Depression Support Thread

jamespir

La-Cara wrote: »

just found this thread on another board- made me so angry!! :mad:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1542647

yeah disgusting aint it my partner suffers from depression and it really pees me off when people sya things like that or that depression is not an illnes

absolutebounder

La-Cara wrote: »

just found this thread on another board- made me so angry!! :mad:

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1542647

What is it about other peoples views that you take to heart?

upsetonerightnow

How can someone be sick enough to fake depression that really angers me too.

rosepink1984

Have just got back from town. Got really panicky in Mr S, it was packed at the checkout area. I've rescued our bank account as a stupid cheque hadn't cleared, the rent made us £71 overdrawn but I had £80 stashed away thanks to my challenges. I also gave £2 to a man who was playing th most beautiful music I have ever heard on a violin. It was so beautiful.
I saw a really bewildered confused man standing on a traffic island in the middle of the road. I was stuck at traffic lights and he was standing there looking around really confused looking. He didn't cross when he could have,and looked totally lost. I went all the way round Guildford one way system to get back to him, parked illegally and ran after him, by which time he was disappearing into the job centre! So then I had to go in a big loop and was stuck behind th very same traffic lights for ages! The whole thing took about twenty minutes! I'm seeing dementia everywhere these days cos of my new job! I'm sure that guy was fine, if not the job centre will have to sort him out.

Am really tired now, have had lunch and am watching Midsomer Murders that I recorded a while ago. Will try to do a few more bits and pieces around the flat later.

Oh, and I saw a dog running loose on the road. It was the same dog I saw loose during snow week. I spent ages trying to catch it, but impossible, so today I left it. It always seems to know where it's going, and it was obeying the highway code! It went down a drive to a farm, so I guess it's girlfriend lives there.

Hope everyone is ok today. That thread was interesting! The guy who wants to fake depression is totally wrong to, but sounds like the others commenting on it were quite sensible.
Upsetrightnow, have you had anything to eat today? Please put my mind at rest, even if you just have a few mouthfuls

CompletelyLost

Haven't popped into this thread for a while. I felt better, temporarily, but now I am back to feeling rubbish.

I'm still at college, I actually look forward to it now. I wish there were more classes per week to be honest.

But at the same time I feel rather let down... like everyone in my family is laughing at me. They sense when I'm in a bad mood or am feeling jealous, and they play on it to make me feel worse. They tease me until crying point, then walk out and call me a drama queen when I do eventually crack.

I know I have achieved very little compared to my younger siblings, and it is my problem for feeling jealous, but I do wish they would just shut up about it some times :mad:

I wish I could switch off and stop comparing myself to others all the time

absolutebounder

upsetonerightnow wrote: »

How can someone be sick enough to fake depression that really angers me too.

Why does it anger you. In reality lots of people have sickies when they fancy time off work. What does it matter to you?
i think the answer lies here. I have often talked of people putting on a mask for the outside world. Now if you get your values from other people and those people appear to challenge that mask your unconcious mind will go into overdrive to protect your ego. put bluntly It concerns you to hear people talk of faking depression because you are afraid they might also think you are faking it.
What does it matter if some people think its fake? Are they your doctor? Have you ever met them?
Depression is nothing more than a label given to a variable set of coditions and that is why I do not call it an illness but refer to it as a condition. It doesnt change it just the label I personally give it. I class an illness as something caused by a virus or bacteria but that is just the way I do it. fact is depression is faked but that doesnt mean you are a fake so why bother about people you may never meet think? Surely you have better things to get mad at

budget_budd

:mad: Arrrragggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh :mad:

I need more hours in the day to get everything done and I need more help with my children. I have had to take the day off again to take my little boy to the doctors (my OH says "I have no leave left") Well neither do I? BUT someone has to make sure OUR children are ok. Im sure work will get fed up with me and just phase me out. I have just started doing my full hours too.

My house is just one big mess I don't know where to start.

I haven't looked at our finances for ages, I have no idea whats going on there.

I am a mess both physically and emotionally. I am overweight. My clothes do not fit me anymore.

My diet is crap and consists of junk food. (hence why I am overweight). We cannot get into a routine where we get to eat before 9ish in the evening and I am soooo tired all the time.

AND I cannot even win a competition to cheer me up.

:mad: I feel so unloved :mad: I am on edge most of the time trying to please others I have no idea what makes me happy and no time to find out.

Life sucks

rosepink1984

That doesn't sound very nice, CompletelyLost. Perhaps you should talk to them and explain how you feel when they do this. Some people, like my FIL, show affection by teasing - it took me a while to get used to the way he talks to my DH but now I realise that it's the way he shows him he loves him.

Also, sometimes people see someone is feeling low and try to compensate for that by being overly cheerful. They think they are helping the sad person to feel better. I find it really insensitive and it has the opposite effect on me by making me feel worse!

I don't know if these are reasons why your family does this, but I think you should talk to them and explain how you feel about their teasing. I'm sure they love and will try to change when they realise how you feel. I hope so.

Big hugs to you. Glad college is going well.

rosepink1984

Big hugs to you Budget, hope things get better for you

absolutebounder

CompletelyLost wrote: »

Haven't popped into this thread for a while. I felt better, temporarily, but now I am back to feeling rubbish.

I'm still at college, I actually look forward to it now. I wish there were more classes per week to be honest.

But at the same time I feel rather let down... like everyone in my family is laughing at me. They sense when I'm in a bad mood or am feeling jealous, and they play on it to make me feel worse. They tease me until crying point, then walk out and call me a drama queen when I do eventually crack.

I know I have achieved very little compared to my younger siblings, and it is my problem for feeling jealous, but I do wish they would just shut up about it some times :mad:

I wish I could switch off and stop comparing myself to others all the time

as soon as you stop drawing your values from other people you will solve this problem. Jealousy is a negative trait and will never benefit you so once you lose it others have nothing to tease you about.