Depression Support Thread

alba37

Tulip wrote: »

:hello: A,

So Sorry you still cant get help for your son,I bet it is heartwrenching for you at the moment,been thinking of you constantly as you have been in my thoughts,Hope to see you back on here soon.I hope you manage to get the help you need for your son,Wishing him a speedy recovery.

Katie

Aw thanks Katie, things will get better... I just hope it's sooner rather than later!

Hope you are doing ok, I miss you and all the others here too, and think of you all often. I'll be back properly when things are better. In the meantime, I'll keep popping in when I can.

Night night, sleep well,

A x

Tulip

alba37 wrote: »

Aw thanks Katie, things will get better... I just hope it's sooner rather than later!

Hope you are doing ok, I miss you and all the others here too, and think of you all often. I'll be back properly when things are better. In the meantime, I'll keep popping in when I can.

Night night, sleep well,

A x

Thanks A *hugs* to you both,I am doing ok thanks.

Katie

shazrobo

alba37 wrote: »

I know, it's really awful you don't get a break. Did you see your MP?

I'm glad you got out this afternoon though, even a couple of hours break is better than nothing. But there should be proper care in place during holidays, it's just not right. Our schools were only off 3 days this week.

Hope the weekend goes ok, and you can relax a bit more on Monday.

A x x x

had to cancel seeing mp, because we had really bad snow the week i had my appointment, but they said they will send me another in the post

shaz x

donnydiva

Hi there

Dont know what happened there, I just typed out a reply, went to post it, then it went to the log in page, so all I'd previously typed was lost!!

I just signed on tonight, and was really touched by the replies I have received to my post last night, particularly Tiff and SavvySue.

Thank you in particular to Tiff for the indepth reply you posted, with lots of information on it. I shall print it out and try to digest it all over the weekend.

It means so much to know there are people who understand where you are coming from, and that shows in what you have all put.

If you do have chance to jot down some notes for a draft letter to hand into the hospital, etc that would be great. If necessary I can fill in with some personal information.

And as you rightly summised I do feel more and more overwhelmed with the situation the longer it goes on. Its like everyone wants something from me, but very few are offering things to me.

As the doctor said to me the other week, when I explained about my feeling constantly tired "its because you are under constant stress". Well, yes I kinda figured that one out for myself, but what is the answer when no one is willing to step in and take some of it from me??

I am currently on anti depressants, and as I say I am receiving counselling albeit a bit hit and miss with appointment times at it is through the NHS at my doctors, and although she has been very good in giving me a couple of 'extensions' to my allotted sessions, I know they cannot go on indefinitely.

Anyway I am going to see my dad tomorrow with a couple of friends from the cafe he goes to, who have been really supportive having only known them a short amount of time. Its amazing at times like this, who is actually there for you, and who are notable by their absence. They say the right things but thats about it.

He looked absolutely jiggered the other day. Having said that he had been (a) dreading the endoscopy and (b) been told that depending on what the results from that were, he may need to have an operation which he will have been (as I was) really worried about considering his age, and the effects of the anasthetic.

By the way, when I put my claim in, I had to put in for both Incapacity and Income Support, but was only qualified for Income Support. I got a letter though about 3 weeks ago, after attending a medical, (which wasnt a very pleasant experience) to say I had met the threshold and I would be reviewed a year from now, unless my circumstances changed. Up until then I had had the job centre to deal with on top of all this happening with my dad, so at least Im spared the hassles with that at the moment.

But again, many thanks for your thoughts and concern. I hope what I have posted makes sense as my brains a bit all over the place at the minute.

hugs and best wishes to you

mystic j

beachbeth

donnydiva wrote: »

And as you rightly summised I do feel more and more overwhelmed with the situation the longer it goes on. Its like everyone wants something from me, but very few are offering things to me.

This is how I feel. Even when I was really ill in bed with depression and didn't want to see anyone I had relatives still coming to see me and ask how I was. It seemed that they wanted reassurance from me that I was ok, which meant that they were still taking from me at a time when I just wanted to be left alone.

This is also why I hate the phone and don't answer it unless I have to. Its always someone wanting something from me and never someone asking what they can do for me.

Sometimes you feel as though the life is being sucked out of you by other people.

absolutebounder

beachbeth wrote: »

This is how I feel. Even when I was really ill in bed with depression and didn't want to see anyone I had relatives still coming to see me and ask how I was. It seemed that they wanted reassurance from me that I was ok, which meant that they were still taking from me at a time when I just wanted to be left alone.

This is also why I hate the phone and don't answer it unless I have to. Its always someone wanting something from me and never someone asking what they can do for me.

Sometimes you feel as though the life is being sucked out of you by other people.

A good post. the depressed mind is logical but the logic is different from a non depressed mind. depression is inward thinking and so what you say above is spot on. many posts on here are seeking something back from other posters and sometimes a poster complains when nobody answers or thanks them. The most recent I can remember was Pilly Pilla who got the hump that her post was unanswered and she hasnt been seen here since. People weill also get the hump sometimes if the answer they get is not what they wanted to hear.
Your relatives when they come to see you will naturally feel they have to say something. It is part of showing empathy and so to ask how you are is seen by you as wanting reassurance but by them is a way of starting to give empathy. If we visit someone who has say broken a leg we might ask how they are feeling today knowing they are probably still in pain but its better than saying something like "still a cripple then mate"

shazrobo

hi all, still struggling here, seems like everyone i know is having fun and able to go out and do as they please except me, i'm tied to the children, and going out anywhere with them seems so hard right now, i'm worn out and tired

shaz xxx

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,Sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment Shaz,hope things will get easier for you.Today I am going to Mums for lunch because I have to go to Exeter for Holiday On Ice Mystery which I am going to see this afternoon and it will be lovely

I hope you all have a lovely day,I have just won a signed photo of Alexandra Burke from her official bebo page so I am really happy.


love and light,

Katie xxx

shazrobo

have a lovely day katie, the ice show sounds lovely

hugs
shaz xxx

absolutebounder

shazrobo wrote: »

hi all, still struggling here, seems like everyone i know is having fun and able to go out and do as they please except me, i'm tied to the children, and going out anywhere with them seems so hard right now, i'm worn out and tired

shaz xxx

I think your trouble is that you are too kind for your own good. :A you seem to do a lot for other people at the expense of yourself.Sometimes in life you have to be nasty and selfish to get the things you need.