MSE Pregnancy Club V

shellsuit

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Right I've tried to remember who to answer but I can't concentrate so I hope u don't need an answer from me

Shell I wouldn't buy a dress without having tried it on, I saw lots of dresses I thought where gorgeous but i hated when I put them on, could you find the style in a shop and try it on before the auction ends? (if so try it and buy it:D)
My dress (cost £30 :cool:) and only needed taking up a teeny bit which cost me £15, the woman who did it works for a wedding dress shop nearby but also does general alterations etc from home, she said a dress that needed altering all over would cost around £50 - 150 depending on how "fancy" it was IYKWIM

I'm gonna wait

Although it's soooo tempting to get it, I've got allsorts on my mind at the moment which I want doing yesterday (wedding plans/decorating hallway/new hallway carpet/new turf in garden etc etc), so it'll have to be one thing at a time otherwise I'll end up going nuts lol xx

tarajayne

s-m, I had awful headaches. Only occasional now thank goodness. Caffiene helped, actually worked better than paracetamol. Hope your feeling better soon. X

Do all you ladies forgive your OH's so quickly as glamazon, I sometimes find it really hard, other times it's like I almost expect him to behave in such a way so I don't feel angry just sad and let down. They think so differently to us.

searching_me

cheers tara ... i tend to just give it time and we both talk about something else then go back to that subject when were not so up in arms plus OH as this thing of if i get to a certain level of loudness he just switches off which does annoy me but its my warning sign that we're both going over the top x

tarajayne

What about when he's done something really upsetting and just shruggs it off. Don't know what I expect him to do, maybe drop down in front of me and beg my forgiveness. Just sometimes I let him get away with behaving badly and I wonder at what point does it become the norm. Do all women just eventually give up or do we have to be eternal naggers?

Sami_Bee

Tara I mostly ignore hubby and rant on here about him until I'm feeling calm again, I can never win an argument with him we both get really angry and one or both of us throws something at the other and I burst into tears! all very un-grown up and pointless so I try to avoid them as much as possible. I also think its best to just tell people that xyz really annoys you, otherwise you end up stewing over something and explode and look silly because its something trivial

searching_me

tara i tend to sit with him once with both in a calm mood and explain to him how he made me feel and why i got so angry ... yes he does shrug it off when were in the middle of an up raw but i let him know im not happy and we both do our own thing to calm down abit ... i think its finding common ground and making him see why it blew up not easy i know its took us years of practise but believe me with the amount of poop me and OH been through together you get the hang of it... either that or shoot him and find a replacement x

tiamai_d

NHS Ayrshire and Arran give us a 12 week booking scan and a 20 week anomoly scan. No idea what a nuchal fold scan is...

Reminds me I still haven't got my booking appointment through yet. I am 11 weeks on Monday for heavens sake! :mad: Will phone mw thursday if haven't heard anything.

Got homework to do and need to iron clothes for tommorrow but I feel sooo tired!

Glamazon you have my sympathy, DH has been an !!!! today today. I had to go as far as emotional blackmail when he refused to carry the wet washing to the TD (there was 2 loads in it so quite heavy to lug upstairs), so I said 'oh fine I will take it myself and if I have a mc I won't blame you at all!'. Not a nice thing to say but he had just been pushing and pushing and I haven't been getting any of the special treatment we are supposed to get when pregnant because of the situation with the pregnancy, he doesn't want to think about it cos he gets stressed about it... Just have to remind him every now and again that it's tough luck, I am pregnant and he should be helping me, not for the baby but because I will be the one left with a sore back!

Oh that turned into a rant!

Sami_Bee

tarajayne wrote: »

What about when he's done something really upsetting and just shruggs it off. Don't know what I expect him to do, maybe drop down in front of me and beg my forgiveness. Just sometimes I let him get away with behaving badly and I wonder at what point does it become the norm. Do all women just eventually give up or do we have to be eternal naggers?

I would tell him as calmly as possible that you need more than a shrug.
My hubby's idea of saying sorry is a hug with a bum squeeze thrown in and when he does that I stay stiff and say "that's not good enough, you've really hurt my feelings" he usually then pampers me for oooh about 10mins :rolleyes:
but that usually enough to restore status quo

Sami_Bee

tiamai_d wrote: »

NHS Ayrshire and Arran give us a 12 week booking scan and a 20 week anomoly scan. No idea what a nuchal fold scan is...

Reminds me I still haven't got my booking appointment through yet. I am 11 weeks on Monday for heavens sake! :mad: Will phone mw thursday if haven't heard anything.
...
Oh that turned into a rant!

The nuchal fold is done at the 12wk scan, it measures the fluid in some fold in the neck I think? Its an early (but ropey) indicator of downs - I don't know much about it as I refuse to have tests like that.

Have you had ur scan app through? I can't remember, if u haven't I'd start calling on monday you should be a high priority for them considering your previous pregnancies - In fact they should be treating you like royalty!!

tarajayne

Think I've been let down so much in the past which is why I dwell on it. Neither my mum or dad have ever been there for me so I'm not great with relationships. Maybe I expect too much.

On my birthday he bought me some perfume, later he realised it was cheaper online so a couple of weeks after my birthday when I went to open the box I realised it was gone. When asked he said he had taken it back to boots but if I still wanted it I could order it online and he would give me his card. Well, I just did it. Last night I asked where the dvds were that he bought me for xmas as I'm still off work and thought I'd make use of them. I admit I wasn't over the moon 'cos I'm not a dvd person but he said if I wasn't happy he would return them and I said no I would watch them. Last night he admitted that he returned them a couple of weeks ago, also he kept the £50+ they cost. I'm fuming, he didn't open his ipod for quite a while after xmas but I wouldn't have taken it from the bedroom and returned it. He's so tight, they were all I got apart from a £5 cd I handed him in Morrisons and asked him to buy me. I don't feel special, tiamai you have my sympathies.