Depression Support Thread

beachbeth

npsmama wrote: »

Can anyone pls recommend a good book to read for someone like myself who suffers from depression/anxiety?
I need something with no violence/evil in it.
Little House on the Prairie stuff!!

thanks

Rosamund Pilcher is my absolute favourite author. She writes romantic fiction but nothing slushy. The way she describes people sitting down to a meal makes me drool - I can smell the food! My favourite of hers is The Shell Seekers and Ive read it about 3 times and will read it again. She hasn't wrote many books and Im always waiting for her to write another!

mezer3000

Secret mission eh......restocking the smartie cupboard?????

I'm ok this morning. Got counselling in an hours time. Haven't been and seen her for a while cos I just didnt really want to - but I am today, not really sure where to even start when I go see her today.

Mental support wise...sorry just noticed loads of bourbon biscuit crumbs in my keyboard....whoops lol.....so back to the point
I've got a gp - he's really good, will talk until he works out exactly what is wrong, time is no limit, have spent 40 mins in one 10 min appt before!!!! Really really helpful guy - problem is, its about an hours walk across campus to get there, so I don't go all that often. And now i've stopped taking my meds then I havent been at all. I practically lived there last year when I was ill, so i'm giving them some time off from me hahaha
I also have a counsellor - now she is attached to the university - and because im technically not a student with the suspension and such, there was a big hoohah about me seeing her - so I am allowed to see her, but not as regularly as if I was a student or some rubbish.
I've never seen a psychologist or been assessed for anything. It all happened when I last reached bursting point and booked myself in for counselling and took myself to the doctors, but that is all that has happened.

I guess i'm not going to make those decisions - because
1) there's too many, however it gets broken down, its always in my head that its just not that simple and
2) because I don't really want to. I mean, what if the best thing for me is to go to another uni, then i would have to leave steve behind, or what if the best thing is not to go to uni at all, then what on earth do I do with my life, other than sit on mse!!!

so i'm going to have to close now - i'm still in my pjs and need to get showered, dressed etc and leave the house in 10 mins for the half an hour walk to the counselling - whoops again lol

Jo_R_2

Sssssss wrote: »

Jo_R hope baby comes along soon, the little un is not just keeping you waiting but all of us on here as well, how is dad coping with the wait?

Thanks Sssssss. OH is quite laid back about the whole thing actually. He's so looking forward to having baby in his arms but I think now the birth is imminent he's also just a teensy bit petrified of the birth!

I feel huge and soooo tired, even though I actually slept quite well last night and didn't wake up after going to bed. My Home Start visitor is coming round at 11am so I'll get a bit of a rest then (hoping it doesn't rain so DD2 can go out to the park, not been feeling very energetic to take her out much this week.)

Hugs to all and will try to pop in later xxxxxxxxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Morning! hope all is well,I am fine today,went to bed at 6pm last night :eek: I was so tired.Feel on top of the world today :rotfl:

I am off to the church today to see my friends and have a chat to them and I have got ironing to do today as well,what fun! oh the Joys! :rotfl:


love and light,

Katie xxx

npsmama

Oh b*gger!
I've gone and got myself into (yet another) pickle.

I approached a student from our church to ask if she would be willing to spend a couple of hours a week with the boys and I - just so that I'd have another pair of hands around.
She said yes and she's a lovely girl with nannying experience.

I had no idea how much to pay her so I asked the question on an online forum suggesting £5 per hour (we'll give her a lift both ways)...the replies said that in their opinion no one would/should do it for £5 an hour but the pay should be more. :eek:
I'm not stingey (I may have other flaws but I love giving so I don't think I'm stingey) but TBH when I worked (gave up 3 years ago) I was paid £5.50 per hour to do HR work.

I'm picking up the student at lunchtime for the first 'session' and I'm having kittens bc I don't know how much to pay her and I don't feel I can cancel either. _pale_


On another matter, we're having various workmen round to do some much needed electric work on the house. It's all been left to me to organise but hubby keeps questioning everything they have done (after it's done). ('why did they put this here? It would have been better here' 'why didn't they do it this way?') How the heck do I know??

Hubby drives me mad sometimes. last night I came back from Slimming World and I was in the hall getting my coat off with the baby in my arms and straight away hubby who was in the living room started telling me about his meeting at work and expecting my full attention. Can I at least get my coat off and be in the same room?? :wall:
i think what really bugs me is that he does nothing at all to release his stress except talk to me about the finest details of his work day. Unfortunately I have the bad habit of absorbing stress so it really affects me.

Well, I've have a big moan in this post! Sorry. I just feel really stressed. :sad:

Sazbo

Hi npsmama - big hugs to you - sorry to hear you're feeling stressed, but this thread is here to allow people to let off steam - so it's nothing at all to apologise for ok?

Re student - well, in my opinion you are better placed than anyone else to judge what is a fair rate for the work, so I would have faith in your own instincts. You could always start her off on £5 an hour and then review it after a month or two maybe, assuming it all works out to your and her satisfaction?

And as for hubby - you are not a sponge to soak up his stress! Perhaps you could try working into the conversation with him how he could reduce the stress he's experiencing at work? Can they do something about his workload? I know that doesn't always work, but sometimes bosses aren't aware there is a problem until it's brought to their attention. But either way, it's really not fair on you.

Sorry my reply is a bit brief (I'm writing this at work!), but I just wanted to say I hope your day goes ok - let us know how you get on. You may not remember this, but we crossed paths a while ago, on the matter of sourdough starters of all things:) and you were extremely helpful to me - so I just wanted to say 'thanks' and take good care of yourself.

Sazzy xxx

beachbeth

npsmama wrote: »

On another matter, we're having various workmen round to do some much needed electric work on the house. It's all been left to me to organise but hubby keeps questioning everything they have done (after it's done). ('why did they put this here? It would have been better here' 'why didn't they do it this way?') How the heck do I know??

I think this is a man thing. I can remember having a flat tyre at work a few years ago. I rang hubby to see what I should do and he started to explain where the jack was in the boot and other tools for me to change the tyre!:eek: Im only petite and not the strongest of people and theres no way I would be able to jack a car up and change a tyre! I rang him because I thought he might be able to come out of work and help me (he'd often told me he would be able to do this if need be!) In the end my dad came to the rescue.

On the subject of workmen, my OH will tell me to give them instructions and I am so reluctant because there are a lot of workmen out there that just won't listen to a woman and go deaf the minute you start talking. Ive said that from now on OH needs to have time off if we're having any work done because I refuse to get involved and then get the blame when it goes wrong!

Fridays always annoy me when OH comes home. Its the start of the weekend and I want to have a drink and a chat with him (a cuppa or whatever) and you can guarantee one of the neighbours will stop to ask him something, then one of my daughters needs to ask him something and then the other needs his help with something, then the dogs are clamouring for attention. I just don't get a look in! Why this happens on a Friday particularly I don't know! The other Friday this happened and then after all this his sister phoned him and they were on the phone for an hour! During all this cafuffle he was sipping wine and by the time everyone was finished with him he had got quite tipsy and fell asleep in a chair! I was livid and he can't understand why! He always seems to give everyone his attention and Im last in the queue!

Sorry to join in with the rant but I can really see where you're coming from!

rosepink1984

npsmama wrote: »

Can anyone pls recommend a good book to read for someone like myself who suffers from depression/anxiety?
I need something with no violence/evil in it.
Little House on the Prairie stuff!!

thanks

I like Maeve Binchy and Cathy Kelly books, they ar both quite similar (sorry for intermittant 'e' it is playing up!). Thy are both Irish authors, and writ about family life/groups of frinds and are very nice. The people in them do get problms happen in their lif, but their group of frinds helps them to deal with it and it's very heartwarming.
Hope evryone is ok today, I haven't caught up yt.

I've just been to th library and th Thurday markt was on. I was feeling brav so had a look and the mega expensive butchers shop has a stall there with meat at a fraction of th price! Got a big pack of mintd lamb chops (enough for 2 meals for 2 people) for £3.99 the man said it would b £11.68 in his shop! Going back there pdq! And th veg stall looks promising too - I saw a bag of onions for £1 so mayb th othr veg is cheap too.
It was nice too cos whn I got there a lady gave me her parking ticket and when I left it still had twnty mins on it so I gav it to another lady. I always try to pass on my parking tickets but normally can't find anyon who is arriving as I'm leaving!
Love to you all, hop your day is not as bad as you thought it would b

rosepink1984

npsmama wrote: »

On another matter, we're having various workmen round to do some much needed electric work on the house. It's all been left to me to organise but hubby keeps questioning everything they have done (after it's done). ('why did they put this here? It would have been better here' 'why didn't they do it this way?') How the heck do I know??

Sorry you feel so stressed, take a deep breath!
This is definately a man thing! My hubby stands ovr me when I cook (this is rare - he normally cooks!) and says don't use that oil, us this oil, why don't you do it lik this, do that like this...until I end up shouting at him! :mad: The othr day we were doing a jigsaw togethr and he kept complaining that he didn't like th way I was doing it and he kept telling me how to do a jigsaw! It was very annoying! :rolleyes:
Just try to let it wash over you, he's only thinking aloud and doesn't really want you to tell him th answers.
As for the studnt, dont worry. She is a studnt and will be happy what ever you pay her. If she thinks th pay is too low sh will either tell you, or not come back. If she's reluctant to rebook you can always just ask her if it's because of ht pay and you can ask her what other people pay her for th same service.

Sorry for intermittant 'e' it's playing up

npsmama

i've had such a crap day.
at 11am my 16mo fell backwards onto a glass door and it smashed on his head, i went to pieces but managed to get both kids in the care and went to a&e. i couldn't speak properly when i got there as i was in shock but the baby's bleeding head was self explanatory.
i'd called a friend who came to help but we ended up being there for 4hrs as they discharged our paperwork by mistake. i really felt my friend was annoyed at having to spend the day in a&e with me. she was ok at first but them she seemed very annoyed with me.
I'm home now and the little one is fine but this bloke from the council just turned up and he was really fishing for an argument saying that there had been complaints about our trees. i said we have a tree surgeon coming next week but his attitude was treating me like a criminal.
we live on a rural and usually friendly lane. the road stops 2 houses after our own bc the council haven't been maintaining it.
i know people walk their dogs up the lane but what really upsets me is that no one came to talk to us about the trees but went to file a complaint with the council instead.
we've been the only ones who have invited others round for drinks etc and in return this is what we get.
i wish it was the end of the day bc i've really had enough.
i think i'm still in shock from this morning as i'm crying and can't talk - the words just don't come out i keep stuttering