Can you use a voucher on a first date? poll discussion

welsh_cake

aliasojo wrote: »

:rotfl: I dont care if he's planned a trip up the flipping Eiffel Tower.....if I was to see a voucher on a first date, it would also be the last date too.

Hee hee - that is so funny - i totally agree with you. I have no objection to vouchers being used and me and OH try to use them now whenever we eat out, but the first date is a no no for me.

Dinah93

I would be absolutely fine with this, provided it was an appropriate first date location. If it was a 2 for 1 at burger king there would be no second date! However I had a nice meal, the same meal I would have had anyway, just less was paid for it. Fantastic, shows he's smart with cash. If however we got there and I was told I could only order from a specific menu, I would take that as a bad start to a first date. End of the day, he's paying, which is more than a lot of men do, so so long as I had a nice meal it's up to him what he pays for it.

poppy10_2

On a first date moneysaving should be the last thing on your mind. Leave the vouchers till you know each other a bit better and can have a laugh about it.

before_hollywood

on a first date i wouldnt use a voucher, however my ex was big on going dutch for everything so if i had a voucher and split the cost of the meal between us then she would be happy with that.

just not on the first date (she had known me ages before then anyway)

carolt

I'd never have let anyone pay for me on a first date - fine once you know each other but it would just be weird then - like accepting a valuable present from someone you hardly know. I'd feel I'd owe them, somehow.

With someone you know well, it would be fine - sensible.

ThinkingOfLinking

I am all for moneysaving but that would appear as tight on a first date. Mind you, I don't let people pay for me anyway as it causes complications; I prefer to go Dutch.

So I went for F.

However, I love picnics; a cheap first date option; save the flashy restaurant for an anniversary date or something.

WelshGandalf

tibtib wrote: »

What is wrong with using a savings voucher? Surely its better to be with someone who is conscious about money, then someone who is flashing cash and wooing u, gold digger?!

100% agree!

You shouldn't be hiding aspects of your personality from someone you hope to have a special relationship with. If you're a moneysaver then that's what you are. Honesty is the best policy - either they will like you for it in which case that bodes well for the future and is something for you to bond over - or she'll be put off by it in which case frankly you have different financial outlooks and probably shouldn't have a future together!

My colleageus always say sarcastically "oh you're such a romantic" when I tell them I took my wife out to the place that I had a voucher for, but spending money in itself isn't romantic anyway, it's thoughts, actions, making a special effort, that sort of thing. Cooking a meal when it is not expected is much more romantic than paying full price on a pre-arranged meal out!

elvy

Hello,

I would prefer my date to use a 2for1 voucher on the first date rather than pay with his credit card. Now if he takes me out for diner at Pizza Express/Pizza Hut/Nandos/Cafe Rouge etc... with a 2for1 voucher i wouldn't be impressed as it would have to be diner in a special restaurant... how he pays doesn't matter. what matters is who he is and if I like him or not. Being a penny pinching girl I would ask him to use my 2 for 1 voucher if I happened to have one for the place he is taking me out for diner on a first date :-)

MariaC

I think its a no-no to just "whip out" a voucher at the table ......

BUT if had asked me out and mentioned in passing about a voucher..... that'd be ok.

Either that or don't pay at the table!!

[having said that - on 1st date with my parner of nearly 4 years we ended up leaving the first place we went having just sat down because it was "over priced". Apparently £8 for a posh fish finger sandwich is just not worth paying......]

teddyco

I'd pay with a voucher at the till out of sight.