Dating in debt

thevinternet

There are several free things that I would LOVE a boyfriend to suggest doing as a date, but we never have....romance doesn't have to be expensive...

1. Going for a long walk in the park and feeding the ducks. Hand-holding, snuggling and cute animals. Perfect.

2. Poetry / book readings at the local library / waterstones. I love reading but this way you get to share it.

3. A Sunday afternoon spent in a local gallery, just browsing art and talking about what we like, what we don't like, even if we know nothing about art!

4. An evening in, where I get everything I like, if you know what I mean! Lady's choice! And what's more fun or more free than that?!

xx

rubydoiwannabee

haggle wrote: »

Did a google search for "Dating in debt" and discovered the following.

1. The dating site for people in debt datingfordebtors.com has ironically gone bankrupt.

2. Another webise recommended the following.

• Picnic's
• Plays performed by a local theater group
• Craft fairs or arts festivals.
• Wine tasting at a local wine store.
• Exhibits at the local museum.
• Bake together.
• Shoplifting.

tee hee....
picnics in the snow!*
am dram... mmm enough said
craft fairs, really? that is 15 minutes taken care of
wine tasting, that is more like it.
museum.... another 10 mins
baking....what was that film, where they put food over each other?? could be interesting
SHOPLIFTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I haven't read all of your thread yet, but saw this and it made me chuckle. Off to read the rest now.

:rotfl:

haggle_2

Had dinner in last week with a bottle of wine.

This week end she wanted to go out. I said I liked staying in last week. So I blew a load more cash that I don't have.

This week I'll tell her I'm broke or just finish the relationship and keep the reason to myself

Jacks_xxx

haggle wrote: »

Had dinner in last week with a bottle of wine.

This week end she wanted to go out. I said I liked staying in last week. So I blew a load more cash that I don't have.



This week I'll tell her I'm broke or just finish the relationship and keep the reason to myself

But why did you do that???!

Really? These are your only options?

Tell her about your situation - with an expectation that she won't want to be with you any more if you do.

Or the pre-emptive strike of dumping her without telling her about your finances cos you think if you do she'll dump you anyway?

You're not painting a very pretty picture of this girl! :eek:

So which is it going to be then honeybun? It seems that it's the end of the road for you two either way.

It makes you wonder how other people manage to have relationships on lower incomes or when in debt really doesn't it?

Personally our saving grace has always been that the funnest part of a romantic relationship (sex) is also FREE!!!!

Love Jacks xxx

scaredy_cat

haggle wrote: »

Had dinner in last week with a bottle of wine.

This week end she wanted to go out. I said I liked staying in last week. So I blew a load more cash that I don't have.

This week I'll tell her I'm broke or just finish the relationship and keep the reason to myself

you don't have to tell her you're broke - just say you're on a tight budget.

Have you thought about using the 2 for 1 restaurant vouchers?

tasha-debt

When I met my Boyfriend I was in a huge amount of debt, we used to go out all the time until about 6 months after we met and I was totally skint and could not afford another night out (he likes to treat me but I always wanted to go half). I finally told him and his reaction was "So I love you not your bank account", thats the kind of person you need, that why you know once your debts are clear and your financial secure the person your with loves you for you not for your glowing bank account.

Just be honest with her, it really is not worth getting in to more debt to impress someone plus she may surprise you and be quite happy to stay in a bit more. My boyfriend and I do lots together still but always look for the cheapest option. We go for dinner during the week when we can use vouchers then at the weekend its nights in cooking together etc.

xxx

Pee

I agree. I'm inclined to think lottery winners should claim to be penniless to see the true nature of the person that they are getting involved with. If this girl is only with you because you take her out and spend money, it isn't going to last because you can not or do not want to do it and moreover, do you even want it to?

I would have concerns about getting into a relationship with someone with money problems, but not if they had faced up to their problems and were dealing with them.

WestWalesWannabee

Hey Haggle. You sound like a decent guy. I'm a girl in debt living in Cardiff and find it hard to date guys who don't have the same problems as I do as they don't understand. I am a strict 50:50 girl and wouldn't have it any other way.

Uniscots97

Hey Haggle, how did you get on?

Snaggles

My first date with my last boyfriend was pretty cheap and cheerful - 2 drinks in a pub, one of which was non-alcoholic as we were both driving. We met in the afternoon, and both had places to be later, so no temptation to stay and carry on getting drunk etc. It was a perfect 2 hours, one of the nicest dates I have ever been on.

Subsequent dates involved AT MOST a meal at a pub, but generally staying in with a bottle of wine (and they were DEFINITELY the best dates I've ever had ).

We did have the added expense of petrol and hotels sometimes, because he lives 3 hours away, but if he had been more local, our entire relationship would have been built on dates costing very very little.

We are not together any more (:() but those dates were some of the happiest times of my life, so it really doesn't have to bankrupt you to have a relationship.

I am back on the dating scene again now, and had a date at the weekend - the guy in question made quite a big thing about the issue of who was paying for what (to the point where I felt under pressure to pay), and to be honest it was a little offputting, in fact I cancelled the date altogether (I went in the end after he explained his situation, which is that he had recently lost his job and was still looking for a new one, and it had been a cheeky joke, not a serious request).

That only happened because he wanted to go bowling and then for a drink, which straight away makes it quite expensive. I would have much rather done something cheaper and not felt awkward about the money issue on a first date.

As an aside (and possibly *TMI*), the date itself was pretty dull, but the goodnight kiss was GREAT and FREEEEE!!! :T