Depression Support Thread

npsmama

Can someone give me some advice pls.
i want to talk to the cpn about the text she sent but i'm afraid to.
She has a very strong personality. When she's on your side she'll fight your cause valiantly but when you get on the wrong side of her I can imagine she can be quite formidable too.
I'll admit it: people scare me easily...it's probably why I have the problems I do have.

absolutebounder

npsmama wrote: »

Can someone give me some advice pls.
i want to talk to the cpn about the text she sent but i'm afraid to.
She has a very strong personality. When she's on your side she'll fight your cause valiantly but when you get on the wrong side of her I can imagine she can be quite formidable too.
I'll admit it: people scare me easily...it's probably why I have the problems I do have.

I personally think you should ignore it. Texting is often done very quickly and in dumbed down English. it is very cold and very easy to jump to the wrong conclusions as you cant hear the way in which it was said and cant see the body language either.

Sssssss

absolutebounder wrote: »

I personally think you should ignore it. Texting is often done very quickly and in dumbed down English. it is very cold and very easy to jump to the wrong conclusions as you cant hear the way in which it was said and cant see the body language either.

AB I agree that txt / email can quite easily be misunderstood, but I think npsmama really needs to have this discussion, she has posted about it a few times and clearly it's on her mind and bothering her.

npsmama, I know it's tough but maybe you can try this approach

hey look I'm sorry to have had to txt you the other day but I was feeling down etc. and didn't realise it was your personal number. However I did find you reply quite upsetting and maybe you have another number a professional one that I can use if the need ever comes up again. Then if she takes it badly it's her problem, however as a pro I'm sure she'll be okay about it.

What is the worst that can happen, as look as you remain polite you can be the one who'll walk away feeling good about yourself and hold your head up. Remember you're one of the good guys.

Good luck and fingers crossed you're able to deal with this. Sssssss

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

What a lovely day today is,I went for an hours walk today and I got motivated by my new ipod Nano.I listened to some songs whilst walking and time just flew by,Now I can relax this afternoon knowing I have had a lot of good air.Mum and Dad will be amazed later tonight when I tell them as well.

I feel proud.

Katie

beachbeth

absolutebounder wrote: »

Texting is often done very quickly and in dumbed down English. it is very cold and very easy to jump to the wrong conclusions as you cant hear the way in which it was said and cant see the body language either.

I agree. A written text (or post on the internet) means that you can't see a person's face (are they smiling or looking annoyed?) and you also can't hear the tone of what they are saying.

I have received texts from my SIL that have occasionally shocked me and made me think she's being funny with me and then I stop and remember that she never does this! She isn't sarcastic and if she had a problem she would tell you to your face and I realise that its just the way she has written it that makes it seem as though she's annoyed. Sometimes I re-read something I have written and realise with a shock that it sounds completely different from the way I meant it (one reason for asking some of you to read my letter before I post it!)

However, I do think you should still discuss the text you received but do it in an apologetic way as Sssssss says. Eg "I didn't realise I would be able to ring you in your own personal time so Im sorry about that. I was a bit upset at your reply though and wouldn't like to think I had annoyed you at ringing whilst you were out" or something along those lines.

Whitevanwoman - I will write to my MP and explain what an upsetting process it all is. I was thinking myself that this is the only way that the powers that be will know how their decisions are actually affecting real people.

Butterfly_Kisses

npsmama wrote: »

Welcome BK! :hello:

I've done some CBT on my own as it's not funded here and they wouldn't even refer me for it saying I wouldn't get a place as there's no money thrown at it. :mad:

I've found what I could do by myself life-changing at times. I'm in the process of someone who would do it privately.
This book is fantastic: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Feeling-Good-New-Mood-Therapy/dp/0380810336/sr=8-1/qid=1166110176/ref=pd_ka_1/203-4873442-8926300?ie=UTF8&s=books

This is a very good explanation of CBT: www.personal.kent.edu/~dfresco/CBT_Readings/Cognitive_Interventions.pdf -

Printable worksheets:
http://www.bridgestreetcounseling.com/uploads/DML.doc
www.mun.ca/rmhp/professionals/4StepsCognitiveRestructuring.PDF

Good luck and let us know how it goes. :A

Thanks to everyone for the warm welcome.

Session today went well and I've been give a work booklet to work through, already feeling more positive about my situation.

The therapist also gave me some relaxation techniques to work on as I've been having problems sleeping which I'm sure hasn't helped.

jess8905

Thanks everyone for making me feel welcome, what's a cpn?

Butterfly_Kisses

absolutebounder wrote: »

We cant discus therapies either but suffice to say you will get out of it what you put into in. the stupid thing is that if you are determined to be there and help yourself the therapy is three quarters done. The reason being that you have all the resources inside you to defeat depression. a therapist just has to help you find one or two.
if however you dont want to go or are busy making up excuses then it wont work because deep down you have no intention of getting better.

I am more than determined to work hard at it, I had a really bad morning this morning, but I still managed to go to therapy, although I must be honest and say the thoughtr of cancelling did cross my mind for a minute but I didn't and I'm so glad I didn't. It really turned the whole day around for me.

beachbeth

jess8905 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for making me feel welcome, what's a cpn?

I wondered that too!

absolutebounder

jess8905 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for making me feel welcome, what's a cpn?

[STRIKE]Crap[/STRIKE] Community psychiatric nurse if memory servers me right.