Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

seeya23

jennihen wrote: »

Hi again - I 've been on the phone to my ex MIL - 10 years on and I'm the best thing since sliced bread!! this is from the woman who said I'd die a horrible death (it was the relish she said it with that frightened me!) Still she is grandma to my bubs and I actually feel sorry for her - she has had a really tough life. A bad start and a bad marriage then loisng a child which was wrapped in newspaper and left on her bed resulted in her having CNS depressio at Knowle hospital - yep that was how they treated depression back then. The saddest bit is that she hasn't learnt any compassion or empathy in her life. The only way I cope with any of the carp is to treat it as a learning experince.
back to you - 4 kids - and you still love your wife - not easy is it?
You said your CPN is calling tomorrow - phone or in person? How do you relate to him/her?

no she calling me up the phone i get on well with her had ECT in 1994 did not work at all

jennihen

Ect was the one of the most barbaric forms of torture we could inflict on the mentally ill - thankfully times are changing. Proven now but no help back then.
!!!! 1994 was only 15 years ago!
Glad you get on well with CPN - its an important relationship. What about your wife - how much do you two get to talk?

LadyMorticia

Unity wrote: »

I think the best thing you can do is to get as much information as you can from the net and take it along with you next time you see your doctor and if there are any specialists in your area - ask for a referral. When I was dxd I think a lot of it had to do with the rheumatologist's wife suffering from it. He'd seen her problems and recognised them in others.

That's a good idea! Because of my mental health issues, doctors etc tend to blame any physical symptoms I have on them.:rolleyes: It really ticks me off!

I don't know if there are any specialists here, but when I see the doctor I'll ask.

Don't get anxious about being alone in the house, they won't be very long - try and look at it as having some 'Me Time'. I suppose I'm lucky in one way with being an only child as I grew up very self-reliant - but the sacrifice was not having other kids to play with:(. Gawd knows why they always gave me board games at Christmas :rolleyes:.

I'm an only child too but I think because I was rejected and neglected, that I somehow became dependent on anyone who showed me niceness? That's how my CPN described it anyway.

I've tried all sorts of things over the years to help, including MSM, although I never got to try Guaifenisen. I take a multi-vit and multi-mineral tablet every day and Gingko Biloba plus Cod Liver Oil and Magnesium with Calcium and also B complex. I know my diet is not as good as it should be - due to me really not fancying food - so I don't think the supplements can hurt and they may well help.

I take a multi vitamin as I'm not very good with food either - much to everyone's annoyance but old habits and feelings die hard I guess.:o

If your doc thinks you're a hypochondriac - change him/her. You may well be able to find someone on another panel who has an interest in ME/Fibro, then you'll be laughing .

Good luck

I haven't been a patient at this surgery long so I'm still feeling my feet with which doctor suits my needs best. :rotfl:

LadyMorticia

ScotWill wrote: »

Hi all. New to MSE and this thread caught my eye. It always gives me hope when I see a forum where people are supporting each other so well! I've struggled with depression myself over the years, and really hope things improve soon for those of you who are finding it especially tough at the moment, particularly sandy71, crazy_girl and seeya23 - wishing for better times ahead for you. And LadyMorticia, I agree with Unity that you should get it checked out; after all, the doctor should be there to provide a service to you and make a professional assessment, not to judge you.

Welcome to MSE Scot.

I agree. We get judged far too much in society anyway, let alone a doctor who is supposed to help doing it too.

LadyMorticia

jennihen wrote: »

LadyM - ask your DR outright if he can recommend another GP who has more experience with ME and autoimmune conditions because you are not prepared to carry on feeling the way you are feeling. Practise saying it in the mirror until you feel confident - I had to!!!

That's also a good idea! I struggle a lot with confidence so I think the mirror thing will help.


[QUOTEOn the plus side - I was sofa-ridden Monday but back at work today and really felt I earned my wage. Cooked a good tea and got some jobs done around the house. Gonna wrap some chrimbo gifts tonight but planning an early night -Need to pace myself - got a lovely day to look forward to on saturday and want to enjoy it not endure it.
Love to all
JH x[/QUOTE]

Hope you have a good nights sleep and enjoy Saturday.

jennihen

Bless you LadyM and thankyou. Its a long and painful story within our family that makes saturday all the more beautiful and poignant. One day I will share all but for now I will say thankyou for your kind thoughts. I've never met such lovely people in my life as I have on this thread. xxxxx

LadyMorticia

jennihen wrote: »

Bless you LadyM and thankyou. Its a long and painful story within our family that makes saturday all the more beautiful and poignant. One day I will share all but for now I will say thankyou for your kind thoughts. I've never met such lovely people in my life as I have on this thread. xxxxx

I agree. Everyone on this thread have been so lovely and welcoming. It's nice that I can post here in the comfort knowing that I'm not alone and that people do understand and empathise.

HellsGranny

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Has anyone here ever been to their GP with a list of symptoms and they just have that look in their eye of not believing you?

Hi Lady M,
I can agree with this one. After several years of feeling down, excessively tired. painful muscles, etc. I researched on the 'Net, printed off a load of stuff about Fibro and CFS. ttok it to my GP who put me on anti-inflammatories and Co Dydramol. Four years on, going back to see another GP recently, I was told I had no diagnosis! !!!!!! am I being treated for?

My condition (whatever it is), is progressing to the point where I can no longer have a bath, in case of falling, has to be a sit down shower, Walk very slowly with a stick, and am in constant pain with joints and soft tissue pain. I'm 61 and feel 91! I hardly dare leave the house alone.

Somebody, but not my GP, suggersted I should be applying for DLA, but can you do that without a diagnosis?

Cheers, HG

seeya23

still no call off cpn just try to phone her and she out it like i ve got no way to turn at the mo i dont like feeling the way i do just wish it would all stop

darknesshayz

Argh!!!! I need to let steam off.......

I cant talk to my mum cause it ends up in an arguement (take the DLA for example, she thinks I dont care, cause I am not thinking about it 24/7 - like she is- to be honest if I thoguht about it 24/7 I'd really go crazy), also if I tell her how I feel, it makes an argument etc.... and I am finding it hard to try and just open up to her now, as I'd rather just shut up... As much as I love my mum, I just find it difficult at times!

I told her about my self harm, and she hasnt done anything to stop me doing it, unless she doesnt know how to cope with me doing it, or going through a relaspe, I just find that no one in my house cares, I just dunno what to do.

I am being refered to two places that offer consoling, I sometimes dont know what I think, sometimes I feel lost, alone, afraid.... I even feel this when I take my medication, I have explained to the doctor, and she wants to take me off them, but I dont want them taken away from me (my medication).....

I am making myself sound like one crazy person, maybe thats what I am, a crazy, useless person...... Hearing voices in head doesnt help me, thats why I need to listen to my music nearly all the time to block out the voices..... When I am on Facebook/Twitter, I try and ''pretend'' to be happy, cause I am worried what people think!

Goes back into darkness, seeing a light apparing, but its taking ages to get there!