Support for people with Depression

Tiff_2

Hi guys!




Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Sazbo

Tiffy hun you have gorgeous hair - what's your secret?:D

Horrible day out there, but we've got to got out:rolleyes:. How's everyone doing?

Much love to all,
Sazzy xxxxxxx

geminilady

Hi Tiff and Sazzy,It has been very quiet on here.Sazzy sorry you have to go out on such a misrable day glad i don't ,just going to relax and catch up on the tv i miss with working funny hours also going to have a long soak in the bath later.I really hope the rest of winter is not as bad as the last few weeks the days are so dark and we certainy have had enough rain.I am struggling a bit,normaly i love xmas but not looking forward to it this year except for the break from work.Hope you are both ok and sazzy i was wondering if you have set a date for the wedding yet

Sazbo

Hi gem, lovely to hear from you xx We're back home now and I feel much better after a warm shower and some dinner. Hope you enjoyed your tv catch-up and long soak - sounds like the perfect way to spend a day like today.

I totally understand how you feel about christmas. I know when my depression was bad, I dreaded christmas; it just seemed like a huge ordeal to be survived. I just wanted to be the other side of it. Hun what I would say is try and have the christmas you want to have. I know that's much easier said than done but I think a lot of stress comes from trying to please everyone else, y'know? So do what's good for you. I also think christmas increasingly gets far too over-blown. I don't like all the commerciality of it. Like you I just a break from work, and to spend time with loved ones, and watch some carp TV:D

We are both ok thanks for asking and wedding still in the discussion stage:D We have a broad idea of what we'd like to do and when but still talking about the specifics:D Watch this space hun;)

Enjoy your evening everyone :wave:

Much love,
Sazzy xxxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope you are all ok,I am fine.I had a great weekend with my boyfriend and it went well,went to two christmas Bazaars and won a teddy at one of them.

Have a nice evening!


love and light,

Katie xxx

Horasio

Are we going to have a day that doesn't have rain? The only good thing is it isn't summer, so we are not losing our summer to all this rain.

Topped with the long nights, it is affecting my sleep pattern which is making me feel bad. I feel so tired at 8pm, fall asleep then wide awake half the night.

Thankfully there isn't any family we have to worry about entertaining (enduring) this Christmas but my OH is really dragging me down. He is very low as well but won't see anyone as he doesn't have faith in doctors etc.

I am finding it hard to cope and he is making it worse as he is being moody, distant, defensive, argumentative, deflating and negative. When he is on a downer, nothing will lift him and you have to be a very strong person not to be affected by his mood. I think he is depressed, as he feels life is empty and pointless but I can't help him if he won't help himself or keeps knocking back any efforts or suggestions I make. I'm not strong enough to cope with someone else who is this depressed and negative.

We go out for meals to cheer us up but the restaurants in our area aren't very good and treat us badly. We went to another town the other day and they were far better and friendlier, which cheered us up.

Our lease is expiring in June and will have to move out. We are looking at other areas with a view to moving to them next year. I don't want to stay where we are as people aren't that friendly here, and my horrible family are here too.

His moodiness is making me want to leave him but don't know where to go or where to start. It also makes me feel like a failure as a wife and guilty for abandoning someone when they aren't well but it is making me ill/depressed.

I can only cope with so much negativity and nastiness. He hasn't been very good to me when I needed him to make allowances for my problems, plus he brings me down when I feel positive.

My family are the same, I have to make allowances for them but I get a row when I need their help or allowances made when I feel low, and they deflate me when I feel good too.

Our son just takes and isn't making much effort to keep in touch unless he wants something.

So getting away from my horrible mother (who still hasn't contacted us since the argument in August) and grabbing son looks very attractive. I am tempted get away from my horrible OH as well. None of them have been as caring as I needed them to be and expect me to care for them unconditionally back.

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine today.off to Mums later for lunch as I didnt go yesterday as I was still with my boyfriend that is going so well and I am really happy.

I am relaxing today,plan to make my xmas card list later and at least get some cards written if anything.Weather is wet today so may be in with a bit of rain later.

sending you *hugs* CCStar.

Have a lovely day!

love and light,

Katie xxx

Horasio

Where is everyone?

geminilady

CCStar wrote: »

Where is everyone?

Hi CCstar not sure why it is so quiet as it usually gets busy this time of the year maybe people are busy with xmas coming up or some are not up to posting at the moment.Sorry you are finding things hard with OH but as you say it is hard to help someone who will not help himself.Have you offered to go with him to the Doctors? i understand him not having a lot of faith in them but isn't it worth a try? Also not sure if i have asked this before but have you thought of going to relate as a couple? that also is worth a try and if you both work together you may find a way forward.I know you said your mother has not been in touch since the argument but have you contacted her or are you happier without contact?.I really don't want to make you feel any worse but i was in the same position years ago i had a big fall out with my mum and was too stubborn to contact her as i believed she was in the wrong, anyway she eventually contacted me and she was going into hospital for tests so on the saturday i went to visit,the next morning i got a phone call to go to the hospital and she had died,this was totaly unexpected and an enormous shock but i am so glad that we made up,don't think i would have been able to live with myself if we had not.

jenniewb

That relate idea sounds like a good one- may try that on my dad when he finally can see there is a problem with things! (He keeps acting like everything is fine and at the same time...ok, looong story! but not on speaking terms atm!)

Just a question to people.
I've had depression on and off for over 15 years now. I should be used to it, but I guess for most of those years, I didn't feel able to come to terms with it and just went from the lowest of my despair to blocking things out with whatever poison I could find (food/not eating/gym/various obsessions). I seem to get to a really low point, then somewhere to focus and summons up an enormous amount of enough energy to gradually dig myself out of the hole I was in. Only thing is, once I've gotten myself out of the hole that is depression, I don't stop- and thats where my obsessions take over. Things get OTT.

I can see it all happening, but not really so able to stop- I think I'm scared that if I stop, I'll come plunging back down again to being not able to go outside/scared of my shadow ..etc. In the end, my life becomes a sort of block against my depression- I'm scared to stop in case it all comes rushing back to me.

Does anyone else have their depression and "recovery" like this? I know here is not a place to get a diagnosis-thats not what I'm after and I have psychological support ongoing, but just wondered if anyone else has things like this or if it was just me!