Support for people with Depression

jenniewb

puss14 wrote: »

Hello, I felt the need to post here as I have been feeling very low for quite some time now. Probably close to a year, I spoke to my Oh about going to see my GP and possibly going on anti-depressants and he is very anti this. I was also negative about it as I am not keen on taking medication unduly but I have been feeling so bad lately that I have been thinking it may be the best path to take. My confidence has plummeted. I don't like to answer the phone and I will let it go through to the answering machine, I'm not that keen on seeing people generally so social contact is kept to a minimum.

I used to be quite confident and friendly type, chat with anyone have a laugh but I feel like a totally different person nowadays. The only person I've talked about it with (apart from OH) is my best friend who suffered from it a few years ago and he thinks I should be getting help. I just feel so overwhelmed, unhappy and quite ashamed of myself that I feel this way.

Just a question but has your OH had any form of depression? just wondering why he is anti medication when medication has been shown to help those with depression? make sure your not taking on his mindset for a problem which you suffer with- I hope your able to find something that helps. Maybe discuss with him your fears and remind him that even if you did decide to take something to help (totally OK to do btw) it doesn't have to be forever, it doesn't have to change your personality and it can make things a hell of a lot easier to tollerate. Please don't feel ashamed there is nothing to feel ashamed about, depression is a regocnised illness, not a sign of weakness although it can make you feel weak and useless it does not mean that you are either of those two.

geminilady

COCO-POPS wrote: »

hi puss14, i would be going to talk to your gp too, they may offer counselling or other help besides medication. and if you are prescribed meds, then you wouldnt be taking tablets unduly, as you would be taking them for an illness ifswim?

Tiff, how are you?, not seen you post in ages hope things are going well at tiff towers

shaz, how are you? hope the new fella treating you better than the last one

gemini, how are you?

lady m, hi, i remember you

back later

coco-pops

Hi i am fine thanks enjoying the break from work i live for my holidays.I am a little worried about Tiff as well hope she is ok as i know she has a lot of health problems.I hope she realises how many off us care about her and that we are here for her if she needs to vent.

twinklebelly

puss14 wrote: »

Thanks for your response Coco pops. I think one of my problems is that my GP died last year and I would have to go and see someone i don't know, which I guess in some ways could be good also.

Please don't hold back from seeing your GP, I know how you feel about a change in GP. My last one left and his replacements have not been great, theres been 2 in 2 years. The lovely GP I now see is only there for 6 months but she is the best thing that has happened to my practice, I had concerns about seeing her as I couldn't get an appointment with the other practice partner. I'm so glad I did, she has so much time for you. My OH is anti medication etc, he has had depression in the past. I think he can now see it is helping although I still have dark days.


Hi Miroslav, glad you had a good couple of days as you wanted. One of the cheeky ones has decided to use the litter tray rather than going outside...the amount of litter kicked out can only lead to one suspect :rotfl:, who is currently sunning himself...outside!

Hi COCO-POPS, don't think we've met before :wave:

Today I've avoided the rain showers and been in to town. Off to my mums in a bit for a belated birthday tea for my niece. reminds me must pump her balloons up and keep them away from the cats! Must be having a good spell as no anxiety bout going back to work tomorrow, first time in a while .

And finally a thought that someone posted on another site: DEPRESSION is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you have been trying to be strong for too long....something that sums me up and I agree with totally.

Catch you later

x

vpb23

sh1305 wrote: »

Are you getting any support?

Hi,

I got referred from hv to speak to someone, they have been out to house twice now but to be honest they have just asked for my details and left again!

vpb23

pixie76 wrote: »

((((hugs)))) I suffered from PNT following the birth of my third son and understand how you feel, there was very few people I could share it with and my husband wasn't very sympathetic. It will be okay though and I promise it gets easier and better.xx

Thank you- at least i know that there is light at the end of the tunnel! I dont understand why some men find it so hard to be sympathetic for something like this....maybe its because its not a visible illness.

twinklebelly

puss14 wrote: »

. I definitely need to do something, I can't go on feeling this bad.

This is exactly how I felt a year ago when I first started going to the GPs and again in January when I decided I was just hiding how I felt and That I was no better. I was just feeling so bad and low, and cry my eyes out to the new GP. The above sentance was almost word for word what I said to new GP, I was scared of getting to rock bottom and not fetting up again.

Try and get an appointment this week if you can and let us know how you get on. If you need some medication then accept it and don't see as a weakness. They may also have counselling. I've been, it was just good to talk to someone impartial.

Hugs xx

Indie_Kid

vpb23 wrote: »

Hi,

I got referred from hv to speak to someone, they have been out to house twice now but to be honest they have just asked for my details and left again!

Please go back to your GP. You must keep on about getting help.

elfen

Not in the best of ways today - in the grip of the ED today...can't do anything right.

Trying to sort myself out may take longer than I thought...

jenniewb

elfen wrote: »

Not in the best of ways today - in the grip of the ED today...can't do anything right.

Trying to sort myself out may take longer than I thought...

.... I know the feeling

jenniewb

puss14 wrote: »

My Oh says he understands as he has had periods where he has felt very low, he doesn't refer to it as depression more of a mid life crisis for him. I don't think he really understands how bad it has been at times and I think he thinks there are other ways of dealing with it. I have always been anti medication for depression as my aunty was prescribed valium by her GP and suffered terribly when going through withdrawal. Probably a bit stupid as i realise that GPs don't prescribe this nowadays but I'm just a bit concerned about taking medication, having said that I still haven't ruled it out as i hate the way im feeling atm. I appreciate you telling me not to feel ashamed as I think this has been the hardest part the shame. I've always been a very strong person could handle nearly anything thrown at me and it's been awful feeling like this. There is a history of depression in my family both my grandmothers and my mother have suffered from it, but there are still people in the family who believe it's weak and self-indulgent.

I don't want to make assumptions but it doesn't sound like your partner really understands whats going on at all. If he blocked things out or tried to ignore things when something similar happened to him in order to bypass his depression then thats fine for him, its not always so that the same method will work for everyone and infact the knee jerk reaction he seems to have had would say to me that his depression is maybe not been dealt with. (But thats my guessing and I could be wrong...)

I think that some doctors do prescribe valium (its not called valium though) but its only for maybe one night or if your psychotic and they need to calm you down for whatever immediate reason. Its just not given out long term anymore and yes the withdrawals are part of the reason why, it is very addictive and also you need more and more to get the same effect (costing lots of money!).

Do talk to your doctor about medication if you are curious- its likely you may be refered to a psychologist or psychiatrist who will asess you and talk to you about medication. Mental health is a specialist area and GP's do know a little but are generalists and may not know enough. Different needs require different forms of medication and what works for one person may not be suitable for someone else. Its your choice and if you do have any worries, thats what the medical people are there for.

Have you thought about talking therapy?