Support for people with Depression

Tulip

Everyone,

Not usually up so late but had a meeting tonight at a ladies house and it went well.Really shattered now so off to bed shortly.I brought 4 new duracell batteries today,popped two in camera.It flashed then went out and I thought nothing of it,went to my church and I said I think my camera is broken.Someone sorted it for me and said I think its your batteries that dont work not the camera so they got some new ones and tried it and it worked.I took my pack back and said to the man over counter I think I have got a half dead battery in my pack of 4 new battries,He looked and said to me you are right,so he replaced that 1 battery so I had 4 good ones again.I didnt let the matter end there so I rang Duracell free of charge and got a £5 voucher out of them,so I did well.Thanks for the message Alison about Shaz and her new Guy,thats wonderful news.

:hello: Sazzy thats great news about you and Gilly Badger getting married next week thats also wonderful news too.Thinking of you Miro and everyone else that posts here

I will chat tomorrow

Night! Night!

love and light,

Katie xxx

jenniewb

sh1305 wrote: »

I don;t know what I want. I di tell my GP that I have tried counselling before and it hasn't worked.

Sorry- bit of a daft question I asked- if we all knew what we needed we'd probably most of us be in different places!

If its any help, it took me several councellors and therapists to find one that suited me. It wasn't the first person I saw- infact the first councellor I had was when I was 15, I think she freaked me out! I have had a fiar few great ones who helped me where they could, but said they didn't have the right experience to help me so I kept on looking. Partly I got unwell and just accepted any form of councelling and tried and tested and obtained information about why I was/am the way I was/am and what I can do to get help. I learnt alot like this even if I didn't get to a point where I had the type of therapy I needed.

I tend to think of it like this: for councelling to work, the councellor needs to be working with you, you both need to be on similar wave legnths. Its hard to find someone exactly where you are at so someone who is willing to listen and learn makes all the difference as does the trust that they will listen and try to understand you. Its never easy to develop such a relationship an hour at a time but it can be done and it can really make all the difference. If the councellor is aware things are not really feeling like they are moving they will mention it to you and with you try to find a better option. Even if they can't help you a good councellor will help you find something else and I'd bet its alot more suitable then your GP would be able to find as a councellor would have a better understanding of the mental health help out there then a generalist doctor.

Please don't give up! Why not try the councelling and see how it goes? whats the worst that could happen? if the councellor can't help you, they may have some idea why and what can be done about it.

Do go back to your GP if you really can't face it, see what they can offer-did you ever get refered to a psychiatrist? they are helpful as you get an assesment and they explain to you what is on offer (depends on your post code...) and they can also discuss if your not ready or need more information, support or advice.

Good luck and please, please don't give up!

Indie_Kid

jenniewb wrote: »

Do go back to your GP if you really can't face it, see what they can offer-did you ever get refered to a psychiatrist?

No. I was also offered medication. I said no - I always get the side effects listed in the leaftlets.:( Plus, they're only really given to those with severe depression.

I really need to start being honest with him - I never told him that I keep running away.

greenpixie_2

Hi there, I've been on these forums for ages but never actually knew that there was a thread like this, i guess i haven't looked around that much.

I've been on Anti-depressents on and off for the past two years, I'm a student and although I want to do well i never find the energy or the determination which makes me worse.

I've been through a bit the past two years, both of my grandfathers have passed away and I've had one close friend commit suicide and also a friend whom i used to work with did the same. Its really Effected me and i always get depression the worst in december the anniversary of my friends death.

One of the things that doesn't help is that my parents don't know and they don't understand why i'm failing at uni. My dads a traditional farmer and with his views he won't understand about depression, he thinks that illnesses such as this are just imaginary and people should just get on with it and forget about it, when obviously it doesn't work like that.

I have the most amazing boyfriend, we have been together for three years now and he's been there for me through everything. He just seems to understand me, and understand what i'm feeling. We are planning on getting a house together in october time when i've finished uni which really keeps me going.

This is my fourth year at uni (because i had to repeat my second year) I've lived in halls every year and loved the people that i live with. This year it is completely different, I really dislike my housemates and it effects my depression alot. Even though we've lived together for 2 terms now i don't really know anyone. Its not that i haven't tried its just i don't seem to get on with them and lots of them seem very selfish and don't understand living in halls.

I feel i've written too much now but thanks for actually reading this and I'm sorry i rambled

Indie_Kid

greenpixie wrote: »

I really dislike my housemates and it effects my depression alot. Even though we've lived together for 2 terms now i don't really know anyone. Its not that i haven't tried its just i don't seem to get on with them and lots of them seem very selfish and don't understand living in halls.

It's the asme hwere I am now. I don't get on with any of them - one of them sees nothing wrong with constantly bringing up how dodgy my friend is - she hardly knows him.

System

Welcome to the thread GreenPixie

Sorry you've had a rough time these past few years, having all that going on whilst at uni is never easy. I've been semi lucky with my housemates in that i haven't had to live with people i hate since my first year. Thankfully this year i'm moving in with just one of my mates so it won't be too bad just the tow of us (just signed the contracttoday! yay!). Keep focusing on October, from the sounds of it your bf has been really supportive and that's ovbiously helping you, plus getting away from your housemates may help.

Anniversay's tend to make me more depressed too, both my grandparents died in july so that's always the worst month for me (nan died whilst i was at uni and i still feel giuilty for being here and not with her).

Parents aren't great when it comes to this kind of thing, not usually cos they don't care, but because admitting you are having problems means they have to accept that their child is suffering and they often feel there isn't a lot they can do. Mine still don't really talk about it. They'll come round in time, could your bf talk to them about it?

Re:uni you can get through it. You hopefully have the support of your doctors and your bf, and i hope uni.if you haven't told uni yet, please do. I kept my depression quite till my last year when the pressure got to much and i had to tell someone. they were suprisingly understanding and it helped them understand that if i wasn't doing very well there was a reason for it.

Sorry if this is a bit of a long winded reply,

Hope everyone is ok.

Feeling okish but not great. Found out my godfather has cancer and he doesn't have long left.i admit i was never close to him but i wouldn't wish this on anyone. He's my dad's best mate and my dad is going to be devestated But i don't know what to do cos i haven't spoken to my dad in nearly 6 years (except to send condolances when my nan, his mum died last year). I feel like i should say something but i don't know what.

Moods have been up and down. Not sleeping properly. I keep doing syupid thing like burning pasta the other week, to breaking a plate, a jar of marmalade and last night burning a pizza. how stupid am i that i can't even heat up a pizza without messing it up. I have no idea if its my meds that's making me lapse in concentration. i just keep zoning out. The only good news is that me and my friend signed the agreement for the new flat we're moving to into in July. Its 5 mins walk from my where my psychiatrist is based so good for support. I'm glad i don't have to think about it till July but i am now worrying about getting all my benefits sorted out by then.

Sorry i am really rambeling

Indie_Kid

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Thankfully this year i'm moving in with just one of my mates so it won't be too bad just the tow of us (just signed the contracttoday! yay!).

Good luck:)

Feeling okish but not great. Found out my godfather has cancer and he doesn't have long left.i admit i was never close to him but i wouldn't wish this on anyone. He's my dad's best mate and my dad is going to be devestated But i don't know what to do cos i haven't spoken to my dad in nearly 6 years (except to send condolances when my nan, his mum died last year). I feel like i should say something but i don't know what.

I am very sorry to hear about. My Grandfather has started treatment for his cancer now. Not been able to see him yet; but mum has said he's doing ok.

LadyMorticia

Welcome to the thread GreenPixie.

*hugs* to everyone that needs them.

LadyMorticia

Got back from a week in Cornwall today. I think I exerted myself too much, both mentally and physically. I always push myself to be "normal" and "well" for Sam, and then I end up feeling 10 times worse. It's like one step forward and two steps back.

I feel so ill and exhausted now and just generally down. My mood swings have been atrocious lately. I'm seeing my CPN on 12th May but I just feel like I shouldn't feel like this. I have a loving partner and I feel guilty for being sad and moody. I know that it's just the way it goes with BPD, but I wish that it was at least under control somewhat.

rubytuesday

Hello everyone. Greenpixie you have definately had to cope with a lot recently, no wonder you are having a tough time. Sorry you are also feeling low LadyMorticia.
I am feeling more and more positve lately, I feel things are finally moving in the right direction with the support of my family, counselling and determination. I have lost a lot of weight, am eating a lot more fruit and veg and lately have doubled my walking. Today I went to Kew Gardens, about time as I've had a yearly pass since September! It was so lovely. I went on the tree top walk, up as high as the tallest trees which was amazing but a bit scary as you're walking on metal grids you can see through! I saw a woodpecker, a peacock who kept chasing and fighting the females, running round and round in circles, so funny. It really felt like getting away from it all. (Until my pretty horrendous journey home.) Anyway things can and do get better honestly xxx