MSE Pregnancy Club V

feelinggood_2

Talking of classes and labour. Would it be a problem to only have OH there when I give birth, even if he hasn't been to any classes or read anything about labour? Can't really think of an alternative really, Mum lives pretty far away. Brother and SIL are near, but neither have had babies!

mollythewestie

(((((BIG HUGS))))) To honeypop, tarajayne and Redmel and anyone else who needs them at the mo.

redmel1621

Thanks Tiamai, I am so distressed about the whole thing, I can't stop crying and can't eat. I just feel sick and worried and upset, It has also made me realise I can't always be the strong person I think I am. All this, and I have done nothing wrong, it is all the council's mistakes anyway...I am just being made out to be a criminal!!!!!!!

AF - I have half packed a bag, although I am hoping for a home-birth, I thought I would get organised.....It is referred to as the 'birth' bag or the 'just in case' bag. I haven't got much in it though. Nappies, vest, hat, sleepsuit and snowsuit. for baby. A towel, 2 nighties and some maternity pads for me.....I don't really think I need much else in it. I hope I don't go one day over and have this baby on your due date.........although i'm not really superstitious:)

Mel x

redmel1621

feelinggood wrote: »

Talking of classes and labour. Would it be a problem to only have OH there when I give birth, even if he hasn't been to any classes or read anything about labour? Can't really think of an alternative really, Mum lives pretty far away. Brother and SIL are near, but neither have had babies!

Of course it will be fine....dh was there for our first and he hadn't taken the slightest bit of interest the whole way through the pregnancy. He wasn't much better clued up at the second either.....but he was there, that is the main thing.:)

Mel x

My_Fathers_Daughter

Not exactly 'medical' evidence, but a bit of info on the babycentre website.

Thanks honeypop.

I am a bit scornful of the generalised carp that constitutes the guidelines for pregnancy to be honest (call me a cynic) - those kind of answers (based on nothing!) annoy me - which is good as my BP was low!!

Please don't think for a second that is a criticism of you, or of anyone who follows the 'rules' - I just get pee'd off with being told to do stuff (or not do stuff) without any real reason other than it 'might' be a problem

I'm a rebel really - where's Sami to be my rebel buddy???


Hope you are feeling a bit better.

angelfairy

feelinggood wrote: »

Talking of classes and labour. Would it be a problem to only have OH there when I give birth, even if he hasn't been to any classes or read anything about labour? Can't really think of an alternative really, Mum lives pretty far away. Brother and SIL are near, but neither have had babies!

feely - i am just having hubby with me (but he is coming to the class with me -unless that changes).

i think you are entitled to have whoever you want aren't you?

honeypop

angelfairy wrote: »

honeypop - ((big hugs)) to you

i can't offer any advice becuase as you say you researched your finances so much, that i am sure you have looked at the entitledto website to calculated tax credits/child benefit etc.

Thanks you two for the hugs, never had virtual hugs on a forum before, but then I always thought my problems were too trivial to post about, this rant had to come out though before I sent the whole office running with my anger lol!

I've checked out the site to see what we'd get but it doesn't seem to make much of a difference due to our earnings. I will see about perhaps getting a little job on a weekend day too, but not sure how viable this is. Daren't ask DH to get a weekend job as he does 60 hrs Mon-Fri, I don't think he'd be that receptive to the idea!

I feel a bit calmer, I do tell myself not to stress over things you can't change.

redmel1621

Thanks for the hugs mollythewestie:) - they are very needed at the moment:(

Mel x

Nicki

I've just booked my scan! It's for the week after next, at which point I think I will be 6+4 (although there is an outside chance that it might in fact be 10+4 as my December period only lasted a day and was very light). Whichever, I'm hoping that there will be something to see by that time, and I'm able to hold on to the bean til then. At least if I am 9 rather than 5 now, I could feel better about being the size of a small horse!

I'm getting so excited.

feelinggood_2

angelfairy wrote: »

feely - i am just having hubby with me (but he is coming to the class with me -unless that changes).

i think you are entitled to have whoever you want aren't you?

I'm just worried about things going wrong and him not having a clue! I'm hoping that if I don't push the classes on him, he'll decide to come. He is giving me a lift there, so hopefully he'll want to come in. Otherwise I'm going to be a young Mum on my own in a class of very posh ladies with thier husbands! Best get my 'I am married you know' sign out.