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Support for people with Depression
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greenpixie wrote: »Had a rough couple of days
Stuff happened
It really put a downer on things, I've hidden away again, especially now my friend has gone to the hospital to make sure she is alright. Its just made me realise how reliant i am on her, it makes me feel bad for her.
I've started doing uni work, which is a plus as i have alot to get done, gonna try and get up to campus tomorrow, go for a walk and check my post and stuff. Was thinking about taking a book with me and sitting in the sun in the gardens.
I bet she is happy you have gone to see her whilst she is in hospital.
If you can find a warm spot, then reading outside should help you feel better.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T
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Coz men don't get PND and don't understand it. Whilst men can and do get depression, they don't get or understand the women's problems. They can only relate to what they have ever experienced.Thank you- at least i know that there is light at the end of the tunnel! I dont understand why some men find it so hard to be sympathetic for something like this....maybe its because its not a visible illness.
Having suffered a mild form of PND and had severe PMDD in my time. It is those times you want your OH to look after things and give you a break. If he isn't able to be trusted to do a good a job as you or makes you feel bad about it, that is when tension and resentment starts.
Motherhood and running a house is a 7 day a week job with irregular and long hours. Most jobs are 5 days a week 9 to 5. Plus if a woman works full time, she usually has to start her second shift at home running the house.
I can see why more women suffer from depression than men. There is such pressure to be nice and not feel peed off about the workload. Women are seen as being b i a tches if they complain, yet a man is encouraged to say enough is enough and feel OK/not guilty about taking a break from it all.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
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I really enjoyed having a break from my OH last week as he went away on business. He is now going to be at home a lot more again which is beginning to make me feel invaded again.
I missed him whilst he was away and enjoyed him coming back, but now I want another break again.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
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Questions to people on here
Would your depression go away or be reduced if you were not around negative people?
If it is increased by the people you spend a lot of time with, why do you stay with them?
Is it lack of money or fear of being alone or feeling committed to them?
Would you feel a lot better if you were better off financially?
or/ if you got some help with demanding families/running a house?
If it is practical things that are preventing you moving on, is there a way you can get round it?
If you cannot get away how do you cope with feeling depressed, doing things/jobs you hate and being around these negative people?An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
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Questions to people on here
Would your depression go away or be reduced if you were not around negative people?
With me, it's not so much negative people. It started off (again, this year) due to living with people who would constantly belittle me and tell me that I don't have the disabilities the doctors say I have. (even after I gave them a piece of paper confirming this fact) They also can't understand variable disabilities.Sealed pot challenge #232. Gold stars from Sue-UU - :staradmin :staradmin £75.29 banked
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What is ED?Not in the best of ways today - in the grip of the ED today...can't do anything right.
Trying to sort myself out may take longer than I thought...
If it is to do with daylight and sunshine, then I felt better last week and now feel low again because it has got colder/variable again.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
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They don't sound very positive uplifting people.With me, it's not so much negative people. It started off (again, this year) due to living with people who would constantly belittle me and tell me that I don't have the disabilities the doctors say I have. (even after I gave them a piece of paper confirming this fact) They also can't understand variable disabilities.
Are they you employers? Otherwise you don't need to show them a piece of paper confirming your illness. It sounds like they don't believe you whatever you say and do and I doubt they will be sympathetic because they sound ignorant and sadistic. Are they younger than you or immature? What do they want from you? Why would they belittle you?
Why do you stay with people who belittle you for being ill? I doubt that would make you feel good nor help you get better.
I would say - I have an illness, I have shown you the evidence from my doctor, if you don't believe me, then it is your problem. I am paying the same bills as you and I would like more respect from you if we are to share this place.
PS. What is a variable disability?An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
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What is ED?
If it is to do with daylight and sunshine, then I felt better last week and now feel low again because it has got colder/variable again.
ED = eating disorder.
I have no choice but to stay with them. I didn't (and still don't) have the money to pay £100 where I'm staying now, (tied into contract) plus another £100-odd for another place and eat.What is a variable disability? Why would they belittle you for it?
I mean it chnages daily. I have days (like yesterday) where I went out for a few hours, came home and was shattered. A few weeks ago, I could've gone out and came home withut feeling tired.
They probably belittle me for it because they believe I'm lying. They can't see it, therefore, it can't possibly exist. They also think they had some sort of divine right to know right from when I moved in, what my disabilities are.Sealed pot challenge #232. Gold stars from Sue-UU - :staradmin :staradmin £75.29 banked
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My Oh says he understands as he has had periods where he has felt very low, he doesn't refer to it as depression more of a mid life crisis for him. I don't think he really understands how bad it has been at times and I think he thinks there are other ways of dealing with it. I have always been anti medication for depression as my aunty was prescribed valium by her GP and suffered terribly when going through withdrawal. Probably a bit stupid as i realise that GPs don't prescribe this nowadays but I'm just a bit concerned about taking medication, having said that I still haven't ruled it out as i hate the way im feeling atm. I appreciate you telling me not to feel ashamed as I think this has been the hardest part the shame. I've always been a very strong person could handle nearly anything thrown at me and it's been awful feeling like this. There is a history of depression in my family both my grandmothers and my mother have suffered from it, but there are still people in the family who believe it's weak and self-indulgent.
I think I will go and find a GP, I guess it will be a good way of culling out the bad ones going to see them about depression. I think even talking to someone might help and at least they can make suggestions and I can think about it before proceeding. I definitely need to do something, I can't go on feeling this bad. I like your end quote:T
Definitely, the bad ones will put you down and make you feel stupid, and the others will offer you pills. Then give different ones till some work for you but you have to pester them. They will offer you the cheapest pills first then give you the ones that are higher priced if you go back.
Counselling has a long waiting list, unless you can pay for it but even then there are good and bad counsellors.An average day in my life:hello: :eek::mad: :coffee::coffee::coffee::T :rotfl: :rotfl: :eek::mad: :beer:
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