Dating in debt

rockabilly_rebel

Theres a saying, "The best things in life are free". If you tell him/her (not clear on that one) that you are having a few money problems and can't really afford to spend much etc. They'll understand. The best things are walks in the countryside/seaside etc. Join a rambling club maybe? Cinema on wednesdays for the 2 for 1 orange deal. So you can go for about £3 each. If you look on the shopping spending section it will help you find vouchers for restaurants etc. You can still do the same things but if you can save a bit of money on them. Then while you ARE still spending money, your not spending as much as you would have done.

Good luck. But be honest with them, they will be far more understanding than you may think.

Fortunately my good lady sure is

spykey_uk

Hi Haggle,

I've just read your post and can only echo what the others have said - you really must tell her. Eventually she will find out anyway if the relationship works out, and the sooner you do it, the quicker you can reduce your spending and start paying it off.

When I met my OH he wasn't working and was in a lot of debt because of an ex-girlfriend, and I was also in a lot of a debt because of an ex-boyfriend. I used to pay my ex's rent, food shopping, every time he went out I gave him spending money etc etc - what a mug! :rotfl:

So my lovely OH and I kept tight purse strings for a while and now we're on the road to reducing those debts. Next year we're getting married and couldn't be happier.

Please tell her, if she's the one she will understand. And there are so many great things to do on the cheap. If you're near London, lots of the museums and tourist attractions are free, picnics, BBQs, snuggling together with a DVD and bottle of wine, walks in the country (we LOVE this!), playing board games (don't laugh, we did this the other night and my OH said he'd not had that much fun in ages), Orange Wednesdays cinema (which now includes a 2-for-1 at Pizza Express as well).

Good luck! x

haggle_2

I've managed to pay off the most painful debts so can splash out on the good life a bit more.

Would say that while the se* is still great I'm resenting her more nowdays.

babymoo

shazzer22 wrote: »

...next weekend spent at his parents cottage, roaring fire, couple of bottles of red wine, a home cooked dinner with candles and a two hour walk with the dog that really did it for me...

My idea of a perfect date

WestWalesWannabee

Why are you restenting her Haggle? Are you going to stay together?

niclj

Mine too!

Although at the moment would take anything!

Men a bit thin on the ground lately. Oh who am I kidding - there are none!

haggle_2

The relationship is over. I don't want to going into detail but lets just say it's done.

alona1

haggle wrote: »

The relationship is over. I don't want to going into detail but lets just say it's done.

Are you ok?

haggle_2

Yes I'm ok thanks. I think it's for the best in the long run.

Now I can focus on getting debts down. I'm crazy to have got caught in a debt trap and need to sort things out so life is better in the long run.

Yeh things are easier now. I'll be sitting at home with the lights out and the heating off watching my debt shrink. :doh:

oh yeh I'm celibate now. It's cheaper.

alona1

You'll be ok. :beer:
Focus your priorities and think of all the fab benefits in the long run.

This has just made me ring my DMP and pay an extra £100 a month towards my debt.

I cant wait till that money every month is mine! I have about 2 years to go...