Support for people with Depression

Horasio

I know what you mean about being fobbed off

My OH is getting nowhere with his skin condition nor his weight loss. You have to keep going. Some doctors are quacks, some are good.

It took me 30 years to get my problem sorted out.

Horasio

Must get some sleep

Hope tomorrow isn't too wet

shazrobo

morning everyone, thanks for your replies. in a way i think i'm like you ccstar, feel lonely and need the company, even tho he can be selfish and very immature at times, and that brings me down. last night i was thinking this relationship is going nowhere perhaps i should end it, but then i thought of the good times, the hugs, company etc, and just feel like my head is all over the place again.
ccstar, you wouldnt be selfish in leaving him, as he has been bringing your moods down for a long time, only you can decide what is right for you tho. roll on the summer, teh dark days do nothing to lift my mood either, and as for xmas, ian spenmding it with his family , so just me and kids here, biggest day of year supposedly and i spend it alone again, cant count kids as company, as they'll be upstairs playing on ps2 or if there downstairs arguing over tv, and if they do talk to me the conversation is very much one sided.
hi miro, nice to see you posting again, read your post, but sory i dont watch x factor, so i cant guess the young lady you met.
happy birthday anni, hope you have a lovely day.
hope all goes well at the hospital. i been fobbed off by them for years, have had constant pain in my knees, and always felt i walked a bit funny.
last monday saw a different doctor, who finally said i have one leg longer than the other, have arthritis, and my knees and feet arn't in alignment, have to go for more xrays, then see the podiatrist, about having insoles in my shoes, and maybe surgery to correct things.
hugs all
shaz xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! Hope all is well,I am fine today.I am not going to Mums today for dinner as I went on Monday.I am having a nice relaxing day writing some xmas cards and doing Advent competitions as well

I have the doctors later so the nurse can weigh me later.

Happy Birthday Anni,Have a lovely day!

Have a nice day everyone! My new boiler is playing up and I have got too much heat in flat,hardly slept and had a headache at 1am which I have still got.

love and light,

Katie xxx

Sazbo

Morning everyone :hello:

I think I need another coffee. Left the house at 7.15 this morning and I'm sat at my desk not awake yet lol. But need to get on with things soon.

CC and Shaz - I wish I could make things better for your both xx You both deserve so much better. Of course I want to say that you should put yourselves first, and not put up with shoddy treatment by others. But on the otherhand, I was on my own for more than ten years so I know only too well what that feels like too. In the end I think I had to face facts that it was me and only me that had the power to break the cycle of choosing the wrong people and the wrong relationships to enter my life - no one else was going to do it for me, that if I didn't believe I deserved better, then who else would? I would never tell either of you what to do, but I just want to say that you are both wonderful, sensitive, generous, kind and very precious people. Please start seeing that in yourselves. (((hugs)))

And Mr Miro - I have no idea who it was that you met - but I'll have you know that I read every single one of your posts! I don't need a test:o Same goes for everyone else's!:o And if that makes me sad then so be it:D :rotfl:

And last but not least -

Happy Birthday Lady M!!
:bdaycake:
:j:beer::j

I'll be round later to give you the bumps!:D Have a great day hun.
And same goes for everyone else (the great day part, not the bumps part lol:o :rotfl:)

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxx

Miroslav

CCStar wrote: »

I liked Britney's music before she got too sexual. She seems to have a lot of positive energy when she is interviewed.

She also puts a lot of pressure on herself, then breaks down and does bizarre things.

I know where you are coming from liking someone. It is comforting and if it is positive and helps you feel OK, then enjoy it. It shouldn't stop you forming real relationships tho. I reckon she would be very high maintenance and want all the attention if you had a real relationship with her.

Sadly, she only sings about two things these days, sex and attention. Nothing wrong with either, but she needs to change the record, excuse the pun, as it's predictable now and unlike Madonna, Lady Gaga etc, she doesn't need to try and shock, as she only has to breathe and people make a mountain out of a molehill.

The only thing stopping me from forming real relationships is myself. I trust no-one and it always ends in disaster, so I guess i'm alone for the rest of my living days.

Britney would be very high maintenance. She will marry anyone, but then divorce them when they buy the wrong bread :rolleyes: She needs to grow up, that's for sure. I thought the breakdown and losing the kids would make her a woman, but seemingly now she is getting back on track to a certain degree, she has gone back to acting like she is the most important thing on the planet, when clearly that's me :cool:;) I like to keep my distance!

CCStar wrote: »

Grr my OH really annoyed me again

He wanted to buy me something for Christmas that I don't need and said I would like the money instead. He created an uncomfortable atmosphere and it was horrible, it made me cry and I couldn't stop. He is good at changing the mood with his silences. I wish I didn't get bought down by it and if anyone has any way of coping with this, I would like to know. I am sensitive to atmospheres and wish I was strong enough to not get brought down by them. I feel if I don't react to it, he won't have the power but it does make my home life very tense being on my guard all the time.

I felt quite good today until it got dark and my OH pssed me off:(

Apparently, it has been the wettest November on record and it has got me down big time.

I used to ring my mum when I got this low but I can't even do that now, but she was never that helpful anyway and got fed up with it. She advised me to leave him.

I don't know whether to ring his mum and get some advice from her. She advises him about his weight but he does nothing to help himself.

I am finding it hard to cope with my low mood and my OH bringing me down. I really wish I felt strong enough to leave but when I feel strong, I can cope with my OH faults.

If I do leave him, does that make me selfish?

Christmas is an annoying time. Causes more friction than needed. I wish I could cancel it, but flatmate loves Christmas.:o

Not surprised wettest November. I just don't know if it's going to stop

You wouldn't be selfish to leave, however you know the whole picture better than anyone, so you have to assess everything. If there is a way you can stay together with both being happy, then it's always best to find a solution. Good people are hard to find, and you must have though highly of him once to marry him (you're not Britney who'll marry anyone!)

shazrobo wrote: »

morning everyone, thanks for your replies. in a way i think i'm like you ccstar, feel lonely and need the company, even tho he can be selfish and very immature at times, and that brings me down. last night i was thinking this relationship is going nowhere perhaps i should end it, but then i thought of the good times, the hugs, company etc, and just feel like my head is all over the place again.

hi miro, nice to see you posting again, read your post, but sory i dont watch x factor, so i cant guess the young lady you met.

Same with my flatmate. Feel lonely even when living with someone, as she is so selfish and talks about herself 24/7 Sometimes we settle for some company as occasionally it's okay. It shouldn't be like that though

I don't watch X Factor either, I can't stand it, but flatmate does and this young lady is really sweet and seemingly sheltered :rotfl:

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote: »

And Mr Miro - I have no idea who it was that you met - but I'll have you know that I read every single one of your posts! I don't need a test:o Same goes for everyone else's!:o And if that makes me sad then so be it:D :rotfl:

:rotfl: In my 14th post on the 4th depression thread, what was my fourth word on line 3? :rotfl: NO! Don't so a search! :rotfl:

I couldn't read every post as i'm not here enough. I used too, but I can't anymore. Does that make me bad? :eek:

:wave:

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote: »

:rotfl: In my 14th post on the 4th depression thread, what was my fourth word on line 3? :rotfl: NO! Don't so a search! :rotfl:

I couldn't read every post as i'm not here enough. I used too, but I can't anymore. Does that make me bad? :eek:

:wave:

I said I read them, I didn't say I remembered them:D:o :rotfl: and of course you're not bad

Sx

beachbeth

Poor you, CCStar. I don't think you're being selfish at all. Your relationship shouldn't make you feel tense, it should make you feel loved and safe. I think a counsellor could help you sort your feelings out and it would be even better if you're OH went too. Best wishes too, Saz and LadyM.

Sazbo

Hey Beth - funny enough you were on my mind today, was thinking we hadn't seen you for a while. How's things with you?

Saz xx