The revenge of the stripey socks - a DFW adventure

Lemon_Tree

hi fay, good news about OH's job but he's got survivors guilt which is understandable. i've been through the redundancy situation and everyone ends up feeling terrible about it.
We'll be joining you on the freezing ducks backside month next month. I'm desparate for the DD on the credit card to come out so i can use it, as this months transactions have now taken it just under the limit. It's all been spent on the house and the money is there but i need them to take the payment. We're also going on holiday next week, we're going to be very MSE but i'm really worried about the cost of it, just the day trips and the food though i'm planning on printing loads of vouchers for meal and getting brekki and lunches as the local supermarket in advance so we're not paying in the motel. arghhhh i'm feeling so tight and i'm so worried about the finances next month.
and i now know OH hasn't gotten an interview at my place for the job he really wanted. boooooooo!

Lemon_Tree

ps it was a guinea pig! and i was worried about it's friend who was buried in a plant pot. that seems like a long time ago now doesn't it when you first introduced yourself.

Pippilongstocking

glasgowgirl wrote: »

Hi Fay,
Where does this budget thingy live? Would like to have a bash with my figures. Think you said you spend £100 per month on food - for the 3 of you? I'm spending easily more than that on just lil ole me - yikes!
xx

GG Hi

Budget planner can be downloaded but I use the online version

http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/budgetcalculator.phtml

Theres a link on the front page - step 2 I think - but the link above should help you

Yeah food for 3 + various hangers oner's and two dogs and a random cat who visits occasionallly, all toiletries, loo roll and cleaning products (for all of us in the house) £100 a month (ish)

Hope it helps



LT - have a great time with the holiday - you will have so much fun with OH - sounds like you have all bases covered!! Enjoy!

Pippilongstocking

Lemon_Tree wrote: »

ps it was a guinea pig! and i was worried about it's friend who was buried in a plant pot. that seems like a long time ago now doesn't it when you first introduced yourself.

I asked DS and he rolled his eyes - yep a long time and lots of new chums god love ya all.


Been to the docs after work - few things up - he tells me I am stressed and wants to put me on Anti-depressants

Told me it would make me sleepy - lol - that's ALL I need - not enough hours int he day normally - need to think about keeping self healthy and sane I said I would go back and talk to him next week..............need to find some sanity before then.........:rolleyes: anyone got any spare?

lucielle

If you have no other medical conditions check out St Johns Wort. It can help in mild cases of depression. Keep your chins up chuck.
L

Karmacat

What do you think about anti depressants, Fay? Do you *want* them?

I was surprised to read that you *do* manage to spend only £100 a month for food - I was expecting you to say, no thats £100 a week. Thats brilliant that its per month!

Pippilongstocking

Karmacat wrote: »

What do you think about anti depressants, Fay? Do you *want* them?

I was surprised to read that you *do* manage to spend only £100 a month for food - I was expecting you to say, no thats £100 a week. Thats brilliant that its per month!

KK - do I want them (anti-depressants) - not if they make my head all fuddled - do I want to be happier - yeah - but I think that alot of folks arent all sunshine and moobeams, lollipops and stardust all the time. They do help folks though don't they - or is it doctors just wanting to give folks a quick fix? (that sounds so cynical!!)

I hate living alone - I think I am more 'Hobbit' than I think I am - I really don't function very well out on my own - I love looking after folks, cooking, nuturing etc - odd that I seem to push people away and end up my own company so much - I miss the closeness of someone (other than darling kids) being around. I get really angry still at my ex for the disruption he has brought on our lives. (Get over it Fay eh?)

Dunno whats up - can't see OH being here and am here for at least 5 more years - I love living here but he dislikes the idea of it so much it makes me not want to be here - and yet I do love it here - its frustrating how torn I feel - if he were here I'd be as less stressed I think (or is that wishful thinking).

We nearly broke up last week, I think I had got to the TOTM blackness and didn't really see the point of continuing.

Short answer is I jsut want to be happier - L will give the St Johns wort a try - - flowers always have the answers - I wish I had a magic wand - I should be really happy don't understand why I am not.

Had a good rant to EX hubby on phone last night about non-contributions to family - poor bloke i don't think he knew what hit him - he just asked about the October holidays.

KK - shopping - yeah maybe I am in denial about the £100 - I think pretty much thats what we have it honed down too - the freezer is groaning with food and we now only shop later on for reduced stuff and I dont think I have paid full price for bread or cheese for months and months - we do however have a very random assortment in the freezer.
I will keep my receipts for this month and make sure its not snuck up again - the increase in expenses seem to be more house related (ie cleaner etc) but I keep seeing the outgoings without seeing the new lodger money ccoming in and extra things/people we have staying

Sorry to be a grumble bum

Cheery_Daff

Oh fay you aren't a grumble bum! (((((((((((((fay))))))))))))) It must be difficult for you being so torn between a place you love (and HAVE to be!) and someone you also love who doesn't want to be there Don't envy you in that situation...

Chin up, and do what you need to, even if that includes anti depressants. My mum has been on them for years, Mr Daffs is now on them too, both are happier. Have heard good things about St Joh's Wort too (although isn't it that that makes the contraceptive pill less effective?? Be careful!!)

You're doing so well with Evil Edna too, but I reckon all the thinking about that must take it out of you, not to mention the emotional upheaval of all this rubbish with your phd and evil supervisor. Give yourself a bit of a mental break lass!

Stripey socks on and to the forefront, you WILL get through this, it WILL pass, and I'm sure you'll do the right thing in the long run (as well as the short run!)

I know what you mean about nurturing folk - are there any old dears round by you who would love to be nurtured, or is that just not the same???

Good luck
xxx

Pippilongstocking

Ta Daffs

Have pink gingham socks on today - maybe the power of them is less than the stipes.

Having folk to stay has helped cos I have cooked and made nice things for them as well - the kids are spoiled silly with homemade stuff that its so normal for them - I think I just need to channel things more productively.

I love living on islands, I wish I could knock some sense into OH.

I have actually wondered about looking into fostering or something similar - (AFTER PHD) maybe I should think about something to get me out and about.

Evil supervisor has indeed knocked self esteem - need to give myself a good shake - its usually like this at TOTM time - thanks guys!

Not on pill - chance of needing to be would be a fine thing! (Sorry if TMI) Will ferret out st john wort later on when out at lunchtime - its now on the list with the geranium oil.

Flower power rocks!!

Pippilongstocking

OH pointed out last night my head is already fuddled - so would it help unfuddle it - lol - he reckons my brain has gone stripey too