Depression Support Thread

weegie.geek

I see some people are still being contrary purely for the sake of it. I have better things to do than attempt to converse with someone like that.

Anyway, how's everyone today?

beachbeth

absolutebounder wrote: »

For example if you wanted to be a millionaire who would you rather hang out with Richard branson or someone on the dole?

Neither. I would want someone who used to be as poor as me and who had then become rich because he would understand the position I was in, the difficulties I had and also be able to teach me how to get in the same position he is in now.

beachbeth

absolutebounder wrote: »

Ok you can have alan sugar:rotfl:

But I don't like him!

absolutebounder wrote:

Make the most of this because I am going to admit I was wrong and you were right. All people are logical if you look at things the way they see life so yes to others it is warped logic which can be based on false assumptions or even warped assumptions

This is so true! Its often crossed my mind that its people who aren't depressed who are the ones that are living in cloud cuckoo land and its us depressed people who are seeing things as they really are and its frightening which is why we are so terrified and struggle with everything!:D Perhaps you undepressed lot should start listening!:p

beachbeth

One thing I believe is that if something bad happens to you as an adult (ie you get bitten by a white dog) then you are naturally going to be wary of white dogs from then on. You can, however, train yourself to believe that it was just that particular white dog that did the deed and you could get yourself to no longer fear white dogs. However, I think that if something bad happens to you as a child it is much, much harder to get over your fear as an adult. You would be more likely to fear all dogs and not just white ones. It would also be more deeply ingrained in your subconscience and harder to get over this fear. (I was bitten by a hamster as a child and even now find it hard to pick a hamster up, no matter how much the owner tells me its tame! However, as an adult, I have been bitten by a guineapig and yet have no fear of picking them up because my logical mind tells me that guineapigs don't normal do this and my subconscious mind believes it!!!)

This is why I think depression is so hard to combat. If it is true, as I believe, that it is your childhood treatment that causes depression then in the same way it is ingrained and difficult to overcome.

Sssssss

beachbeth wrote: »

This is true. I think though it has more to do with your experiences as a child rather than your past adult life. A lot of what happens to us as children can affect us as adults and I really believe that depression is caused by how we are treated as children. For example, a person who was sexually abused as a child can find it extremely hard to get past this as an adult and can even have difficulty with their adult relationships because of this. Telling them to forget what has happened because its in the past is useless.

you are so right, I woke up this morning feeling really depressed, why?because I started thinking about how I was bullied everyday of my school life, this happened over 30 years ago and why didn't I do anything to stop it then. This had me feeling down for hours, even though I know it's in the past, it won't happen again and I'll make damn sure my son never suffers like I did. So even though I know it was a stupid way to feel there was very little I could do to overcome it.

beachbeth

I know how you feel, Sssssss. You are quite helpless as a child and if you are bullied can feel there is no way to turn. This can really make you feel inadequate as an adult. I wasn't bullied really but did have certain people at school being horrible at times and it really sticks in my mind. I really feel for children who have other kids lying in wait for them and who are ganged up on. I think it can help if you think about all the famous people who were bullied and who have done so well in their lives - this is so sticking a finger up to the bullies!!!

maytaurus

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rosepink1984

This is a very interesting debate. Obviously it's good to try to change your thought processes from negative to positive and I do try to do that. However, I still get overwhelmed by sad and depressed emotions that come from nowhere and seem unrelated to what I'm thinking about.

This debate, and one poster in particular, is making me feel that I should apologise for feeling this way and that I should just change myself overnight and 'ping' be better. I can't do that. I have depression and I want to get better I don't want to be this way, and one day I will be better. In the meantime I have to live with it and cope with it the best I can.

Everytime I've been on here lately I've felt very angry with the poster in question and their attitude and I feel I should leave this thread for a while. I wish you all well, especially BB, Ssssss, Katie, Anni and Jo.

rosepink1984

AB, Do you think that it's people's own fault that they have depression? That they could have avoided it by changing their thought processes?
Do you believe that clinical depression doesn't exist?
Do you believe that AD's are a waste of time?

From what you have said previously, this is the impression I have got rightly or wrongly of your views.
I may be being overly sensitive but I can't cope with feeling like a failure because I have depression, that somehow I should have been able to stop it happening. I know the warning signs and I did everything I could to stop this bout of depression coming on. Everyday I fight against it. If you could see me here now crying over the laptop you would know how much I hate feeling this way. Depression has taken over my life, I'm tired all the time, I cry for no reason, get overwhelmed by sadness and feelings of complete worthlessness. I feel very bad today and I don't want to come online and be told by someone who has never had depression that I should come off my AD's and wish myself better

I'm sorry if I've got the wrong impression of you and what you are trying to do on this forum. I'm sure you want to help. I just feel worse and worse coming on here so that's why I want to leave.

Sssssss

rosepink1984 wrote: »

AB, Do you think that it's people's own fault that they have depression? That they could have avoided it by changing their thought processes?
Do you believe that clinical depression doesn't exist?
Do you believe that AD's are a waste of time?

From what you have said previously, this is the impression I have got rightly or wrongly of your views.
I may be being overly sensitive but I can't cope with feeling like a failure because I have depression, that somehow I should have been able to stop it happening. I know the warning signs and I did everything I could to stop this bout of depression coming on. Everyday I fight against it. If you could see me here now crying over the laptop you would know how much I hate feeling this way. Depression has taken over my life, I'm tired all the time, I cry for no reason, get overwhelmed by sadness and feelings of complete worthlessness. I feel very bad today and I don't want to come online and be told by someone who has never had depression that I should come off my AD's and wish myself better

I'm sorry if I've got the wrong impression of you and what you are trying to do on this forum. I'm sure you want to help. I just feel worse and worse coming on here so that's why I want to leave.

rosepink, I can safely say I'm been through everything you say and feel, but please believe me it does and will get better. I'm sure if i had been here 2 years ago at the height of my depression I also would have run a mile by some of the posts. You're part of the family here, please don't leave, stop posting for awhile if you think that's the right thing for you to do, but I really hope you stick around or someback when you feel up to it. In the mean time take care. Sssssss.