Depression Support Thread

shazrobo

absolutebounder wrote: »

I think your trouble is that you are too kind for your own good. :A you seem to do a lot for other people at the expense of yourself.Sometimes in life you have to be nasty and selfish to get the things you need.

so i just lock the kids in the shed, so i can go out, that'd be nasty and selfish

Tulip

I am off now everyone as I have to get dressed,get my newspaper and things before I go to Mums,Will be on later on,dont know what time that will be Will talk about Ice show when I get back.


take care and have a lovely day

Katie

absolutebounder

shazrobo wrote: »

so i just lock the kids in the shed, so i can go out, that'd be nasty and selfish

Well the kids would probably enjoy kicking the crap out of each other so no change there and you would have a good time :rotfl:
No seriously what I meant was sometime you need a damn good tantrum with people like the MP, your doctor, social services to get any help.

shazrobo

absolutebounder wrote: »

Well the kids would probably enjoy kicking the crap out of each other so no change there and you would have a good time :rotfl:
No seriously what I meant was sometime you need a damn good tantrum with people like the MP, your doctor, social services to get any help.

doctor has tried his best, has contacted social services on my behalf, as has my cpn, because they are both aware how this is affecting my health. socail services are not interested, as they say they are interested in the best needs for my sons, and that being with me best suits sons needs. also get the lack of resources too. am in the process of going to see my mp, last appointment was cancelled due to bad weather. cant see it making a great deal of difference tho, it hasnt in the past,

shaz x

absolutebounder

shazrobo wrote: »

doctor has tried his best, has contacted social services on my behalf, as has my cpn, because they are both aware how this is affecting my health. socail services are not interested, as they say they are interested in the best needs for my sons, and that being with me best suits sons needs. also get the lack of resources too. am in the process of going to see my mp, last appointment was cancelled due to bad weather. cant see it making a great deal of difference tho, it hasnt in the past,

shaz x

I think it depends on the MP. the best ones are the ones without a safe seat. Councils and civil service places like the DSS absolutely hate intervention from their MP. I used to use mine a lot but now mine is Tom Mcnulty (labour idiot for employment) its a waste of time. i know its nearly always best for kids to be with parents but there does come a time when if it is damaging the parent so much then respite is needed otherwise the whole lot goes completely wrong.

LadyMorticia

I feel so lousy,
These antibiotics aren't doing anything and now not only is my throat trying to kill me, my ear is too! I have no energy. Just walking to the shop with Sam earlier drained me.
I really wanted to go to the cinema with everyone yesterday to see "The Curious Case Of Benjamin Button" but I was too ill. I've been ill for practically two weeks so far and it doesn't look like I'm going to get better soon. In fact, I feel worse.:(
I'm going to try and go back to the doctors. At first he suspected Glandular Fever, and the fact that the antibiotics aren't doing anything, it kinda worrying.
My groin also hurts, as does the area around my spleen. Oh joy!

And I'm the person who looks after everyone else and I can't at the moment. I have to have people looking after me. =/
The only thing I can eat at the moment is Ice Cream too. =/

This post sounds whiny...but I'm in agony. =/

beachbeth

Sorry you are feeling so awful, LM. Its horrible to be in the middle of an illness and not be able to see any end to it. Do you think stress perhaps from moving has made your illness worse?

Hope you are feeling better soon.

beachbeth

absolutebounder wrote: »

Your relatives when they come to see you will naturally feel they have to say something. It is part of showing empathy and so to ask how you are is seen by you as wanting reassurance but by them is a way of starting to give empathy. If we visit someone who has say broken a leg we might ask how they are feeling today knowing they are probably still in pain but its better than saying something like "still a cripple then mate"

The thing is though I had told (or rather got my hubby to) my relatives not to come and see me because I was feeling too ill to see them. They still insisted on coming and then wanted reassurance that I wasn't feeling too bad!

I know their empathy is meant in a kind way, but I was mentally exhausted and too tired to give them this reassurance.

One person who rang me up was a bit put out when my OH said "she's too ill to come to the phone but says she will ring you back as soon as she's feeling better". (which I did, by the way and had a good chat reassuring her that it wasn't anything to do with her, it was just me that couldn't speak to her).

If a visit from relatives/friends makes you feel worse but makes them feel better then surely they should stay away?

shazrobo

absolutebounder wrote: »

I think it depends on the MP. the best ones are the ones without a safe seat. Councils and civil service places like the DSS absolutely hate intervention from their MP. I used to use mine a lot but now mine is Tom Mcnulty (labour idiot for employment) its a waste of time. i know its nearly always best for kids to be with parents but there does come a time when if it is damaging the parent so much then respite is needed otherwise the whole lot goes completely wrong.

even if respite was for a few hours during the day,, some kind of break to myself during the school hols, would be beneficial all round, as it is the kids suffer too, because they see me down, however much i try hiding it from them, it isnt easy, and sometimes i do snap. will let you know what happens once i get another appointment and seen her

shaz x

shazrobo

hi anni, sorry to hear your feeling so ill, earache has got to be the worst kind of suffering , hope you feel better soon hun

big hugs

shaz xxx