The Thrifty Gifty Girls 2009 (Organised & Money Neutral for All Occasions) #3

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scattymam1 wrote: »

I did a newcastle united one for my hubby last year and cos everything was black and white it looked really good.

That would look very classy scatty think I am going to do black and red shreaded paper, Ooooo I feel a hamper coming on

paddingtondoo

Happy birthday mum2one!

mega hugs rusty - have you rung the council's homelessness team? They offer advice to people who are at risk of becoming homeless including people with mortgage difficulties - not sure if you fall under Newcastle City council but their number is here. At least he has stopped bottling it up now but it must have been a shock for you. You know where I am if you need to vent. Sometimes just writing it down and pressing the send button can make you feel better.

I'm a grandmother again!!!! Our budgies have 2 chicks and we have another 6 eggs - just in time for Easter

jamtart6

Urgh had an OK day but found out G'dad won't ever walk again, can't get out of bed at all and the hospital want to send him to a nursing home as he needs 24hr care. He doesn't want to go to the nursing home, so wants to come home, we're happy to look after him but hospital don't think we'll cope with the 24hr care and can only have a max. of 4 calls from 'helpers' per day. He has me, my mum (who isn't well herself), my dad and my OH to care for him, but no one can tell us how long he has left. If we knew it was for a few weeks we'd just put all our heart and soul into looking after him, but if its months and months, how will we cope? Sorry to outpour but I just feel helpless and sad for everyone! Surely there are teams of carers to support us who can come more than 4 times a day? If anyone knows of anything like that please please PM me thank you xxxx

hayley11

Oh Mum2One I forgot to say happy birthday! Sorry hun!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY


_party_ :bdaycake: _party_

Oooh that looks quite Christmassy doesn't it!

RustyFlange

Thankyou for all the lovely messages It really means a lot to me Not quite sure how I would have coped without you all! sorry if you have had to listen to me ranting on.

Padingtondoo, we haven't as yet, we have just got in from the bank appointment ... seems to have gone well but lots to do until we know for certain. thankyou for the number, we are classed as northumberland though I am glad that he has stopped bottling it all up, however I wasn't expecting quite the amount which has come out if that makes sense, and also the upset that comes with it. I feel so helpless but at least he has finally cracked (that sounds awful but I mean it in a good way, I am just glad he is finally reaslising we need help and fast!)
Congratulations Grandma baglady xx


Scattymam I also did a Newcastle united hamper for my OH for christmas was fab and he loved it!

Aurora - Thankyou I hope you are staying strong yourself. xx

Jamtart, sorry to hear about your grandad, it must be so awful for you all.
With regards to care etc, If you feel you can care for him then go for it but always leave the nursing home as an option. My gran cared for my nan and my dad and auntie had to force my gran to put my nan in a home when we used to be called out of work/ called in middle of the night/etc to lift my nan up as she had fallen. My nan lived a good old age but it was hard work. My auntie now looks after my gran and my auntie struggles but won't give in til she can't handle my gran anymore.

jamtart6

thanks Rusty - it takes 3 nurses to get him out of bed, so its not just the time for caring its all the practicalities. Post probably made me sound really uncaring but I'm also worried about Mum too.

As far as I can see RAINMAC it was a good job you made me order them papers as they will cheer me up

RustyFlange

jamtart6 wrote: »

thanks Rusty - it takes 3 nurses to get him out of bed, so its not just the time for caring its all the practicalities. Post probably made me sound really uncaring but I'm also worried about Mum too.

As far as I can see RAINMAC it was a good job you made me order them papers as they will cheer me up

No no no sorry if you thought I was thinking you sounded uncaring. You even considering the caring for him shows how much you care. It isn't easy and does take its toll. My auntie never used to shout or swear and now she does both cause my gran drives her absolute crackers! My gran can't live on her own now because she has alzheimers, although there are times where she can't move very far etc.

jamtart6

RustyFlange wrote: »

No no no sorry if you thought I was thinking you sounded uncaring. You even considering the caring for him shows how much you care. It isn't easy and does take its toll. My auntie never used to shout or swear and now she does both cause my gran drives her absolute crackers! My gran can't live on her own now because she has alzheimers, although there are times where she can't move very far etc.

thanks Rust! Its horrible guilt feelings about wanting to do what he wants vs. doing what is actually best for him

Moan over I thought 1st April was today and am MOST miffed that it wasn't and I still don't know who won scrapbook apprentice. I didn't with the blog candy though. I WANT DOODLEBUGGGGGGGGGGGGGG:rotfl::D

JordanShannon

Hi everyone

I am very sorry for being AWOL, its been so bad here it is really unbelievable.:mad: I went to doctors on wednesday to get my results, she decided to send me to hospital because a) i was still in pain and b) my test results were unclear. So went off to hospital, they poked and prodded me and did another urine sample and bloods to tell me that i had a lump on my kidney and (Thankfully) it wasn't cancer. They've given me another week course of antibiotics. She offered me a smear test 'just incase' so i have to go back this friday for that. Now after worrying, then getting over it i now have to worry again.:mad: :eek: :mad: When i got out of hospital my dad visited, he was back to 'normal' and we got on well, even my mum was okay. Then he was texting me normally then i got a text that was for his bit on the side, i burst into tears because he had told me he wasn't with her.:eek: Mum asked what was wrong, when i told her she went absolutely ballistic and threw abuse down the phone at him because of what he had done, he didn't apologise for 3hours!!! And even then he made me out to be a liar by saying it was for his childish friend!! (the text said 'when do your parents get back? Where are the kids?) SO he didn't really even apolgise.:mad:
So now i am only talking to him on his birthday (on the 2nd April) and at occasions, he can go swing if he wants me to trust him ever again or see him more often and unfortunately that's my choice.

But now my mum has set up a new bank account and she is naming his bit on the side in the divorce as adultery which i think is fair as she knew what she was doing and that he is still married. :eek: I know you can't help who you fall in love with but he then confused me by texting me that he loves my mum. But i know that was only to get me on side:mad:

PLM- I'm really sorry about your sister, huge hugs to you.
Mum2one- Happy Birthday
Rusty - I don't have much idea what's going on but i do know that it's not good. I'm really sorry sweetie, sending you hugs, love and light (for the tunnel:D )
Jamtart - I'm really sorry about your grandad, Sending you lots and lots of hugs too!!

We need to get positive..............Hmmmmnnn thinking(That is all i have done these past weeks).....................AHA i know but its a surprise:p Nur nur.
Mel i have found my brown paper and i am re-wrapping your swap as my bundle of joy has slobbered all over the name so its a black inky mess, you can't even read it!!! (see what happens i leave the house and everything goes belly up!:D )
I have to get some nappy cake bits as my friend is expecting and i am giving her a surprise:D Bless:D
OH has his driving exam on friday, he doing it while i have my lovely but necessary smear test. So going it alone again. LOLS :rotfl:
What's the advent challenge? Can someone explain in basic english as i didnt get it LOL:rotfl: (nothing new there then PS jammy it not because of the way you wrote it, it's because of me being slow:rotfl: )

Right i shall update later, walking my evil cherubs :rotfl:

Love, Light and Hugs to everyone and anyone who needs it.

..xx

paddingtondoo

Rusty - ring them anyway no matter how helpful the bank appeared to be at the end of the day they are only interested in getting their money (I used to be a loans officer in a former life) so you need some non lender related advice I used to hate dealing with anyone who had got the CAB involved . Have you made any arrangements about your council tax? I don't want to worry you but you need to keep them happy as they have a Government laid down procedure that they have to follow and others are happy to piggy back onto them.

Jammy - this may sound a bit harsh but it's about all of you - there's nowt wrong in admitting that you can't cope. I can remember my mum struggling to look after my dad and fortunately he was only seriously ill for about 3 months. After we lost him she lost 6 stone and had to be hospitalised for 2 weeks in the local loony bin (her words not mine ) and it had a very serious effect on our relationship as I had to stay with my friends parents. It still affects me now. Have you contacted Macmillan or adult social services?