MSE Pregnancy Club VII

MrsTinks

Nicki I don't think anyone "fails" (unless they give the reason for wanting a C-section as "I want a mummytuck whilst I'm in"...) and if given the scenario you were - as in baby is breach and the cord position etc then yes I too would take the C-section as I said - If they can convince me that a C-section was the safest option then fair enough But they will have to explain their reason for wanting me to have a section - a "your baby is breech so we want to give you a C-section" isn't going to be a good enough reason to me They will have to elaborate...

money_maker_3

I am not a big fan on c-sections as I dont like any form of surgery !!! However I had an emergency s-c with my DD after 13 hours of active painful labour and due to complications with me this time rather than the bump, I have been advised to have an elective section, and I totally agree that as this is the safest way for me and the baby, then it is the way to go, and I am not a failure to have not given birth naturally !!!

Glamazon

I'm pretty open minded and will do whatever I need to to ensure that me and bean get the best out of the labour and the period after the birth.

I just wanted to thank elle - where are you?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have been signing Celine Dion and 'All by myself' all day - can't get it out of my head, left it on when I was in the shower this morning. You little tinker you!

redmel1621

Am I a coward, I am thinking of going in to hospital to have baby...after all the prep to have a home-birth, I suddenly don't know if I want one:(

Nicki

MrsTine wrote: »

But they will have to explain their reason for wanting me to have a section - a "your baby is breech so we want to give you a C-section" isn't going to be a good enough reason to me They will have to elaborate...

But they won't if the real reason is because they know that they (or the midwives) don't have the expertise to ensure a safe delivery, because if they did tell you this in advance and something went wrong during the birth, you'd have a cast iron case to sue. So all they will ever tell you is that it will be safer to deliver by c section.

If there was no difference (or no significant difference) in the risk to the baby between a c section and a trial of labour in the setting of your choice, they would always recommend the trial of labour because this is cheapest. If they are recommending a c section it is because they know that in that setting the risks are significantly increased with a trial of labour and that therefore if they are sued, they will lose. If the risks are the same for both modes of delivery, and the trial of labour was handled as it should be, but the baby is not born safely, the court would not uphold a lawsuit against the hospital, because the reason for the poor outcome would have been the baby's presentation, and not the failure of the hospital to handle the birth in the safest way possible.

I strongly suspect that this is the reason why there is a variance throughout the country as to whether a c section is automatically recommended or not. So whilst I agree with Sami that a woman should not be told she has no choice but to have a c-section, I have no problems at all with a c-section always being very strongly pushed in certain circumstances if the doctor's medical opinion is that is the safest option.

Glamazon

Ah Mel - what is worrying you? You are not a coward no matter what you decide to do - would this be your first HB?

Us women (espeically pg ones) are entitled to change our minds as often as we want!

workinmummy

Nicki,

Thank you for your post. I had an emergency c-section with my first and in no way have ever felt that i missed out the actual giving birth. In fact the 14 hours of labour, then the emergency bang on the button on the wall, then being whipped off and cut open, makes me think i have well and truly earned my stripes. Most of the time, when i mention that i have a section and people comment that i'm "too posh to push", i cant even be bothered to sate that it was an emergency. So what, who cares how the babies get here, as long as they get here and are healthy.

All that being said i am now undecided as to whether to go for an elective or VBAC with my second. This will apparently only be discussed with me at about 36 weeks. - which i do think is quite late to know what will be happening. My current in-decision is not based on the fact that VB's are better - far from it, only on the fact that i currently have a five year old and looking after him ie. getting him to and from school will be much harder whilst recovering from a section. ie no driving for 6 weeks, unable to push pram for x number of weeks.

But at least i have another 24 weeks to think about it:rolleyes:

redmel1621

Yes Glam it would be my first HB. I can't put my finger on exactly what is up.
I just worry that everyone will think I am stupid for wanting one when if I didn't even go through with it:(

Mel x

tiamai_d

My em c section with DS2 was nasty and contributed to PTSD. SO this time, I am super-happy that my consultant is more than happy for me to have a VBAC (although the possibility of another emergency section is there). She is of the mind that VBAC's are safer than another section (unless there is a real need) and my hospital has the second highest rate of VBAC's in Scotland. :j She is also happy to induce me if need be.

My weekly shop for 2 adults and 2 kids is £50 BUT then DH's weekly shop for crisps, irn bru, ciggies, sweets, biscuits etc brings it up to.... £120!!!!!:eek:

I got some newbaby clothes from tesco today, they have packs of 5 white bibs with a side popper for £1.50, so I got 2 packs.

Just realisd today that the top of my uterus is only 4cm or so below my belly button! Think it has has just sprang up!

astonsmummy

Tia whereabouts in Scotland are you?
OH loves his Irn bru too, £1 a bottle in Iceland if he's lucky