Can you use a voucher on a first date? poll discussion

macaroni

Depends whether he chose the restaurant or not, and whether he told me beforehand he had a coupon that he could use.

I would feel cheated if he didnt tell me and I had chosen a cheaper meal that was ok instead of a more expensive one that I really wanted and he then whipped the coupon out

MariaC

macaroni wrote: »

Depends whether he chose the restaurant or not, and whether he told me beforehand he had a coupon that he could use.

I would feel cheated if he didnt tell me and I had chosen a cheaper meal that was ok instead of a more expensive one that I really wanted and he then whipped the coupon out

Totally Agree!!

ekb22

i don't think it's a problem to use a voucher at all.

But to avoid anyone thinking you're a tight g*t why not just slip the voucher to the waitress whilst your date is in the bathroom - or even better pay when they are in the bathroom!

On a first date, I always automatically offer to pay my half, i'm a modern girl after all - but I am always very impressed if the man refuses, or especially if he says 'already done'!!

purplegaily

As a girl, I normally only go to places where I can afford to offer to pay for my meal - whether the person taking me chooses to accept or not.

If that is the case, and they whipped out a 2 for 1 offer, and said it'd be the same as me going Dutch anyway, I'd just consider it thoughtful. If I had one handy, I might mention the voucher through dinner, and drop the subject quickly if the mood went off.

As someone who's been with the same guy for 10 years now, it's a bit of a moot point. But even doing business meals etc, i'd go with the voucher. I don't throw money around, and if the compnay issues the vouchers - why not use them.

andrina_nightshade

Like others have said, it depends on the context. If he mentions the voucher beforehand, then I'd be fine with it (I'd probably ask him where he gets the info, lol!).

However, a friend of mine arranged to go on a date to the cinema. Her date agreed to pay, but when they reached the front of the queue, he turned to her and said, "I hope you've got your student card, I'm not paying full price for you." Suffice to say, she didn't stick around. There's good money sense, and then there's just plain rudeness.

Tete_en_l'Air

This is a really difficult one. I LOVE my vouchers and hate having to pay full price for anything, but I do think there is a time and a place for it and I think it would give me a bit of a bad impression on a very first date. That said, it wouldn't make me run a mile either so I've gone for It Doesn't Matter.

nzseries1

This poll proves that if I use a voucher on a first date, there is a 32% chance that the girl I'm with will not call me again. I DON'T LIKE THOSE ODDS.

El_Stevo

nzseries1 wrote: »

This poll proves that if I use a voucher on a first date, there is a 32% chance that the girl I'm with will not call me again. I DON'T LIKE THOSE ODDS.

It's actually a shade under 30% (more women responded than men). Still not great odds, but if a girl doesn't consider me worthy of her because I used a voucher, then I don't consider her worthy of me.

kim_ley

well i think that if you are the sort of person who is an mse then not using the voucher would be pretending your someone your not... i've never had anone pay for meal on date so it would be nice no matter how he pays. some people might not call you again but i think that it isnt what using a voucher says about you its what not calling for that reason says about them. if you were to go all out and spend a fortune you might be expected to do that everytime and when you reveal what your really like they might !!!!!! off anyway!!!?!?!!

omelette451

Saucepot wrote: »

When I took the bird that is now my missus on a first date, I took her for a drink in a Spoons because "the drinks are cheap in here". Didn't put her off, but then again I have a charming personality, good looks and a massive ......

...ego? Why not just explain that you like it cos they have proper beer unlike most modern bars? If that's what you drink, of course, but if not that would make you a lager-lout and she'd be best off staying clear anyway!

What I want to know is why we're being told it's the man's responsibility to pay? Has society really moved on that little since the dark ages? I'd know she was worth treating nice if she offered to split the bill even after I'd used the voucher!