Support for people with Depression

losingpatience

Lol sorry Sandy, no more mention of the c word!

Your dog sounds a bit like mine, he's getting old now ( 13 ) and lives with my parents. He used to fart then slink away, now he just farts, looks up and lies back down again, he's obviously now past the point of caring!

How you doing??

sandy71

Mine is not quite 2 so he is still in the walking away phase. He does usually give one of us a dirty look as if to say was that you?:rotfl:

I'm not too bad thanks, trying to move on from the weekend but stuff like that reminds me how much my life has changed:( Won't mention the S word again promise:o

How are you?

shazrobo

evening all, cupcakes :jcan i have one, please????????

i never thought of depression as being genetic, my mum's mum died of an overdose due to depression, when my mum was still a teenager, so i never knew her. when i was first diagnosed with depression, i felt really ashamed, like it meant i was weak, when i spoke to my mum about it she had been on anti d's for years too, and told me what her mum had died from, til then i had no idea

today is the first day so far this year that i havent cried, and as i've had a bottle of wine, i'm hoping i wont cry wen i go to bed, but instead fall asleep

hugs
shaz xxx

beachbeth

ninky wrote: »

i'll repeat again because i think it is worth saying. depression is not a failure it is an illness. unfortunately some people don't realise this because the symptoms of depression can come across as laziness when they are not.

There have been threads on MSE where people accuse other people with depression of "not bothering" as though we are all just sitting about and not even trying. There are too many people who think you can just pull yourself together.

Im sorry I can't reply to more of you at the moment because Im off to bed, but I wouldn't mind a cupcake before I go! Yum! I can almost smell them!

Goodnight everyone. Hope the people with insomnia manage to get in a few zzz's.

Indie_Kid

sandy71 wrote: »

Mine is not quite 2 so he is still in the walking away phase. He does usually give one of us a dirty look as if to say was that you?:rotfl:

Ours did that. And I believe she used to run away too after farting.:rotfl:

*sighs* I am still no better. My hallmates know what happened on Sunday (one did knock on my door yesterday and asked me about it) and have been lovely to me. It's awful though that something like that is the only reason why we're ok now.:(

As for the friend - well, he's not talking to me and I have no idea what's going to happen with us now.:(

I now have to somehow tell my parents about this.:(

As a result of Sunday - my sleeping pattern is seriously messed up. On Sunday, I was awake from 8am - 7.30am yesterday. I had two naps yesterday and it took ages to sleep last night. I only woke up both times yesterday because I had people knock my door. (security first time and hallmate second time) I finally got to sleep at 1am and have been awake since 7 this morning.

jenniewb

Glad you had a more peaceful time making cakes losingpatience, -was going to post a mini-wrap on the knuckles for not taking care of yourself and going full on with baking -its a full on job IMO! But as you enjoyed it I'll let you off the hook! Hope it helps with your sleep.

Sh1305, Hope things settle down for you soon, glad that so many people are showing they care but can understand exactly where your at with wanting some peace and quiet now- hope you sleep well, you sound like you really need it!

I don't know if depression is genetic or not, I have read a book called they f*** you up which is actually a good book it explained to me the genetic side of things, basicly concluded aside from major chronic mental health issues, nuture overides nature, how you were brought up, how society influenced your world, how you experienced things and more over, who was there to help you with it (and your relationships to them) matter alot more then genetics, IF there are any.

I totally agree with the statemnt that depression is not a weakness though, and would go further to say that those that tend to have bought that assumption are generally those that have been touched in some way by depression and have felt angry about what happened as a result. Alot of anger seems to be about misunderstandings, (wrong) assumptions and fear.

beachbeth

We used to have a Yorkshire Terrier who looked round at his back end in shock whenever he had passed wind as though to say "What was that!" He would then jump off the chair where he was sitting and go sit somewhere else. After all, he didn't want to sit somewhere where that had happened!:rotfl:

Hope you are ok, Shaz. You get so fed up of feeling down and crying all the time and sometimes it feels that nothing will ever change doesn't it?

Im feeling even more of a failure this week. My DD2 has been feeling very down for a while and is always in bed asleep with no interest in going out. The doc has given her anti-d's to try and perk her up. He said she must try to go out and exercise whether its swimming or dancing etc. So she's 20 and on anti-ds.:( Im very close to her and always there for her if she needs to talk about anything. I have a totally different relationship with her than I do with my own mum. It makes me think that depression is genetic. Although when I was her age I was quite happy and went out a lot with mates.

My DD1 doesn't take after me at all and is more like my OH's side of the family and doesn't have any sign of depression. Perhaps there is something in the genetic thing after all.

shazrobo

morning all, i'm ok this morning beachbeth, slept well after a bottle of wine, just wish that when i go to bed thoughts of ian in happier times didnt enter my head.
sorry to hear about your dd2, such a young age to be on anti d's, these should be best years of her life. you are not a failure, you are there to help her and support her. if kids been depressed as a result of their mum being depressed, then i must be the worlds worst mum, one of my sons has in the past tried to end his own life, self harm, which i do take the blame for, and has regular counselling sessions every week. we do our best for our kids, and continue to do so. look after yourself as well as caring for dd
hugs
shaz xxx

Indie_Kid

I am finally getting somewhere with the friend:
I tried talking to him last night on MSN. He has the lovely habit of signing in as online and is actually away. I did say to him "please answer if you're here. Please change your status if not". He changed his status.

Because he hadn't answered my email, (I wanted to know what happens with us now - I can't forgive him for Sunday; I do understand why he did it though) I sent him a text message. He said he'll email later; but I am not allowed to text him nor is he going to talk to me on MSN.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

I had a good day,I went to my parents for lunch,I walked up all the way to their house.It took me half an hour but did me the world of good.I listened to my ipod whilst walking so I didnt get bored and I enjoyed the walk.

I hope you all have a great evening!

love and light,

Katie xxx