The revenge of the stripey socks - a DFW adventure

Pippilongstocking

{Sorry still at data entry stage of working at mo - so time on hands to be stupid after plonking numbers into excel and getting ready to analyse them makes one a little bit more nuts than normal}

Hobbit evidence
I am indeed I think genetically matched or predisposed to accentuated hobbit dna (although my feet aren't hairy - I think this is a genetic mutation and hence the need for stripey socks). The evidence presents itself thus

I like gardeing especially
I like cooking
I like looking after folks
I am very peedie (little)
I am hobbit shaped
I live in an extensive garden which is like the Shire
I love flowers and all things that grow
I have at least 3 breakfasts a day and always planning next meals

Therefore the conclusion I have come to is that there is signfincant evidence that I am a hobbit with a fuddled brain.:D

OliveOyl_2

fayjmck wrote: »

And a lobster claw and legs but that doesnt count as it was really food

That is just so random! :rotfl:

Hope you feel better soon Fay.

When I was depressed I found going for walks enormously therapeutic. Especially on a blowy Autumnal day. Hugs.

I was prescribed Tricyclic () anti-d's, and my GP explained that they didn't "cure" depression, they removed the symptoms (lethargy, inability to sleep and general weepiness) to enable you (me) to deal with the underlying cause of the black mood. So they were short term (6 months for me) not the rest of my life deal. Is that what your GP is suggesting?

Pippilongstocking

Hi Olive

He didn't say which one but yeah short term - beginning to stress again about work and finding everything just a bit too much - dunno if its the thought of 'trying again' to write stuff when they all think I am carp anyway.

I am just black alot of the time - I am up and down alot - always have been seem to be very black or white mostly - I love being here but miss everyone lots (not that I saw them much when I was living in central Scotland anyway).

Must be hard being away from Popeye so much - thanks for the info going to talk to doc again next week once mulled things over - sorry about the brain dump - I don't speak to many folks I can't speak to my mum (not sure she knows what I look like to be honest - so its just you lucky lot!!

Random - moi??????? (whats wrong with having half of Boris (the birthday lobster) in the freezer? he was huge and now has random limbs (legs and one huge claw) frozen for another feast time)

Karmacat

Okay ... your diagnosis of hobbit sounds accurate. But they nearly all live in the Shire. Sounds like your head and your heart are in conflict ... and there's only so much can be done in the short term. So short term anti-deps might be the way to go, or some other short term coping mechanism.

I *do* think that no matter what, fresh air and exercise help, as Olive is saying ... but I know you get a lot of that anyway. Maybe you need more.

And too, don't underestimate the amount of stress that being in debt and juggling can bring - I know I feel very, very black sometimes, down deep in it.

Hugs and hugs and hugs again.

Kittikins

Hugs Fay, I empathise with and your feelings, and I am rubbish on my own. I went on the anti-d beginning with P for a while when the ex upped and left and it really helped, it just made me feel like me again, no tiredness or fuzziness, just bringing me back into myself. I hated the thought of going on it, but once I'd got over myself, I found it really helpful.

I'm feeling silly today, it was DD's first day at school, very exciting and I have a gazillion photos to upload........and I did what I'd promised myself I wouldn't do, and shed a few tears when walking away from the classroom. Luckily a lovely mummy friend was there to give me a hug and tell me she'd done it both times with her little ones. *sigh*

Pippilongstocking

KKins - I did it to with both of mine especially DD - thanks for the other information - if they dont make you fuzzy headed maybe i should think about things harder.

I guess all the juggling does get to you after a while eh?

Karmacat - arthritus - cutting out anything from the solanaceae (peppers, tomatoes etc) helped my friend hugely - might be worth a go?

You are right I do feel in terrible conflict - I don't want to feel by being here I am missing out on the rest of my life - when my (other ex OH- penguin chops - despite his other failings - lol) lived here life seemed to be so much more focussed on 'being here' and enjoying it all.

I don't mind the mainland - its OK but I don't especially want to keep thinking about being there - I LIKE IT HERE - honest injun.

When the kids go south I will move sooth if they want go uni (DS in 2011, DD in 2014) I guess to make it easier for them to get home - but what if none of us want that? What if they are happy to come back here as its our 'home'.

Lets not even think about that one - whole can of worms - hence the conflict I guess - head truely in sand - back to my data crunching

Ta for cheering me up folks

Pippilongstocking

RANT ALERT

My 'friends of OH dont really know them can you do us DB&B' guests have gone leaving me the princely sum of £6.50 per person per night for dinner b and b - I fear this just about covers my costs but ONLY just - cheeky barstewards - I was supposed to be 'cheaper than staying in a hotel' accomodation - not 'take the michael accommodation' so having fed them and looked after them I now get the joy of remaking my own bed, cleaninng my own room again, (emptied the bin (DONT ASK) doing all the laundry for 6 towels, and a king sized bed.

So glad I bothered - OH isn't happy either - you live and learn - the phrase 'just leave us a voucher for what you think is reasonable - I normally charge £25pppn - but I dont expect that much' should have been a bit clearer I fear - its my own fault.

EXCUSE THE RANT......I even baked every morning for them in true before work hobbit style:rotfl:

I am so incredibly stupid, we should have agreed something before they came.

Live and learn.

Karmacat

Thanks for the tip about the solonaceae (Sp? you know what I mean).

Oh dear. I'm looking at your rant. Elantan has just been working through an issue of mates rates.....

I've had to be quite hardline in my own self employment, because personally I'm quite soft, I think its something most of us go through. If you're a professional, you have to charge particular amounts. If your normal figure is £25, then for mates you do it at 25 - x. 20% reduction? 30%? Whatever it is, it has to leave you with more than just expenses, thats absolutely not okay - especially when they're not even *your* mates! I think you're right in saying 'agree before you get here'.

Sorry its worked out this way - will OH say something to them, do you think?

Pippilongstocking

Hi KK

Yeah he's livid - he pays £14 a night for a hostel on his way up here no food or anything fancy - I asked him not to say anything - but he's not a happy bunny. He knows how tight things are and he knows how much we are trying so hard to be frugal - so when folks come we buy in nicer local things and posh juice etc but its certainly going to use up alot of the money (if not all) they left.

Its my own fault - I wont do it again - I think I am just lucky with my own pals - they know how its been for us they are always pretty generous - I think I am spoiled they don't leave us lots of money - they normally leave us a nice chunk of a tesco voucher - maybe these new folks turned up and saw the nice big house and just thought we were OK financially - ? - or more likely they just didn't think - they are both in 20's living with Mum and Dad each - so maybe someone else foots the bill for the vast orange juice consumption???? (Oh I sound so hormonal and bitter!)

I think the MSE way of thinking certainly makes you question everything and make the most of any opportunities to pay off some debts or cover costs a bit.

Your system sounds quite sensible - as you say we live and learn eh?

PS LT Diavalo is almost a third of its original size well done on OH getting the interview

makeup

Wow, Fay, that is just ridiculously unfair! Especially considering they are not your friends but OH's.

I have to say that what you said was perfectly reasonable and that it is a shame they have done this and that this will make you wary of doing this again in the future or will make you a bit more hardline about the costs.

I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down - you come across as a very cheerful and happy person although I can see how the problems you've had with your PhD would have had a serious effect.

Perhaps it is a good idea to discuss with the doctor about your fears of being 'muddle headed' etc on the tablets.

I hope that your OH decides what he wants to do soon, I am sure once you have that decision you will be able to work with that and decide how things will go.

I sincerely hope you feel better soon.