just added stress, i thought i was doing ok, but now, i just feel like throwing myself under a train, i feel so down, my life is just so horrible, i don't know how much more i can take

Herewego

Hi Goblin36

Agencies can be a pain may that job wasnt meant to be try to make a positive out of the negative at least you dont have to stay away from home in a strange bed.
I do feel your pain im working for an agency at the moment but i never know when the work will stop.
I hope your feeling a bit better I know what you mean about feeling down im having a paticularly bad day with tears on and off just wosh the black cloud would go away.

Try to find a even if its only a small one we are all here for you

HWG x

Raksha

I've been attending an 'Arts for Mental Health' group and it's amazing the things you can find out.... Particularly when somebody isn't happy with the treatment they've had from a particular 'health professional' - it's such a comfort to know I'm not the only one who has been treated badly by our local team, and I now know the sort of behaviour I can expect, so can go to my next meeting forewarned (OH will be coming with me, and we're going to record the meeting)

GeeBee38

Herewego wrote: »

Hi Goblin36

Agencies can be a pain may that job wasnt meant to be try to make a positive out of the negative at least you dont have to stay away from home in a strange bed.
I do feel your pain im working for an agency at the moment but i never know when the work will stop.
I hope your feeling a bit better I know what you mean about feeling down im having a paticularly bad day with tears on and off just wosh the black cloud would go away.

Try to find a even if its only a small one we are all here for you

HWG x

Thanks Herewego, thanks for your kind words, yes agencies are a nightmare, i still feel down but not as bad as i did, i hope you feel better soon, too, sending luck happiness and big (hugs) your way,

G xxx

UnluckyT

hugs goblin36, i hope things get sorted/pick up for you soon.
hugs to all and hope all is well.
same crap different day but not coping too badly so far. trying to be positive, look on the brighter side and plod on the best i can etc.
ive kinda been up, down or all over the place and confused to a point. stopped being vegaterian last wednesday and have been eating meat. mainly because i felt i wasnt eating okay, concerned i lacked iron/was run down plus wondered if i did the right thing or i did it because of the depression. like now i wonder if im doing the rignt thing/feel guilty for eating meat again or it depression although i feel a little better in a sense after eating a little meat. a sense of relief too plus family seem relieved too and pleased.

UnluckyT

hello all, hope all okay. big hugs to all, more so to those in need and hope things pick up/work out soon for you.
not bad at moment, much same although i seem to be coping/happier at the moment. felt a bit fed up/down this time yesterday but i made myself go out for a bit to do bits i needed to and have a good window shop. seemed to take my mind of it a treat.

ItchyFeet

Hi, i've never posted on this thread before but i just feel so hopeless at the moment and have no one to talk to. I find weekends really hard to cope with, especially long ones. I often don't speak to or see anyone between finishing work on Friday and going back on Monday morning.

I only have one friend and she's often busy with her boyfriend at weekends. I have family close by but i'm way too old to be spending all my time with my parents!

I have no motivation to do anything and before i know it, it's teatime and i've done nothing all day other than watch tv. I then feel disgusted with myself and too embarrassed to tell anyone. I often don't eat other than breakfast at the weekend because i can't be bothered.

I've recently joined Spice to try to make some new friends and keep busy at the weekends but the event i'd booked for this weekend was cancelled so i've just been crying on and off all day today and thinking about a boyfriend i split up with a while ago.

Do other people find certain times of the week more difficult, and what do you do to counter it?

sock-knitter

hi itchyfeet, i find weekends hard, particularly sundays and bank holidays which we've just had. my friends are all busy with their families, my sons left home last year. i do see my mum and dad, but thats as boring as staying at home lol, i'm 41, and would love to meet new friends, but i lack confidence also.
just come off anti depressants 2 weeks ago due to side affects, and feel really low at mo, sorry i'm not helping much, but wanted to post to let u know ur not on your own
shaz x

lovethymini

Hi Itchy feet, you're definately not alone. Good idea about joining a group - shame that meet was cancelled. I completely crash when things are cancelled too.
How about some things in the kitchen that you can just grab and eat like bananas, or a fruit and nut mix? These could help raise your energy levels.

I'm feeling flat at the moment, Dad's been told he has prostrate cancer which has spread to his bones. He's cut out all dairy and red meat, and looks really well but my mind state is now paranoid that I too will get cancer, I've always been obsessed with dying.