Fibromyalgia (part 2)

bigzippy

Thing is Raeh, I'm a control freak. Always have been. If something's not done the way I would logically have it done, then it does my head in (even down to how OH puts wet clothes out on the maiden to dry :rolleyes:) and I then instantly want to do everything so that it's all done/done "right". The thing about these conditions is that you have to learn to let go. In time you realise that clothes will dry no matter how they're put on the maiden and you have to swallow some pride and ask for some help. I know it's easier said than done, believe me, but if you want to feel better perhaps it's worth considering how you can sort things out a little differently so that the strain is not all on you and doesn't make your symptoms worse? Perhaps getting the kids onto a chores rota to do something small, even once a week, would lighten the load..? I hope you don't think I'm being patronising and know that it's all said out of care for you and your wellbeing

On a completely different topic...do you enter competitions for just anything, or do you filter out the ones you actually want? It seems a very ecclectic mix of goodies that you're bagging!

raeh

bz im a bit of a control freak myself, with me its more a fear of not having control?? Im not sure if i give people the wrong impression on here as i dont really over do things. It IS hard ,working and having the house and kids to look after, but i get lots of time to rest

the competitions i only do the ones that i would want the prize or i know someone would want. The opera tickets i knew my dad and stepmum would love, the kids outfit iv ordered for my little nephew and il always enter for any dvd's or books iv stopped doing the galaxy books one now as iv won one of each book But its a bit addictive getting the winning emails or getting a parcel in the post and its not strenuous

kassandra

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

^^ Wot she said. :grouphug:

I'm still quite perturbed by what they are doing

BZ, NO THEY WON'T DRY!!! OH drives me insane with that :mad: Why can't he just do it properly!!
:rotfl:

I have a thing about pegs too. Yes, you heard me right....pegs!
I wasn't even aware of it until a friend pointed it out. I have to have matching pegs on each item and the colour has to (as closely as possible) match the item. She pointed it out after I started re-arranging her washing line :rotfl: No-one is allowed to pack or unpack my shopping either. We get to the checkout and OH will say (rather sheepishly) "am I allowed to help" and I just growl at him like a wolf protecting her young I'm such a freak!!!

Jamla, if you come across a hand it's probably mine that's fallen off

raeh, get your feet up girl, that's an order!
Oooohh look at me getting all forceful, I'm still thinking about my shopping

s/e good on ya for rescuing the babies. I wouldn't have been able to pick it up though. I get all dramatic and gippy with owt like that.

CwtA I don't recall reading anything about a theatre trip. Sorry you couldn't go. Are you badly at the mo?

suep, glad your feeling better love

LW, yes please on the dust pan deal. My sister told me to get some nail glue for my tooth! She said Jade Goody's mum did it :rotfl:
What's the deal with the impossible pie? You've set your sights a bit high there ant ya??

I was wonder woman yesterday and moved a sofa with OH. we only moved it about four metres. He was saying I couldn't help because of this ligament thing and cos I'm pathetically weak anyway but these tablets are magic!! I didn't feel a thing. Unfortunately, and as my Aunt predicted (grrr I hate it when she is right), I may have caused further damage. I was in agony this morning and my magic tablets have lost some of their zing.

They have still helped a lot though and I have hope that once this injury is healed I will have manageable pain. Just keeping my fingers crossed that she lets me stay on them.

I might even be able to go back to work!!

It will have to be an afternoon start though cos I don't think anything will cure how I feel on a morning

Unity

Careful_with_that_Axe wrote: »

unity I used to live very close to Eltham Palace and it's beautiful. I am a bit fan of anything Art Deco and my pride and joy possession is a Makintosh chair. I always swore I would own one.
Fabulous place to get married. Does she live nearby? Tha was very much my neck of the woods for years.

p.s. My 1st wedding was here http://www.knowlecountryhouse.co.uk/. Not at all in the same league.

Hi CWTA, - Knowle Country House looks lovely and is far more upmarket than where I got married. We were married in the local Catholic church (more to please the parents than anything and they were footing most of the bill) with the reception in the church hall next door, because guests were coming from all over the country and some didn't drive. Mind you 32 years back there wasn't the great choice there is today. DD lives in Sawbridgeworth - just down the road from Beckingham Palace :rotfl:, but her friends are scattered far and wide so this would be fairly central. I have been trying to suggest http://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/main/w-vh/w-visits/w-findaplace/w-washingtonoldhall/w-w-washingtonoldhall-weddings.htm as I'd always envisaged her getting married from the family home and this isn't too far away.

I do love the Art Deco style - which is why I often watch the re-runs of Poirot on ITV3:D. We even had Art Deco style invitations at our own wedding. Although I must say my own walls are adorned with Pre-Raphaelite prints - that I love even more.

BZ - I did a double-take when I saw the cost, but she's worked hard, saved up and footing most of it herself. Mind you I did offer the advice of going off somewhere hot - with just her nearest and dearest, which is what we would have done with the benefit of hindsight. Things were a lot different in our day though - it was more of a "do" for the benefit of a large extended family who we hardly ever saw:rolleyes: and not what we'd have done by choice.

I have always thought that a good wedding has nothing at all to do with money - ours was done on an extremely tight budget (dad was badly disabled and on a low wage so we helped as much as we could). We were in a recession then too , but I've always thought the best weddings are the ones with attention to detail and using natural resourcefulness. Too many people think that you can make an occasion just by throwing money at it and as you know, that's not the case. Did you get the chance to look at the butterfly cake tins BTW?

DD has always been very careful with money - she plans a full week's menus and only buys what is on her shopping list. She also makes packed lunches the night before. Knowing her - she will probably make her own wedding dress as she's had plenty of practice with at least three evening dresses, including two for school proms.

Anyway they haven't set a date - but it's going to be a couple of years away, so won't be pinching your thunder and there's plenty of time to look at lots of options. I hope you won't mind me picking your brains over things - especially how to set up a wedding web-site as that seems to me to be a brilliant idea!

Still debating what to do about DS - DD has suggested asking a solicitor and DS feels it might be an idea. If only we had been somewhere near we could have put him in the car and brought him through to our city hospital, where the red and white top would have been a positive advantage. Effectively this is a sort of racism when you think about it . I'm still finding it hard not to get on the phone and give them hell :mad:.

LameWolf

Afternoon all.

s/e I was wondering where you’d got to; I think we can all understand feeling blurgh, hope you’re a bit better soon. Well done on rescuing the (potential) baby froggies.

Sue don’t worry, I get confused as to who has said what, and in what context a lot of the time. The amount of time I spend scrolling back and re-reading things is phenomenal.

I woke up all snuffly this morning, so I’m wondering if CwtA has spread her lovely cold virus over t’internet. Now, I know it’s nice to share things with your friends, but I’d just as soon pass on this one.

((((BZ)))) I expect your OH has given you one already (a hug – get your mind out of the gutter) but just in case, have a hug from me.

Oh, and the Impossible Pie turned out much better than I expected. In fact I may have to go and get a helping in a minute……

Another control freak here; I tend to leave things to hand if I know I'm going to use them later (to save spoons) and Mr LW has a habit of tidying them away, usually to the wrong place, I'm forever telling him "I put that there for a reason". My silly thing with washing is that pairs of socks have to be pegged up next to each other, he'll just wallop them on the line any old how. Drives me mental.

ElliotReid

Hello ladies and gents

Hope you don't mind me popping in, I've been being nosy for a bit in here and thought it best to introduce myself.

Until about 10 minutes ago I was a full time student, now I'm pretty much in limbo as I've had to withdraw due to pretty crappy health.

I've got to go and see my doctor in the morning - the thought that terrifies me more than any other as he is really NOT that supportive - and explain that I think I have Fibromyalgia on top of my other health concerns. I know self diagnosis is a bad bad thing but I have a 2 page list of symptoms to take with me (I have such a poor short term memory I write him a letter when I go to make sure I remember to tell everything :rotfl: )

This is me: (With a couple removed because of embarassingness )
http://glitteredsky.co.uk/mysymptoms.html

(done as a webpage as it made for an exessively long post full of embarassing things so if you want to skip it you can )

Am I on a highway to nothing or do I qualify to join you?!

LameWolf

Hello ElliotReid and welcome to the madhouse.;)

I'm sure you'll love it here - some of us don't have fibro per se, but have similar issues re pain/fatigue etc etc, and it's a friendly thread, as you know if you've been reading the posts.

LOL I'm not terribly good at welcome messages, but I seem to be the only one around right now.:D

Oh, and good luck with the doctor.

bigzippy

raeh wrote: »

bz im a bit of a control freak myself, with me its more a fear of not having control?? Im not sure if i give people the wrong impression on here as i dont really over do things. It IS hard ,working and having the house and kids to look after, but i get lots of time to rest

Ditto on the fear of not having control, although having control now freaks me out too cos I'm not convinced I can do it anymore (whatever the it in question is!). I don't think you give us the wrong impression...I just think you do more than perhaps you realise

the competitions i only do the ones that i would want the prize or i know someone would want. The opera tickets i knew my dad and stepmum would love, the kids outfit iv ordered for my little nephew and il always enter for any dvd's or books iv stopped doing the galaxy books one now as iv won one of each book But its a bit addictive getting the winning emails or getting a parcel in the post and its not strenuous

I'm most jealous of your cadbury's win! Wouldn't last two seconds in our house!! :EasterBun

Hope Cwta is less snuffly today and that LW's portion doesn't turn into something too nasty!

Kassandra wrote:

BZ, NO THEY WON'T DRY!!! OH drives me insane with that :mad: Why can't he just do it properly!!
:rotfl:

I have a thing about pegs too. Yes, you heard me right....pegs!
I wasn't even aware of it until a friend pointed it out. I have to have matching pegs on each item and the colour has to (as closely as possible) match the item. She pointed it out after I started re-arranging her washing line :rotfl: No-one is allowed to pack or unpack my shopping either. We get to the checkout and OH will say (rather sheepishly) "am I allowed to help" and I just growl at him like a wolf protecting her young I'm such a freak!!!

Oops looks like we're all [strike]freaks[/strike] control freaks then eh? lol :rotfl:
I don't do the washing peg thing, but if there's a pack of crayons or pens or anything like that then they have to go in colour order - rainbow or aestheticly pleasing to me I used to be like that about the shopping too. Now I can be @rsed. Although it doesn't stop me moaning when things get squished I have taught OH the "right" way to do it though and he seems to be getting better OH only doesn't ask sheepishly if I'm in the wheelchair :rotfl:

Unity wrote:

Did you get the chance to look at the butterfly cake tins BTW?

:doh:Dammit I knew there was sometihng...!! Ooops!
Glad DD isn't stealing my thunder...I need it all! My sister nearly stole a hunk of it by saying she was gonna get married at the same time, in Israel! She still reckons they're getting married but that they'll end up planning it last minute, and with her anything could happen! :rolleyes:
I'm with you on the cost thing. I've done the table confetti myself, the invites and order of services will be done by us, I think the centrepieces will too, friends are doing music, flowers, photography, possibly videography, cake, my BIL is marrying us...in fact I think the only thing we've not skimped on is the rings! (and maybe the dress...but if parents pay it doesn't count ) I really need to get a shift on and order my wedding ring to be made actually. We got the engagement ring from a not very MSE De Beers (in Harrods no less ) and it's got a curve on the band so the wedding ring needs one too....:rolleyes:
Speaking of wedding websites did I show you mine? And of course I don't mind you picking my brains! You just might have to set up a search&rescue first
P.s. You've no idea how many times we've nearly cancelled everything and eloped! :rolleyes:

LW I'm exactly the same, with both leaving things in set places and with joining socks on the maiden/line, lol. I have brightly coloured/patterned/character socks (no shame, I don't care ) so it's not like it's hard to work out which goes with which! His annoy me cos they all look the same...yet aren't. Grrr.

bigzippy

G'day Elliot, sounds like you need a new doc if he's not supportive? You definitely seem to have enough symptoms to warrant some time from a medical professional, so don't go in thinking that you're wasting his time - go in thinking that he's being paid money to help YOU.

ElliotReid wrote: »

Am I on a highway to nothing or do I qualify to join you?!

What do we think gals? :cool:

Course you can! lol.

somebody_else

bigzippy wrote: »

I don't think you give us the wrong impression...I just think you do more than perhaps you realise.

Double ditto with knobs on!

bigzippy wrote: »

LW I'm exactly the same, with both leaving things in set places and with joining socks on the maiden/line, lol. I have brightly coloured/patterned/character socks (no shame, I don't care ) so it's not like it's hard to work out which goes with which! His annoy me cos they all look the same...yet aren't. Grrr.

I make life simpler than that - umpteen pairs the same colour and design. That way any 2 socks make a pair, but I do always pair up my socks when they come out of the machine. It makes life easier.

Oh, regarding the frogs spawn - I didn't do anything brave. I used an old dustpan and a bit of card - untouched by human hands.