Support for people with Depression

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Thanks for the med. reminder Tiff. I can only get 7 days at a time so have to keep remembering to put in a repeat prescription each week. I had forgotten so THANKS

Horasio

Had a very dark day yesterday, apart from it being the shortest day.

My mum nearly died due to a SEVERE allergic reaction to her anaesthetic giving her anaphylactic shock. She is in intensive care tonight and will see her tomorrow.

She still hasn't had her op and feels nervous about having another anaesthetic.

I hate this year:(

jenniewb

CCStar wrote: »

Had a very dark day yesterday, apart from it being the shortest day.

My mum nearly died due to a SEVERE allergic reaction to her anaesthetic giving her anaphylactic shock. She is in intensive care tonight and will see her tomorrow.

She still hasn't had her op and feels nervous about having another anaesthetic.

I hate this year:(

Wow- thats scary stuff! Glad she's in the best place (even if they caused the problem, they will at least be aware of it now) hope the rest of the year gets better and hey, just over a week till next year and a whole new decade!

joesaunt

I'm new on here but reading the posts I thought I would "join in".

I left my husband in June, he tried to strangle my 16 year old son (this was the final straw)

He has taken away all of my identity and tried to turn me into someone I am not. My friends have noticed a huge change in me and I feel I have lost who I am. He has controlled my life for the last 7 years and virtually destroyed my son with his hateful comments and mental abuse. The mental abuse is as bad as physical abuse and I feel drained. I feel I have no identity left and have lost my spark.

I moved into a small house in August with my son and we are safe there.

I feel so low and depressed it is untrue. I can just manage to live on my income, this site helps me loads! My house is about to be sold, it was valued and will be on the market soon. There is no equity in it, although we have a house in France which will be sold in due course and this should give me enough money to put down as a desposit on a house, so financially I am skint, but ok.

I have no spare money to join an evening class or the inclination at the moment, but I need some ideas as to how to drag my self out of this black hole and get back to where I was before I met him.

Any suggestions welcome.

Thanks, also I love the pictures of the cats!

beachbeth

Hello Joesaunt.:hello:

Sorry you are feeling low. At least you have got yourself out of a bad situation and can look to the future now without that abuse.

I don't know how much time you have spare but could you consider voluntary work? There are lots of charities (human and animal) that need extra help, especially over Christmas. This way you would be out and about and meeting people and it doesn't cost you a thing. Just one suggestion I thought of. Post back on here when you need to - we're all here to listen.

beachbeth

I would say too to go and see your doctor. Even if you've already seen him and are on medication go back and tell him how you are feeling. He may need to change your meds. It can make all the difference.

joesaunt

Thanks BeachBeth

I'm not on any meds, but I think it would be a good idea, I am going to see if I can get an appointment asap at the doctors.

I am spending Christmas day with my mum and brother etc, but I will look for some voluntary work in the New Year, I'm a dab hand at cleaning out kennels!:xmassmile

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Afternoon my little nutcrackers! I hope everyone is as well as they can be.
As thread cat, I'm sending a sincere Tiffy to joesaunt (joesaunt). Thanks for posting hunnie - there are so many lovely people like our beth here and I'm sure you'll be made to feel welcome. By the way, inspite of evidence to the contrary, I do know that I'm not really a cat! I'll try and post a proper reply as soon as I can angel.


Excuse me folks, I just want to shout across the table to miro for a minute. I just wanted to say I haven't forgotten you hunnie and I'm so sorry for all you're going through with your pusscat. I just want to let you know that a proper miro post will be written very soon. Look after yourself sweetheart.


So, I've been down in the Tiff Archives and found a few bits and pieces that may be of interest to someone And if not, well at least it kept me out of trouble for a few hours!

NHS ..... and ''Stuff''.

Physical:
NHS Direct
If you are feeling unwell now call 0845 4647 - we are open 24 hours
Please note that the health encyclopaedia, common health questions and local services search are now on NHS Choices.
Contact us waiting times
We are extremely busy because of the current swine flu situation and want to apologise for any delays experienced when contacting us.
We are prioritising urgent calls so that people most in need are assessed as quickly as possible. Urgent calls are being dealt with in less than 20 minutes. If a call back is required for a non-urgent call we will tell you how long you can expect to wait.

http://www.nhs.uk/Pages/HomePage.aspx

http://www.nhs.uk/LiveWell/Healthychristmas/Pages/HealthyChristmashome.aspx


Christmas Food: http://www.mysupermarket.co.uk/landingpages/healthy-shopping.aspx

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Healthychristmas/Pages/Foodpoisoningtips.aspx
NB - I think they mean tips on avoiding food poisoning!


Alcohol Management Tips:
http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/iphonedrinks.aspx?Tag=

http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/NHSAlcoholtracker.aspx

http://www.nhs.uk/Tools/Pages/Alcoholcalculator.aspx?Tag=


Mental Health:
http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Healthychristmas/Pages/Beatingloneliness.aspx

http://www.nhs.uk//Tools/Pages/NHSmoodvideowall.aspx

http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/zone.aspx?zonename=Health_Zone

MIND 0845 766 0163
[EMAIL="info@mind.org.uk"]info@mind.org.uk[/EMAIL]
We are open Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.
Christmas opening hours:
Thursday 24 December the lines close at 4pm.
Friday 25 and Monday 28 December lines are closed.
Tuesday 29 and Wednesday 30 December lines are open as normal. Thursday 31 December the lines close at 4pm.
Friday 1 January 2010 the lines are closed.
Monday 4 January the lines are open as normal.


Right, I think that should be us all sorted from head to toe for a while.:D The only thing I haven't got is ''The Tiffster's Guide To Getting A Date''.....give me some time though - you never know!!! :eek:
Please look after yourselves and each other. Be kind to yourself.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi ccstar!
Hey hun, how are you this afternoon? Yes I know - that was straight from the ''Stupid Questions'' archive.
I was sorry to read your post regarding your poor mum, angel and I'm glad she's made it through. It's good to know that she's awake and talking. She'll get the best observation on ITU - better safe than sorry. I'm not surprised she's feeling anxious about going ahead with the op hunnie - it must have been very worrying all of you and I bet you're all exhausted.

If it helps, use some Tiff logic and remember that if something is going to go wrong medically, you can't be in a better place than the hospital - everything you'd need to help in an emergency is right there. You can rest assured that they'll be keeping a very close eye on her, watching for even the slightest change or problem. I guess you could say you were in receipt of your own little Christmas miracle. Try and reassure yourselves and your mum on these points, angel and know that we're all thinking of you and your mum.

Please also encourage your mum to really open up to the head ward nurse about all her concerns. They'll do everything they can to help her and explain every option and she should feel comfortable talking over any questions with her doctor and the anaesthetist. Again, they can't give her all the care/consideration/support she needs if they don't know just how much she is worrying now. They're the experts and they'll discuss it with her and then she will be able to make an informed choice, without having any scary thoughts or questions unresolved.

I know it's hard, but please remember to try and eat something and get some warm drinks inside you - at least maybe take some cup-a-soup packets or a flask of tea/coffee along with you if you're going there for a long period of time or for the journey. I know you'll be running on adrenaline right now but that will quickly run out so it's really important to look after yourself, especially in this freezing weather. Grab catnaps whenever you can and you know where we are if you need us, hun.
And above all angel, it's one step at a time right now. Do what needs to be done and nothing more - everything else can wait and you need to be with your mum now.
I hope all this hasn't sounded patronising, ccstar - I certainly didn't mean it to be.
Keeping you in my thoughts and wishing your mum a speedy recovery.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
Quite appropriate atm...:D






Safe journeys guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx