Can you use a voucher on a first date? poll discussion

MSE_Martin

omelette451 wrote: »

What I want to know is why we're being told it's the man's responsibility to pay? Has society really moved on that little since the dark ages? I'd know she was worth treating nice if she offered to split the bill even after I'd used the voucher!

Hi,

Quite deliberately the reason Bob is paying is because he asked her out and volunteered, not because he should pay.... that's a poll for another day

slow_saver

Pull out a voucher on a first date! Now that is SERIOUSLY bad form!!!

donglefan

Cash is safer.

If by the end of the date you don't like the girl, flaunt the voucher.

hvd201

I think it slightly depends on if the guy's age and staus. If he is a young uni student then I'd sort of understand why but a banker on £45k/year my initial reaction would be that he's either tight or wonder why he has little money - does he have a gambling problem?
Though I think he should pay for it out of sight and never mention the voucher so that I'd never know, which would leave me a)feeling flattered and spoilt and b)if we go onto a bar for drinks after I'd pay for them knowing he paid for the meal.
Second date onwards I'd say no problem but first impressions on a first dates are very important chaps!

nzseries1

El_Stevo wrote: »

It's actually a shade under 30% (more women responded than men).

I wouldn't use the voucher if the odds were anything more than 1%

kim_ley wrote: »

well i think that if you are the sort of person who is an mse then not using the voucher would be pretending your someone your not...

Isn't that the point of a first date? :rolleyes:

donglefan wrote: »

If by the end of the date you don't like the girl, flaunt the voucher.

Now THAT is good thinking!! :money:

starbump

"E. I’m a woman. It’s not an issue, Bobs paying"

Hardly matters how he chose to pay so long as he paid. If he hadn't paid - either went "dutch" or I paid - then there would be no second date. In fact, ditto for every date. But then I'm quite old-fashioned, despite my age. I am happy to pay for friends - and I never keep tabs on how much - but I would never pay for a boyfriend. Before I met my husband, I would consider paying (full or part) for a date's meal as a cheap way of finding out we were wholly incompatible.

supersmith

I'd like to start by saying that I don't expect a man to pay for me and always offer, and expect, to go halfs on a date. For me it's not how much something costs but the effort your date has put in to impress...

I went out for a date with a guy some years ago, not a first date but a first dinner date... we went to a restaurant he said was nice, which it was (but not expensive), and then he pulled out the 2 for 1 voucher. Now that wouldn't have been too bad, I would have preferred that he mentioned it beforehand so we could have had a laugh about it... However the big romance killer for me was that after the meal he said 'Oh we should do this again, I'll see if I can get another voucher from somewhere' !!! :eek:

To me it seemed that he wasn't willing to splash out even a little for a treat, and would never be willing to! He didn't want to make an effort. This assumption was in fact proved very true as I got to know the man a little better... needless to say it didn't last very long

loracan1

If he was insisting on paying I would be discreet enough not to watch him get his wallet out - so would know no different!

Simca

I would be more concerned with how well the date was going - does he fancy me? Do I fancy him? - than worrying about how my companion is paying for the meal.

blue_monkey_2

They are talking about this on BBC Breakast this morning!!